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Live Your Life Because There Is No Timeline of Where You Have to Be or What You Should Be Doing at Any Specific Time/Age

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Today, we live as if we have to be doing what the society expects us to do during a particular time, or when we reach a particular age. We believe that we have to own particular things or behave in a specific way for the society to accept us. For instance, many people believe that they have to appear prosperous in the eyes of the society for them to gain acceptance.

However, this idea that we have to do or have what the society expects, is a very foolish idea. It is an ideology that can prevent you from reaching your full potential.

I wish people knew that they don’t have to be anything at any particular time. The society must not dictate what you should do or what you must have. Whatever you have or do is your own business, because at the end of the day whatever you do mainly affects you, and you alone.

For example, if you get married just because people expect you to marry, the marriage problems will only affect you, and the funny thing is that all those who expected you to marry won’t be available to help you when you face those marriage problems. Also, if you get a child just because people expected you to get one, the people who expected you to have a child won’t help you raise it.

Besides this, if you end up being broke just because you wanted to prove to the society that you have so much money to spend, people will be unwilling to lend you money despite the fact that you became broke because you needed their acceptance.

Therefore, if you want to do your own thing by following your own path, just do it. Never avoid following your ambitions because you want to do what the society expects you to do. Many people, in their deathbeds, reveal that their biggest regret was the fact that they avoided doing important things or following their passions because they wanted to conform to the society. They feared to go their own way because the society expected them to get a job, marry, get children, and die without making a significant change in the world.

Therefore, no one should ever tell you that you should marry because you have reached a certain age, or that you have to get a job because you just graduated.

The society’s expectations might stress you despite the fact that they might fail to add value to your life. If you want to be happy, just do what you want to do at your own time and pace without trying to conform to the society. No one should tell you what you must do. We are all unique in some way, we come from different backgrounds, and we have different paths to follow. Therefore, do what you feel is right for you at your own time as long as you don’t harm anyone, because at the end of the day, you are the only one who knows what makes you happy, and you are the only one who will suffer from your decisions or actions.

You came into this world to enjoy life and to have a good impact on people’s lives. You didn’t come to sacrifice your happiness for the sake of other people’s opinions and ideas of what you should be doing. Therefore, feel free and do whatever makes you happy whatever time you want. There is no universal rule that requires YOU TO BE AT A PARTICULAR PLACE OR TO DO A PARTICULAR THING AT ANY PARTICULAR TIME.

We stifle our doubts and follow the flock because we do not believe that we can be the directors of our lives – Alain De Botton, in his book, The Consolations of Philosophy

What is popular is not necessarily what is right – Alain De Botton, in his book, The Consolations of Philosophy

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  1. ivana11sk

    May 14, 2018 at 12:04 pm

    I absolutely loved what you said on marriage and children, how people will expect you to do it but then you are on your own. Amazing post 😀

    • Isaac Wechuli

      May 14, 2018 at 2:18 pm

      yes, those who tell you to do something mostly wont be there to help you do it

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The One Thing That Can Make You Avoid Distractions

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In the last four weeks, I almost failed to effectively dedicate my time and effort to blogging because of distractions. My main source of distraction was my friends who constantly invited me to accompany them to parties, watching movies and many other fun activities. These distractions resulted in me wasting lots of time, but the good thing is that they made realize the importance of LEARNING TO SAY NO.

I have read many articles and watched many personal development videos that advise on the POWER OF LEARNING TO SAY NO. However, I never saw the importance of this ability until I entered the distraction period, which made me realize that I could have eliminated the distractions only if I LEARNED TO SAY NO.

It’s hard for us to SAY NO when our friends or family members invite us to events or activities which have no importance to our well-being or success. Deep down, we know that these activities are a waste of our time but we accept the invitations because we fear disappointing our loved ones.

The journey to success is a tough one, and you only succeed if you dedicate a large percentage of your time to working towards your goals. Therefore, it will be impossible for you to make it if you always accept all invitations. While you are wasting time with friends partying, or just hanging out, the future millionaires are working hard towards success. Moreover, the more time you waste, the more you delay your success, and you will never recover this time you wasted.

The good thing is that you can avoid distractions by learning to say NO to activities that don’t help you progress. It’s difficult to say NO, but you must learn this art if you want to make quick progress.

Remember, time is only your friend when you use it wisely, and it’s your worst enemy when you waste it. We only have one life. Therefore, we have one chance of succeeding. Besides this, time is always running, and success only comes if you use your time wisely. Never let people without goals or a mission waste your time. LEARN TO SAY NO to these folks, and they will eventually leave you alone because they will realize that you have bigger priorities.

However, realize that some people might get mad that you don’t have time for them. But remember, it’s your life, not theirs. If they want to waste their life, let them waste it and live a meaningless life. They will eventually understand why you ignored them when they SEE YOU AT THE TOP.  For this reason, the word NO must be your best friend, and always use it on people who want you to take part in activities that drift you away from your dreams/goals.

 ‘’The more I grow, the more I realize that people who get to the next level are the ones who say ‘NO’ more than say ‘YES.’ – Raghav Haran

‘It’s only by saying ‘NO’ that you can concentrate on things that are really important.’ – Steve Jobs

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6 Types Of Friends You Must Let Go Right Now If You Want To Follow Your Dreams

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A few years ago, I had friends in almost every city because I never cared about a person’s character before allowing him/her in my inner circle. All I cared about was if a person was an alcoholic or a weed smoker.

However, today, I choose friends based on whether a person will help me advance in the direction of my dreams, and for this reason, I often avoid friends that drain my energy and make me feel like I’m crazy to follow my dreams.

I took this major decision because I realized that friends have a major impact on an individual’s life, and keeping friends with certain characteristics might make me go in a direction I never wanted.

I analyzed the types of friends that could drag me down and prevent me from reaching my dreams, and I believe I must share them with you.

Here are 6 friends you must let go immediately if you want to follow your dreams.

  1. Criticizers

These types of friends criticize almost everything you do. They criticize your spouse, your clothes, decisions, or lifestyle. They never say anything positive about you because they mostly focus on your flaws.

You must avoid such friends because they will always make you doubt your abilities and strategies hence making it difficult for you to pursue your dreams. They will lower your self-esteem, which is a crucial element for dream chasers.

  1. Purposeless Friends

Purposeless friends don’t have a major goal in life, and for this reason, they will always lack something constructive to do. They will always perceive their free time as a time to party, gossip, and do useless activities that never add value to their lives. You must avoid purposeless folks at all costs because they will waste your time as they will always want you to take part in their purposeless activities whenever they think you are free.

  1. Spendthrift Friends

These types of friends are big spenders, and they are comfortable spending their money recklessly on unnecessary things. They seldom save their money because they always spend to the last penny. Avoid these friends because they will make it hard for you to save money and invest in your dreams as they will be happy with your company only when you spend like them: they will think you are a miser if you keep saving funds for emergencies or investment purposes.

  1. Friends Who Love Competing With You

These types of friends always check your progress, and they love outdoing you in everything. However, they become jealous or angry when you outdo them.

These friends will make you want to compete with them hence distracting you from fulfilling your destiny. They will infect you with the competitive energy which will result in you constantly assessing their progress and losing sight of what you are supposed to do for you to live the life of your dreams.

  1. Friends Who Love Arguing A lot

I had friends who loved arguing about sports, religion, relationships, and everything under the sun. I always entertained them because I also loved arguing. However, I started avoiding them when I realized that arguments are time wasting and useless because they added nothing to my life. Instead, they make friends angry at each other to the point of wanting to fight. With this in mind, you must advise your friends to stop arguing or ditch them if they can’t dump this behavior.

  1. Friends Your Father Warned You About

My dad used to warn me about my friends but I loved ignoring his precious advice. However, I knew he was right when some of my ‘friends’ did stupid actions in my dad’s presence. This phenomenon made me realize that parents always know the people who are truly your friends and those who aren’t. They know the difference between friends who will help you progress in life and those who won’t. I guess it’s because they have more experience in life.

Therefore, the next time your father warns you about certain friends, try to check if these friends are helping you advance towards the life of your dreams, and dump them for good if you realize they are USELESS.

Conclusion

With this in mind, always assess your close friends and check if they are helping you meet your biggest goals. Thank Life if you realize that all your friends are helping you progress quickly towards your ideal life. Treasure such friends and never ever destroy your relationship with them. Ask for forgiveness if you hurt them because they are one of the most precious assets you have on the journey to success. However, if you realize that your friends aren’t adding any value into your life, you must let go of them right now before it’s too late.

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