A few weeks ago, I shared eight cool lessons from this book, and most of you loved them. For this reason, I decided to share seven more sensational lessons I learned from the book.
Hope you enjoy them.
- The Effects of Not Forgiving Others
If you choose not to forgive those who hurt you, you’ll keep remembering what they did hence reliving the pain they inflicted on you. You’ll also succumb to a negative state of mind if you don’t forgive because you’ll relive negative feelings.
- Pause, and Look at Things Differently
We are so wrapped up in our problems, and weaknesses that we fail to see the possibilities and opportunities around us. We are like a trapped bird frantically trying to get out a room through the walls instead of pausing and seeing where the door to freedom is.
- You Are Lying To Yourself If You Are Not Going After Your Dreams
Most people have many excuses for not pursuing their dreams. Some believe they are too late; others claim they are too young, and others think they don’t have enough resources. However, these are lies these folks are using as excuses for not going after their dreams. The main reason, they are not going after what they want is because they are too scared to fail or to get out of their comfort zones.
- If You Must Do A Big Task, Break It Down
If you have a big task, don’t think about how and when you will complete it. Instead, focus on the little steps needed to complete the entire task. For instance, if you want to write a book, focus on writing one page at a time, instead of focusing on when you’ll complete writing the entire book.
‘So don’t try and eat the whole elephant at once, break-it-down into bite-sized bits.’ – Jen Sincero
- Fear Lives in the Future
If you analyze most of your fears, you’ll realize that they exist in the future. You are only afraid when you think about what might happen later. If you focus on the events happening right now, you’ll notice that all your fears haven’t happened yet.
- Make A No-Nonsense Decision About What You Want
It’s easier to overcome obstacles that come on your path if you’ve already decided what you want in life. Making a no-nonsense decision enables you to keep moving even when the going gets tough hence preventing you from giving up. Many people often give up because they haven’t firmly decided what they want in their lives.
- Surrender to the Universe
Stop worrying about the achievement of your dreams, and stop trying to control the future. Instead, work hard, relax mentally, and believe that the universe will fulfill all your desires.
‘When you believe that everything you desire already exists, you are in a natural state of surrender.’ – Jen Sincero
Which of the above lessons did you like?
7 Great Lessons From Byways to Blessedness By James Allen
Although Byways to Blessedness was written many years ago, the book is still useful today. In the book, James Allen provides advice that enables readers to live a wonderful life. He encourages readers to find happiness by avoiding negative states of mind as they lead to suffering. Also, he enlightens readers on the importance of difficulties and solitude.
There are many lessons James Allen provides in the book, but here are the lessons that I loved the most.
- How You Begin Your Day Matters
How you begin your day matters because it determines how your day will be. Your day will be filled with joy if you begin it wisely and joyfully. However, you might have a bad day if you start it with a poor attitude. James Allen believes that you can have a wonderful day when you wake up early and have a walk in nature if possible. I support him, and I also believe that you can have a good day by beginning your day with gratitude and reading an inspirational quote.
- How to be Great
If you want to be great, you must sacrifice pride because pride can prevent you from doing the things that will make you great. Besides this, you must be willing to dedicate all your mind and energy on one thing, and you must avoid focusing on the outcome.
- The True Nature of Difficulty
According to James Allen, we must realize that difficulty exists in the mind, and this is why a difficult experience for a child might be easy to an adult.
James Allen also teaches that difficulty fosters growth and development because it forces us to exercise our intelligence and awaken our hidden powers.
- The Negative Effects of Resentfulness
Resentfulness causes suffering because it prevents you from attaining true enlightenment. Moreover, it hardens your heart and results in you failing to attain the blessings that were meant for you.
Furthermore, it makes you suffer because it causes a troubled mind and makes you constantly remember the bad things some people did to you.
- See No Evil And You’ll Free Yourself From Suffering and Sorrow
According to James Allen, you free yourself from suffering and sorrow when you stop judging people from your viewpoint of what’s right and wrong. When you realize that people have their personal viewpoints which make them do certain things and that everybody thinks that whatever he or she is doing is necessary for them.
- The Secret to Joy
James Allen believes that it’s possible to find abiding joy while here on earth because you are responsible for creating either joy or sorrow in your life. He also believes that one can find joy through caring for others and being selfless because selfishness results in suffering. Besides this, he teaches that one can find joy by avoiding the attachment to things and loving everyone.
- The Importance of Solitude
Solitude is necessary for your spiritual life as sleep is necessary for your body. Solitude is so important that lacking it can result in a spiritual break down. Solitude enables you to find the strength, wisdom, and knowledge needed to overcome life’s hardships. Also, it enables you to realize your true self and the hidden powers or possibilities within you.
8 Nuggets of Wisdom from the Four Agreements by Don Ruiz
In his book, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, Don Ruiz, provides wonderful pieces of advice that will help you find freedom. The book is enlightening, and all individuals in search of true happiness should read it.
Here are seven nuggets of wisdom I learned from the book.
- We Always Domesticate Our Children
According to Don Ruiz, children are domesticated the same way animals are domesticated. We domesticate them by punishing them when they go against our rules and rewarding them when they obey us. Therefore, they grow up with a certain belief and behavioral system that is forced upon them.
- Our Belief System Guides Our Thoughts And Actions
Each and every one of us has a set of beliefs that guide our thoughts and actions, and we always feel guilty whenever we think, or take actions that are against these beliefs. For instance, you always feel guilty when you steal because stealing is bad according to your belief system.
- Why Your Beliefs Have the Power to Guide You
Your beliefs have the power to guide you because you believe they are true. You completely trust them hence allowing them to determine your thoughts, decisions, and actions.
- Our Biggest Fear is to Be Authentic
We avoid showing the world our true nature because our biggest fear is to be ourselves. We prefer living in accordance with the society’s rules because we fear that we might fail to fit in if we express what we really are. Little do we know that most people who achieve personal freedom and true success are authentic. They never fear to be who they are and they audaciously go after what they want.
- Be Careful With Your Word
You must be careful with your word because it influences the behaviour and actions of other people. Your friend can start loving herself passionately if you constantly tell her that she is a wonderful being. Conversely, the same friend can dislike herself if you constantly tell her that she is an ugly loser.
- Don’t Take Things Personally
Taking things people say personally shows that you agree with what they say. Stop agreeing with everything people say about you because whatever people say comes from their personal viewpoint. For this reason, it’s all about them, and not you.
Taking things personally will waste your time and energy because you’ll keep thinking why some people said something about you, and how you’ll get back at them. Therefore, by stopping to take things personally, you avoid negative emotions such as envy, and hate.
- Stop Making Assumptions
Most of us make assumptions that eventually hurt us. For instance, we love making assumptions about our friends, and relatives. We assume they know what hurts and what doesn’t hurt us, and therefore, we get offended when they do something that hurts us. Also, when some of us enter romantic relationships, we assume that we have a similar perception of a relationship with our spouses. For this reason, we get hurt when our spouses do something we assumed they wouldn’t do.
- Always Do Your Best
Do your best because by doing so you’ll avoid guilt and regret as you will love yourself, and you’ll be more fruitful. In the book, Don Ruiz defines doing your best as enjoying the action you take without expecting rewards. Therefore, you know you are doing your best when you are not working while thinking about payday.
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