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The 5 Primary Sources of Frustration and Simple Ways to Deal with Them

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Frustration has led to suicide, chronic depression, drug addiction, and many other mental illnesses. For this reason, most people are trying to end their frustrations. However, their efforts are futile because they try to eliminate frustration by dealing with its symptoms instead of the root causes.

People will successfully treat frustration only if they know its primary causes.

I believe the following 5 factors are the main sources of frustration, and dealing with them can help eliminate it.

Here are they:

Frustration is caused by –

  • Failing to Achieve our Goals/Dreams.

Most of us are frustrated because we are not where we expected to be. We thought we would achieve our biggest goals when we reach a certain age. However, when we reached that age, we realized that we are still far from accomplishing our dreams/goals.

Advice

Failing to achieve your goals doesn’t imply that you’ll never achieve them. Therefore, don’t get frustrated, and don’t give up. Instead, keep working and believing, and you might end up getting more than what you wanted. The universe works in a strange but awesome way. It might prevent you from getting whatever you want despite working hard so that you work harder and get more than enough.

  • Failing to Accept That Some Things Are Beyond Our Control

Epictetus once said, ‘Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle: some things are within our control and others are not.’ Most of us get frustrated because we try to control the uncontrollable. We try to control politics, aging, the future, the weather, and many other uncontrollable factors, and we get angry when we realize that we can’t control them.

Advice

Realize that frustration won’t fix anything and that it’s impossible for an individual who knows the difference between the controllable and uncontrollable to get frustrated.

  • Failure to Accept that Life is Full of Disappointments

We get frustrated by life’s disappointments because we don’t embrace the fact that disappointments are part of life, and everyone experiences them. Although the sizes of our disappointments differ, all of us experience them, and some get frustrated while others don’t because they understand that disappointments are inevitable, but misery is optional.

Advice

Prepare yourself mentally for disappointments by knowing that they are natural and unavoidable. Also, know that you have the power to overcome disappointment. Lastly, realize that those who prepare for disappointment seldom get frustrated.

  • Not Accepting yourself

Today, many people are frustrated because they hate their bodies, looks, their financial status, and many other factors about themselves.

Advice

Learn to focus on the positive side of your life, and know that you can change everything about yourself if you commit to change.

  • Not Accepting People as They Are.

Another main source of frustration is that we fail to accept that not everybody will be the way we want them to be. To enjoy life, we have to be who we are. Therefore, we have to let people be who they want to be. You become frustrated when you force people to behave the way you want them to behave because they’ll never do so. They might try, but they will eventually fail because everybody wants to be him/herself.

Advice

Learn to accept people as they are.

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How We’ve Let God Down

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How We've Let God Down

God created us with the ability to self-reflect. We are the only creatures that can meditate on the infinite miracles that enable us to thrive on this planet.

However, instead of doing that, we constantly worry and stress over non-sense. We create a superficial reality that continuously stresses us for no reason.

As well, we never pause and appreciate the magical present moment and the mysteries of the universe because we are always anxious about useless things. We are addicted to worrying about our social status, and we love spending our time comparing ourselves to others.

Besides, we never meditate on the fact that we are magnificent beings that carry the spirit of God within us, and we seldom take time to smell flowers, watch the sun, the birds, and do other things that remind us of the existence of a magnificent spirit whose primary duty is to ensure that all creatures thrive on planet earth. In other words, most of us have lost the sense of wonder since we never look at God’s creation in awe and take time to appreciate it.

Moreover, we’ve let ourselves become slaves of a system created by tyrants whose only aim is to gain by overexploiting us. Instead of trying to get out of this system by employing ourselves and striving for enlightenment, we’ve let the tyrants govern our minds.

Besides, instead of fighting for the survival of planet earth, we’ve let these tyrants destroy the planet’s natural resources. Our forests are dying, many animals are becoming extinct, our air and water are getting polluted, but we don’t care because we are busy chasing paper, forgetting that money is useless without air, water, and other natural resources.

We’ve also descended into the egoic-consciousness, which makes us perceive ourselves as separate individuals whose main duty is to strive to be richer than others. For this reason, instead of loving each other unconditionally, we continuously judge each other and allow thoughts of envy, malice, and hate to dwell in our minds.

On top of that, we’ve forgotten that human beings are greater than the gods (spiritual entities, e.g angels, elementals, ghosts, etc) because we can attain both the human and god-consciousness. The gods can only attain the God-consciousness since attaining human consciousness is impossible to them.  However, we can transcend our human-consciousness by ascending to God-consciousness through spiritual growth, but we are unaware of this blessing because we’ve ignored the spiritual teachings handed down to us by the ancient masters.

Anyway, I don’t think God created us to live this way. I believe the factors that modern society promotes are responsible for this lifestyle that disappoints our Creator. We must thus rise above the modern illusory perception of life and strive to live the way we were designed to live because if we do so, we’ll live a life that delights our Lord God the Creator.

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Modern Society and the Illusion of a Perfect Life

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Modern Society and the Illusion of a Perfect Life

‘Man’s relentless pursuit of perfection in its countless different guises is the greatest cause of unhappiness in the world. Man mostly postpones his pleasures in life, suspends it until such time as he has the perfect career, the perfect home, or the perfect bank balance.’ – Theun Mares, Return of the Warriors

The media has overly promoted the illusion of a perfect life since it portrays celebrities as individuals with beautiful spouses, families, cars, and houses. As well, most social media users only post the good part of their lives hence making us believe in the illusion of a perfect life.

This illusion has resulted in us postponing happiness since we believe we’ll only be happy when we get a perfect relationship, body, house, job, etc. It makes us fail to appreciate our possessions and relationships because we feel they aren’t perfect. In other words, this illusion results in us failing to appreciate the gift of life as it makes us stress over the imperfect parts of our lives.

Moreover, the illusion of a perfect life makes us feel shameful when facing difficulties hence resulting in us hiding our difficulties. For this reason, we avoid asking for support during difficulties, and we try to deal with them alone hence intensifying their mental side-effects.

As well, the idea of a perfect life has intensified the fear of failure within us because it leads to the belief that failure is a sign of imperfection. We thus avoid chasing our dreams or pursuing anything that can lead to failure because we don’t want to be associated with failure.

Furthermore, believing in the possibility of a perfect life has led to feelings of inadequacy. We feel we aren’t enough, and we believe we are not important because we don’t have a perfect life.

Little do we know that no one lives a perfect life since everybody experiences hardships and tragedies. Besides, we are unaware that rich people, celebrities, and many other people we believe are living a perfect life usually have several aspects of their lives that are imperfect. Some of these folks have committed suicide because they still felt their life was imperfect despite achieving all their goals.

For this reason, I believe anybody who doesn’t find his life perfect today, will never find it perfect in the future, no matter what she achieves because there will always be a segment of her life that will be imperfect. I, therefore, think we should start appreciating our lives and realize that life is perfect the way it is.

Also, we should know that the imperfect parts of our lives are important because they stimulate personal development, and we must awaken to the fact that most of us will never see the need for working hard or improving our lives if everything was perfect.

Lastly, we should discard the illusion of perfection and realize that everything in our life, whether perfect or not, presents an opportunity for progress.

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