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The 5 Primary Sources of Frustration and Simple Ways to Deal with Them

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Today, statistics reveal that over 50 percent of the world’s population is frustrated: people are angry over nothing. We have embraced frustration despite the fact that it has proved dangerous both to us and those around us. Frustration has led to suicide, chronic depression, drug addiction, and many other mental illnesses. For this reason, some people have tried all ways to end their frustrations but their efforts are futile because they try to eliminate this emotion by dealing with its symptoms instead of the root causes.

People, will, therefore, manage to successfully treat frustration only if they know the main factors that cause it.

I believe that the following 5 factors are the main sources of frustration, and dealing with them can help eliminate this negative emotion.

Here are they: –

Frustration is caused by –

  1. Failing to Achieve our Goals/Dreams.

Most of us are frustrated because we are not where we expected to be. We thought that we would achieve some of our biggest dreams when we reach a certain age. However, when we reached that age, we realized that we have not yet accomplished even half of our dreams/goals.

Advice

It’s never too late to turn your dreams into reality.

  1. Failing to Accept That Some Things Are Beyond Our Control

Many people become frustrated because they do not acknowledge the fact that many things that happen to them are beyond their control. For instance, some people, especially women, get frustrated when they fail to accept that growing old is natural.

Advice

It is almost impossible for an individual who accepts the uncontrollable things in life to be frustrated. Besides this, understand that frustration won’t fix anything, instead, it makes things worse. Also, realize the difference between the things you can control, and those that you can’t.

  1. Failure to Accept that Life is Full of Disappointments

We often get frustrated by life’s disappointments because we fail to embrace the fact that life is a series of difficulties, failures, or problems. Failing to accept the fact that disappointments are part of life prevents us from preparing for them hence allowing them to frustrate us.

Advice

Prepare yourself mentally for disappointments by knowing that they are natural, unavoidable, and they also lead to growth. Also, know that you have the power to overcome any disappointments. Lastly, realize that those who prepare themselves for disappointments seldom get frustrated.

  1. Not Accepting yourself

Today, many people are frustrated because they hate their bodies, looks, their financial status, and many other factors about themselves.

Advice

Always learn to focus on the positive side of your life, and know that you can change everything about yourself if you are willing to commit yourself to making a change.

  1. Not Accepting People as They Are.

Another main source of frustration is that we fail to accept the fact that not everybody will be the way we want them to be. To enjoy life, we have to be who we are. Therefore, we have to let people be who they want to be. You become frustrated if you try to force people to behave the way you want them to behave because they will never do so. They might try, but they will eventually fail because everybody always wants to be him/herself.

Advice

Learn to accept people as they are, and understand that we are all different people with different behaviors, characters, and a different way of thinking.

Thank You for Reading. Have A Great Day.

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4 Main Challenges Dream Chasers Face

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It recently dawned on me that the few individuals who have the courage to chase their dreams often give up because of the challenges they face on the journey.

As a dream chaser, I have faced both small and large obstacles that made me realize how easy it is to give up on dream chasing. These hurdles made me realize that people who dreamt big and now live their dreams truly deserve them because they overcame the following TOP 4 CHALLENGES DREAM CHASERS face.

  1. Things Not Going As Expected

One major challenge I realized dream chasers face, is that things seldom go as they anticipated. When they start chasing their dreams, dream chasers often believe that everything will go as planned. However, during the journey, they realize that almost nothing goes according to their plans. Unexpected obstacles pop-up and their dreams take long to come true.

My research on people who live their dreams made me realize that these individuals also experienced this phenomenon. Most of them reveal that things never went their way for some time, but eventually, they got more than what they expected because they kept pushing themselves harder.

  1. The Lack of Money

Almost every dream requires capital for it to come to true. However, not every dreamer has the capital to actualize their dream. For this reason, many individuals are often forced to continuously borrow money from family and friends, and take odd jobs for them to fund their dreams.

  1. The Need to Let Go Anyone That Doesn’t Support Their Dreams

When they start chasing their dreams, many individuals often realize that they have to keep distance from people who don’t believe in achieving dreams.

Personally, I realized that I had to avoid the people – including friends and relatives – who don’t believe I will achieve my dreams because they always infect me with negative energy, and doubts that make me consider giving up. They usually demoralize me, and I always have to force myself to work whenever I associate with them. For this reason, I realized that I have to avoid them completely because chasing and achieving dreams requires positive energy.

Avoiding close friends and relatives for the sake of my dreams is very challenging, and initially, I felt sorry for doing that. However, it dawned on me that it’s the right thing to do because I am living my life, not theirs.

  1. Time

Many dreams/projects require a large investment of time though they often take long before they start producing financial returns. Therefore, dreamers always have to work for someone for them to pay their bills hence resulting in them having a small amount of time to work on their dreams despite the fact that actualizing dreams requires lots of time. Furthermore, within that small amount of time they have, they still have to allocate time for friends, family, exercise, and rest.

Some dreamers end up ignoring family, friends, and a healthy lifestyle so that they find ample time to work on their projects.

Concluding Remarks

Therefore, if you are planning to chase your dreams, be mentally prepared to face the above challenges.

Also, realize that dreams don’t come true easily, and those who achieve them deserve them because they transcended the above hurdles.  The only motivating factor is that these individuals are normal individuals like you and me, and IF THEY DID IT, WE CAN ALSO DO IT.

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What Proves God is Good And Willing to Help You?

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N/B – I use the terms, ‘God,’ ‘his,’ and ‘him’ because they are the most common words used in reference to THE CREATOR. 

I started questioning God after realizing that many individuals are going through difficulties. However, I never questioned his existence because creation is enough evidence that God exists. I only questioned his goodness, and willingness to help and guide us.

Sometimes I wonder if God is really good, loving, and caring because nothing proves so. Or do you have proof that God is good and caring? Our prayers are seldom answered, life is unfair, and most of the time we get what we don’t want even after praying, and believing in God.

Does God really give us what we want? Does he really care for us? If so, why can’t he make life smooth for us?

When bad things happen, we are always told to stay calm because it’s God’s will. It seems God forces his will on us, and what he wants will happen whether we like it or not.

What if God is an evil spirit who doesn’t give a freak about us? What if he enjoys seeing us suffering? What if he’s not interested in helping us achieve our dreams?

Recently, I realized that we always work for whatever we want. Nothing is given for free by any power. If you want inner peace, work on it. If you want riches, work hard, and if you want a stable relationship, work for it. God will not give you these things if you pray without working hard for them. You cannot pray hard, sleep all day, and expect blessings. The surest way to get blessings is to work for them.

With this in mind, what role does God play in our lives? Maybe he does nothing because he’s neither good nor bad. Maybe he just created the world and left us to deal with it in whatever way we can. Maybe he never interferes with our daily deeds, and that’s why he seldom answers our prayers.

Maybe we are the gods, and we have the power to overcome hardships and get whatever we want. Or maybe he does nothing because he knows we are powerful and intelligent enough to pass the tests of life.

Anyway, until today, I have never discovered something that proves God is good and willing to help us. And for the people who claim God helped them, could God have helped you if you didn’t do anything? Maybe you just helped yourself.

Don’t misunderstand me. I believe in God, and I know there are great benefits to those who can align with his power.  For this reason, I just want to know ‘Him’ more. I think I’m doubtful because I just don’t know how to make ‘Him’ help and guide me, or I don’t know how to establish a connection with ‘Him’.

Despite my doubts, I trust that God might be a good God, and I know the problem is that I don’t know how to align with ‘Him’.

I, therefore, want you to help me realize how I can establish a connection with ‘Him’, and make ‘Him’ help and guide me towards a prosperous life. I want ‘Him’ to answer my prayers, and help me make a change in the world. I need to help many poor folks because living near a slum/ghetto has made me realize that some people really suffer. I must help them but I know I can’t without the help of a Higher Power. I, therefore, need God’s assistance, and guidance. But then, does God really help us? Is The Creator interested in guiding me?

Do you believe God is good and willing to help you? If you do, explain in the comment box below why you think God is good, and how he’s helped you.

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