Although Byways to Blessedness was written many years ago, the book is still useful today. In the book, James Allen provides advice that enables readers to live a wonderful life. He encourages readers to find happiness by avoiding negative states of mind as they lead to suffering. Also, he enlightens readers on the importance of difficulties and solitude.

There are many lessons James Allen provides in the book, but here are the lessons that I loved the most.

1. How You Begin Your Day Matters

How you begin your day matters because it determines how your day will be. Your day will be filled with joy if you begin it wisely and joyfully. However, you might have a bad day if you start it with a poor attitude. James Allen believes that you can have a wonderful day when you wake up early and have a walk in nature if possible. I support him, and I also believe that you can have a good day by beginning your day with gratitude and reading an inspirational quote.

2. How to be Great

If you want to be great, you must sacrifice pride because pride can prevent you from doing the things that will make you great. Besides this, you must be willing to dedicate all your mind and energy on one thing, and you must avoid focusing on the outcome.

3. The True Nature of Difficulty

According to James Allen, we must realize that difficulty exists in the mind, and this is why a difficult experience for a child might be easy to an adult.

James Allen also teaches that difficulty fosters growth and development because it forces us to exercise our intelligence and awaken our hidden powers.

4. The Negative Effects of Resentfulness

Resentfulness causes suffering because it prevents you from attaining true enlightenment. Moreover, it hardens your heart and results in you failing to attain the blessings that were meant for you.

Furthermore, it makes you suffer because it causes a troubled mind and makes you constantly remember the bad things some people did to you.

5. See No Evil And You’ll Free Yourself From Suffering and Sorrow

According to James Allen, you free yourself from suffering and sorrow when you stop judging people from your viewpoint of what’s right and wrong. When you realize that people have their personal viewpoints which make them do certain things and that everybody thinks that whatever he or she is doing is necessary for them.

6. The Secret to Joy

James Allen believes that it’s possible to find abiding joy while here on earth because you are responsible for creating either joy or sorrow in your life. He also believes that one can find joy through caring for others and being selfless because selfishness results in suffering. Besides this, he teaches that one can find joy by avoiding the attachment to things and loving everyone.

7. The Importance of Solitude

Solitude is necessary for your spiritual life as sleep is necessary for your body. Solitude is so important that lacking it can result in a spiritual break down. Solitude enables you to find the strength, wisdom, and knowledge needed to overcome life’s hardships. Also, it enables you to realize your true self and the hidden powers or possibilities within you.

In his book, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, Don Ruiz, provides wonderful pieces of advice that will help you find freedom. The book is enlightening, and all individuals in search of true happiness should read it.

Here are seven nuggets of wisdom I learned from the book.

1. We Always Domesticate Our Children

According to Don Ruiz, children are domesticated the same way animals are domesticated. We domesticate them by punishing them when they go against our rules and rewarding them when they obey us. Therefore, they grow up with a certain belief and behavioral system that is forced upon them.

2. Our Belief System Guides Our Thoughts And Actions

Each and every one of us has a set of beliefs that guide our thoughts and actions, and we always feel guilty whenever we think, or take actions that are against these beliefs. For instance, you always feel guilty when you steal because stealing is bad according to your belief system.

3. Why Your Beliefs Have the Power to Guide You

Your beliefs have the power to guide you because you believe they are true. You completely trust them hence allowing them to determine your thoughts, decisions, and actions.

4. Our Biggest Fear is to Be Authentic

We avoid showing the world our true nature because our biggest fear is to be ourselves. We prefer living in accordance with the society’s rules because we fear that we might fail to fit in if we express what we really are. Little do we know that most people who achieve personal freedom and true success are authentic. They never fear to be who they are and they audaciously go after what they want.

5. Be Careful With Your Word

You must be careful with your word because it influences the behaviour and actions of other people. Your friend can start loving herself passionately if you constantly tell her that she is a wonderful being. Conversely, the same friend can dislike herself if you constantly tell her that she is an ugly loser.

6. Don’t Take Things Personally

Taking things people say personally shows that you agree with what they say. Stop agreeing with everything people say about you because whatever people say comes from their personal viewpoint.  For this reason, it’s all about them, and not you.

Taking things personally will waste your time and energy because you’ll keep thinking why some people said something about you, and how you’ll get back at them. Therefore, by stopping to take things personally, you avoid negative emotions such as envy, and hate.

7. Stop Making Assumptions

Most of us make assumptions that eventually hurt us. For instance, we love making assumptions about our friends, and relatives. We assume they know what hurts and what doesn’t hurt us, and therefore, we get offended when they do something that hurts us. Also, when some of us enter romantic relationships, we assume that we have a similar perception of a relationship with our spouses. For this reason, we get hurt when our spouses do something we assumed they wouldn’t do.

8. Always Do Your Best

Do your best because by doing so you’ll avoid guilt and regret as you will love yourself, and you’ll be more fruitful. In the book, Don Ruiz defines doing your best as enjoying the action you take without expecting rewards. Therefore, you know you are doing your best when you are not working while thinking about payday.