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The 5 Primary Sources of Frustration and Simple Ways to Deal with Them

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Merriam Webster defines frustration as ‘a feeling of annoyance or anger.’

Frustration has led to suicide, chronic depression, drug addiction, and many other mental illnesses. For this reason, most people are trying to end their frustrations. However, their efforts are futile because they try to eliminate this emotion by dealing with its symptoms instead of the root causes.

People will successfully treat frustration only if they know its primary causes.

I believe the following 5 factors are the main sources of frustration, and dealing with them can help eliminate this negative emotion.

Here are they:

Frustration is caused by –

  1. Failing to Achieve our Goals/Dreams.

Most of us are frustrated because we are not where we expected to be. We thought we would achieve some of our biggest goals when we reach a certain age. However, when we reached that age, we realized that we are far away from accomplishing our dreams/goals.

Advice

Failing to achieve your goals doesn’t imply that you will never achieve them. Therefore, don’t get frustrated, and don’t give up. Instead, keep working and believing, and you might end up getting more than what you wanted. The universe works in a strange but awesome way. It might prevent you from getting whatever you want despite working hard so that you work harder and get more than enough.

  1. Failing to Accept That Some Things Are Beyond Our Control

Epictetus once said, ‘Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle: some things are within our control and others are not.’ Most of us get frustrated because we try to control the uncontrollable. We try to control politics, aging, the future, the weather, and many other uncontrollable factors, and we get angry when we realize that we can’t control them.

Advice

Realize that frustration won’t fix anything and that it’s almost impossible for an individual who knows the difference between the controllable and uncontrollable to be frustrated.

  1. Failure to Accept that Life is Full of Disappointments

We get frustrated by life’s disappointments because we don’t embrace the fact that disappointments are part of life, and that everyone experiences them. Although the sizes of our disappointments differ, all of us experience them, and some get frustrated while others don’t because they understand that disappointments are inevitable, but misery is optional.

Advice

Prepare yourself mentally for disappointments by knowing that they are natural and unavoidable. Also, know that you have the power to overcome disappointment. Lastly, realize that those who prepare for disappointment seldom get frustrated.

  1. Not Accepting yourself

Today, many people are frustrated because they hate their bodies, looks, their financial status, and many other factors about themselves.

Advice

Learn to focus on the positive side of your life, and know that you can change everything about yourself if you commit to making a change.

  1. Not Accepting People as They Are.

Another main source of frustration is that we fail to accept that not everybody will be the way we want them to be. To enjoy life, we have to be who we are. Therefore, we have to let people be who they want to be. You become frustrated if you try to force people to behave the way you want them to behave because they will never do so. They might try, but they will eventually fail because everybody wants to be him/herself.

Advice

Learn to accept people as they are.

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Why Ego is the Main Source of Anger and Envy (Ego Part 2)

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After realizing that the ego impedes personal growth, I decided to study and contemplate about it. It then dawned on me that the ego is our enemy because it’s the primary source of anger and envy.

The ego as I defined in the article, The Era of the Ego and the Destruction of Intuition, is a feeling of self-importance. The ego makes you believe you are more important than other members of the society and, therefore, you must be heard, respected, admired, and followed. It makes you believe that you are always right and everybody else is wrong.

The ego can result in you being angered by petty issues. For instance, it can make you outraged by any action or word that appears to disrespect you. Insults (even from kids), and petty jokes will make you angry if you are egoistic. You’ll even get mad when people ignore you or argue with you because the ego believes you deserve admiration and no one must argue against your beliefs because you are always right.

Anger arises when you misinterpret things. The ego will thus make you prone to anger since it’s the King of misinterpretation. For instance, if an individual accidentally steps on your foot, the ego will believe it was intentional hence making you angry.

Besides causing anger, the ego also causes envy. You become envious when you feel resentful when other people progress, succeed, or attain something you don’t have.

The ego causes envy because it hates to see others appear more important than you. If your neighbor succeeds or buys something you believe makes her more important than you, the ego feels bad because your neighbor’s progress makes it feel inferior or less important. The ego always wants you to be ahead of everybody so that you become the most important person. It’s hurt when others progress faster than you and appear more important hence making you feel envious.

For this reason, the next time you feel angry or envious, realize that it’s the ego causing these feelings. Then separate yourself from the ego and know that it’s an illusion since it isn’t your true self. Your true self is an extension of Infinite Intelligence/Cosmic Consciousness, and it never gets angry because it interprets everything positively. Moreover, it’s never envious because it understands that we are all connected and we must rejoice in others’ success.

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6 Unique Ways to Deal with Anxiety

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I used to suffer from chronic anxiety because I worried about everything. Luckily, I discovered how to eradicate this gnawing feeling.

Anxiety is mainly defined as ‘feelings of tension or worry about a future outcome.’ Many people today are anxious about everything. In the article, ‘The Era of Anxiety and the Destruction of Intuition,’ I described the factors that make modern society anxious.

Anyway, anxiety has many side-effects. It causes sleep problems, digestive disorders, and prevents us from having a clear mind. For this reason, you must strive to get rid of anxious thoughts whenever they attack you.

Here are 6 ways you can deal with anxious thoughts:

1.Meditate on Infinite Intelligence

Think about the power that created the universe. Think about its greatness and willingness to support life. Realize that it exists in all life forms including you, and therefore, you have nothing to worry about if the power that created the universe exists within you.

2.Watch Nature Documentaries

Watching nature documentaries makes you shift from worrying, to thinking about the wonders of the universe. They are my best treatment for anxiety.

Research reveals that they eradicate anxious thoughts because they increase positive emotions. Besides this, they evoke feelings of awe which studies reveal are a good treatment for anxiety

3.Sing a Song of Praise

I started singing songs of praise to Infinite Intelligence/God after realizing that they eradicate anxiety. Anxiety mainly attacks you when you focus too much on yourself. The songs of praise thus eliminate anxiety as they make you focus on Infinite Intelligence.

N/B – I used to be against songs of praise because I believed there is no need to praise God. However, I embraced them after realizing that God has to be praised. If we praise our friends, families, and strangers for their accomplishments, why can’t we praise God for what ‘he’ has done?

“Were I a nightingale, I would act the part of a nightingale; were I a swan, the part of a swan, but since I am a reasonable creature, it is my duty to praise God.”Epictetus, Stoic Philosopher.

4.Realize that You Can Die At Any Moment

Knowing this fact about death enables you to realize that you might be worrying about a future that might arrive when you are dead. It makes you live in the moment and stop worrying about an unguaranteed future.

5.Realize That Anxiety is Bad for You

Know that anxiety is bad for you as it causes increased blood pressure, breathing problems, digestive disorders, and erectile dysfunction (for men). It also reduces productivity, and destroys your intuitive abilities.

Being conscious of the side effects of anxiety will enable you to quickly recognize and ignore anxious thoughts hence preventing you from succumbing to anxiety.

6..Try Medical Marijuana

I used to be against marijuana, but I adopted a positive attitude towards it after realizing that most ancient cultures involved it in their religious practices. Ancient cultures realized its importance on our mental health.

Today, studies have realized that marijuana temporarily eliminates anxious thoughts as it makes individuals feel calm. It also relieves the symptoms of anxiety by making individuals think everything is okay.

N/B – However, you must only use marijuana when free because it will reduce your productivity.

Apart from the above methods, I believe there are many other ways to deal with anxious thoughts. You are free to mention them in the comment box below:

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