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Live Your Life Because There Is No Timeline of Where You Have to Be or What You Should Be Doing at Any Specific Time/Age

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Today, we live as if we have to be doing what the society expects us to do during a particular time, or when we reach a particular age. We believe that we have to own particular things or behave in a specific way for the society to accept us. For instance, many people believe that they have to appear prosperous in the eyes of the society for them to gain acceptance.

However, this idea that we have to do or have what the society expects, is a very foolish idea. It is an ideology that can prevent you from reaching your full potential.

I wish people knew that they don’t have to be anything at any particular time. The society must not dictate what you should do or what you must have. Whatever you have or do is your own business, because at the end of the day whatever you do mainly affects you, and you alone.

For example, if you get married just because people expect you to marry, the marriage problems will only affect you, and the funny thing is that all those who expected you to marry won’t be available to help you when you face those marriage problems. Also, if you get a child just because people expected you to get one, the people who expected you to have a child won’t help you raise it.

Besides this, if you end up being broke just because you wanted to prove to the society that you have so much money to spend, people will be unwilling to lend you money despite the fact that you became broke because you needed their acceptance.

Therefore, if you want to do your own thing by following your own path, just do it. Never avoid following your ambitions because you want to do what the society expects you to do. Many people, in their deathbeds, reveal that their biggest regret was the fact that they avoided doing important things or following their passions because they wanted to conform to the society. They feared to go their own way because the society expected them to get a job, marry, get children, and die without making a significant change in the world.

Therefore, no one should ever tell you that you should marry because you have reached a certain age, or that you have to get a job because you just graduated.

The society’s expectations might stress you despite the fact that they might fail to add value to your life. If you want to be happy, just do what you want to do at your own time and pace without trying to conform to the society. No one should tell you what you must do. We are all unique in some way, we come from different backgrounds, and we have different paths to follow. Therefore, do what you feel is right for you at your own time as long as you don’t harm anyone, because at the end of the day, you are the only one who knows what makes you happy, and you are the only one who will suffer from your decisions or actions.

You came into this world to enjoy life and to have a good impact on people’s lives. You didn’t come to sacrifice your happiness for the sake of other people’s opinions and ideas of what you should be doing. Therefore, feel free and do whatever makes you happy whatever time you want. There is no universal rule that requires YOU TO BE AT A PARTICULAR PLACE OR TO DO A PARTICULAR THING AT ANY PARTICULAR TIME.

We stifle our doubts and follow the flock because we do not believe that we can be the directors of our lives – Alain De Botton, in his book, The Consolations of Philosophy

What is popular is not necessarily what is right – Alain De Botton, in his book, The Consolations of Philosophy

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  1. ivana11sk

    May 14, 2018 at 12:04 pm

    I absolutely loved what you said on marriage and children, how people will expect you to do it but then you are on your own. Amazing post 😀

    • Isaac Wechuli

      May 14, 2018 at 2:18 pm

      yes, those who tell you to do something mostly wont be there to help you do it

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5 Harsh Truths I Have Learned About Life At Age 26

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At 26, I have learned many harsh truths about life that I wish my younger-self knew. I believe I must share with you 5 of these truths because I trust that it’s necessary for you to know them.

  1. Not Everything Goes According to Our Plans

If you are in your 20s I believe you have realized that not everything goes according to your plans.  I trust that there are many times you’ve planned something only to get the opposite of what you’ve planned.

As human beings, we love planning for the future because it gives us peace and makes us feel in control. However, most of the time many things happen that we had not planned for, because there is a more POWERFUL FORCE that controls life.

Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it’s the Lord’s purpose that prevails.’ – Proverbs 19:21 (The Christian Bible).

But you must not stop planning because of this phenomenon. Instead, you must plan, but keep in mind that sometimes things might not happen according to your plans.

When things don’t go as you planned, just remember that everything happens for the good for those who trust life.

  1. Romantic Relationships in Your 20s Can Be a Waste of Time

Most of the romantic relationships you will establish in your 20s will waste your time and resources. I sometimes regret focusing too much on romantic relationships in my early 20s because I gained nothing from them. I wish I focused on my dreams instead of wasting my precious time on stupid relationships.

These relationships mostly lead to emotional pain and stress, and sometimes you might invest so much in a person who will never marry you. I believe that if you invest your energy, time, and financial resources in your dream rather than a relationship, you will have nothing to regret in the future.

  1. Seasons Change

Nothing is constant. Things are always changing. You might be financially stable today, but end up extremely broke at the end of the year. Conversely, you might be broke today but end up with more than enough money tomorrow.

The biggest mistake we make is believing that our present conditions will last forever. For instance, when faced with hardships, we often succumb to depression because we think that they will last forever. Little do we know that things are always changing, and nothing lasts forever.

You will attain a constant state of inner peace if you become conscious of the fact that things are always changing because, when you are in good times you won’t worry about things changing, and when in difficult moments, you will know that good days are coming.

‘The seasons change and the summer will become winter. There are days when crops are greatly harvested and days when the seasons are too rough to plant.’ – EmpowerThyself

  1. Most of Your Friends Are Fake

Three years after completing my high school education, I realized that most of my friends were fake. Many people, including those I thought, were true friends stopped associating with me because I was broke. I tried to bond with them but my efforts were futile.

Besides this, I also realized that some of my friends felt bad whenever they believed I was making progress. Also, others felt good when I was in difficult situations. For this reason, I have less than 5 friends today. I decided to not waste my time on making friends because most of them are useless.

  1. Follow Your Dreams as Soon as Possible if You Want to Live the Life of Your Dreams

Earlier this year, I almost gave up on my dreams after it dawned on me that many people who live their wildest dreams started chasing them at a very early age. For instance, most actors started acting at an early age, and most musicians started chasing their dreams when they were teenagers.

I, therefore, thought it was too late for me because I started chasing my dreams at 25. However, I now have faith because I realized a number of successful people who managed to live their dreams despite chasing them later in life.

It’s never too late to follow your dreams, but it’s hard to follow them when you have bills to pay and children to care. Those who have an advantage are those who start following their dreams at their teenage ages or in their early 20s because they have few responsibilities.

Therefore, the earlier the better. If you want to something, start doing it now. Don’t postpone it because the older you get, the tougher it becomes to follow your dreams.

Life is a learning process, and sometimes you might learn some things when you are too late. It’s therefore good for us to inform each other of the harsh truths we have learned about life so that we avoid making mistakes.  I believe that, besides these truths, there are many more truths you have learned about life. You are free to share them in the comment box below.

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4 Easy Ways to be a People Person

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A people person is an individual who easily gets along with other folks. The person knows how to interact with others, and for this reason many people like being around him or her.

There are several advantages of being a people person. For instance, you have high chances of getting promoted, and you can easily secure a political seat. In addition, people will be helpful and friendly to you.

There are some people who are naturally likable while some have to put some extra work before they make themselves a people person. If you are working on becoming a people person, you just stumbled upon the best piece of information that will help you achieve your goal quickly, because today I will provide you the 4 things you can do to become a people person.

Here are they:

  1. Help People

You automatically become a people person if you help folks solve their problems because people tend to easily get along with individuals who are always willing to help them overcome their difficulties.

  1. Have a sense of humor

If you want people to like you, you must practice the art of humor.

People enjoy being around individuals who make them laugh because laughter makes us happy, and relieves stress.

  1. Make People Feel Great

People love feeling important because this feeling makes them confident. For this reason, people will love you, and will always want to be around you if you constantly make them feel special/great.

You can make individuals feel special by telling them how you believe in them, and making them know that they have the ability to achieve their desires or goals.

  1. Let People Feel Free to be Themselves When They are Around You

People hate pretending, and they always like to be around those who make them feel free.

You will get along with many people if you are the kind of person that allows people to be themselves because your company will make people feel at home regardless of where they are.

You are welcome to add more tips on how to become a people person in the comment box below.

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