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Live Your Life Because There Is No Timeline of Where You Have to Be or What You Should Be Doing at Any Specific Time/Age

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Today, we live as if we have to be doing what the society expects us to do during a particular time, or when we reach a particular age. We believe that we have to own particular things or behave in a specific way for the society to accept us. For instance, many people believe that they have to appear prosperous in the eyes of the society for them to gain acceptance.

However, this idea that we have to do or have what the society expects, is a very foolish idea. It is an ideology that can mess up your life and prevent you from discovering your full potential, and doing what you really want to do in life.

I wish people knew that they don’t have to be anything at any particular time. The society must not dictate what you should do or what you must have. Whatever you have or do is your own business, because at the end of the day whatever you do mainly affects you, and you alone.

For example, if you get married just because people expect you to marry, the marriage problems will only affect you, and the funny thing is that all those who expected you to marry won’t be available to help you when you face those marriage problems. Also, if you get a child just because people expected you to get one, the people who expected you to have a child won’t help you raise it.

Besides this, if you end up being broke just because you wanted to prove to the society that you have so much money to spend, people will be unwilling to lend you money despite the fact that you became broke because you needed their acceptance.

Therefore, if you want to do your own thing by following your own path, just do it. Never avoid following your ambitions because you want to do what the society expects you to do. Many people, in their deathbeds, reveal that their biggest regret was the fact that they avoided doing important things or following their passions because they wanted to conform to the society. They feared to go their own way because the society expected them to get a job, marry, get children, and die without making a significant change in the world.

Therefore, no one should ever tell you that you should marry because you have reached a certain age, or that you have to get a job because you just graduated.

The society’s expectations might stress you despite the fact that they might fail to add value to your life. If you want to be happy, just do what you want to do at your own time and pace without trying to conform to the society. No one should tell you what you must do. We are all unique in some way, we come from different backgrounds, and we have different paths to follow. Therefore, do what you feel is right for you at your own time as long as you don’t harm anyone, because at the end of the day, you are the only one who knows what makes you happy, and you are the only one who will suffer from your decisions or actions.

You came into this world to make yourself happy and to have a good impact on people’s lives. You didn’t come to sacrifice your happiness for the sake of other people’s opinions and ideas of what you should be doing. Therefore, feel free and do whatever makes you happy whatever time you want. There is no universal rule that requires YOU TO BE AT A PARTICULAR PLACE OR TO DO A PARTICULAR THING AT ANY PARTICULAR TIME.

We stifle our doubts and follow the flock because we do not believe that we can be the directors of our lives – Alain De Botton, in his book, The Consolations of Philosophy

What is popular is not necessarily what is right – Alain De Botton, in his book, The Consolations of Philosophy

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  1. ivana11sk

    May 14, 2018 at 12:04 pm

    I absolutely loved what you said on marriage and children, how people will expect you to do it but then you are on your own. Amazing post 😀

    • Isaac Wechuli

      May 14, 2018 at 2:18 pm

      yes, those who tell you to do something mostly wont be there to help you do it

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5 Remarkable Ways to Love Your Life

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Loving your life is the best way to live a happy life because you quit comparing yourself to others when you truly cherish your life. Besides this, loving your life makes you value yourself, and it results in you becoming an optimistic individual.

Therefore, unless you love your life, you will always be sad, and pessimistic. Also, you will have a low sense of self-worth.

With this in mind, it’s clear that you must love your life for you to live an enjoyable and fulfilling life.

Here is how you can love your life

  1. Associate with people who love you

Towards the end of 2017, I realized that I hated my life because I always spent my time with people who never appreciated me. I used to associate with individuals who always wanted to compete with me in every aspect of my life.

It also dawned on me that I had made friends with people who always reminded me of my weaknesses hence making me hate my life.

However, when I changed my friends and made friends with people who loved me and embraced all my weaknesses, something strange happened. I immediately liked who I was, and I started loving my life.

Therefore, if you want to love your life and be thankful for it, associate with people who value you, and make you feel worthy.

  1. Discover your purpose

I believe that everybody has a specific purpose that s/he came to fulfill, and if you want to love your life you must work on discovering your purpose and fulfilling it.

Finding and working on your purpose makes you value and adore your life because it makes you realize that you are a valuable and unique individual with an impact that no one apart from you can bring to the world.

  1. Help the needy

Research reveals that helping people makes you love your life because it results in you being happy and positive. Besides this, helping makes you love your life because you realize that your life means so much to another person and you also recognize that your hardships are nothing compared to those of the people you are helping.

‘Those who are the happiest are those who do the most for others.’ Booker Washington: American Educator, Author, & Advisor.

  1. Discover your talents and utilize them

Discovering and using your talents makes you love your life because you realize that you possess abilities that many people don’t have. Also, you will start focusing on the positive aspects of your life once you start exploiting your talents/strengths.

  1. Practice Thankfulness

Similar to discovering your strengths, being thankful makes you focus on the positive aspects of your life hence making you love your life. Today, many people hate their lives because they compare their lives with the fake lives people display on social media platforms. Also, we hate our lives because we usually concentrate on the negative part.

Therefore, for you to love your life and start focusing on the positive side, practice thankfulness. Be grateful for everything good that has happened to you, and be thankful because you live a better life than half of the world’s population.

Remember that almost 2.5 billion people in the world live below 2 US dollars a day, and 1.4 billion people live in extreme poverty. Be thankful you live a better life

Concluding Remarks

Therefore, for you to love your life, you must associate with people who love you. Besides this, you must discover your purpose, help the needy, exploit your talents, and always practice thankfulness.

Remember, life might be tough but you will have a positive attitude towards it if you love your life. Furthermore, you will feel fulfilled, and you will realize that life is an exciting adventure once you start loving your life.

You are free to add more ways in which we can love our lives in the comment box below.

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5 Harmful Effects of Competition That Will Make You Quit Competing Right Now

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Today, most of us love competing with our friends, neighbors, and even family members. We often try to be ahead of other individuals in everything we do.

We want to have a better car, a better lifestyle, and more money. We believe that winning the social competition will bring us a sense of satisfaction. Therefore, we spend a large percentage of our time thinking about how we can outdo each other.

However, we fail to realize that competition is bad for us as it might result in us failing to achieve our goals because of its’ disastrous effects.

Today, I would like to encourage you to stop competing by sharing with you the adverse effects of competition.

  1. Competition makes you impatient

Success in anything requires high levels of patience because things take long to manifest in the physical plane. However, competition makes you impatient because it makes you desire quick progress so that you beat your rival.

Besides this, when competing, you will hardly embrace patience because you are in a race. You will always want to rush things so that you avoid the humiliation of being outdone.

  1. Your happiness will always depend on winning the competition

When competing, you will believe that outdoing the other individual will make you happier. Therefore, your happiness will always depend on the outcome of the competition.

If you lose the competition, you will become extremely sad. On the other hand, if you win, you will not be truly happy because you will always worry about your rival outdoing you.

  1. Competition can result in you making bad decisions

When your sole aim is to outdo your rival, you will always use your competition as the basis for decision making. Therefore, there will be high chances of you making poor decisions because you will not take time to make decisions that are in alignment with your goals.

  1. Competition might result in overthinking

It’s hard to overthink when running your race because you will only be concerned with how you will move forward. However, overthinking comes hand in hand with competition because when competing, you will always think about beating your competition. Besides this, you will think constantly about what will happen in case your rival wins the competition.

  1. Competition will make you focus on your competitor instead of focusing on your progress.

Competition can hinder you from progressing because it will make you focus on your competitor. You will always want to know your competitor’s progress, what he/she is doing, and the decisions he/she is making. Focusing on your competition requires a significant amount of time and energy and it will result in you putting less focus on your goals.

Concluding Remarks

Therefore, if you want to be patient, happy, and stress-free, please run your own race. Besides this, stop competing if you want to make decisions that are in tune with your dreams.

I wrote this article from my experience. There was a time I used to compete with my friends but I realized competing was worthless. It made me stressed because of over thinking, and I always worried about beating or being beaten by my competition.

However, I gained inner peace when I stopped competing. Today, I don’t compare my progress with other people’s progress. I run my own race, and I believe I will win. I also believe you will win because we are all destined for Greatness. We just have to move without quitting.

Thank you for reading. And Remember,

‘You must get rid of the thought of competition. You are to create. Not to compete for what is already created’ – Wallace D. Wattles

Feel free to disagree or add more points.

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