‘What use is this pride of appearance, of which so much is risked, and so much is suffered. It cannot promote hate or ease pain.’ – Benjamin Franklin, The Way to Wealth
Today, we think we must do what the society expects us to do during a particular time, or when we reach a particular age. We believe we have to own particular things or behave in a specific way for the society to accept us.
This belief is foolish, and it can prevent you from reaching your full potential.
I wish people knew that they don’t have to be anything at any particular time. The society must not dictate what you should do or have. Whatever you have or do is your business since it mainly affects you.
For example, if you get married because people expected you to marry, the marriage problems will only affect you, and the funny thing is that all those who expected you to marry might be unwilling to help you tackle your marriage problems. Also, you might raise your child alone if you get pregnant because of the society’s pressure.
Therefore, if you want to do your thing, do it. Never avoid following your ambitions because you want to do what the society expects. Many people, in their deathbeds, regret ignoring their ambitions because of the need to conform to the society. These folks feared to curve their own path because the society expected them to get a job, marry, get children, and die.
For this reason, no one should ever tell you that you should marry because you have reached a certain age, or that you have to get a job because you just graduated.
If you want to be happy, just do what you want to do at your own time and pace without trying to conform to the society. No one should tell you what you must do. We are all unique in our own way. As well, we come from different backgrounds, and we have different paths to follow. Do what you feel is right for you at your own time, as long as you don’t harm anyone, because you are the only one who knows what makes you happy.
You came into this world to enjoy life and have an impact on people’s lives. You didn’t come to sacrifice your happiness for the sake of other people’s opinions and ideas of what you should be doing. Feel free and do what makes you happy whatever time you want. There is no universal rule that requires YOU TO BE AT A PARTICULAR PLACE OR TO DO A PARTICULAR THING AT ANY PARTICULAR TIME.
We stifle our doubts and follow the flock because we do not believe that we can be the directors of our lives – Alain De Botton, The Consolations of Philosophy
What is popular is not necessarily what is right – Alain De Botton, The Consolations of Philosophy
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It’s All Risky: Therefore, Stop Avoiding Risk
‘My life changed when I discovered that it’s all risky. Getting married is risky, having children is risky, going into business is risky, investing your money is risky. It’s all risky.’ – Jim Rohn
When I started blogging and decided to no longer work 9-to-5, most of my friends thought I was crazy. They urged me to quit my blogging career because it’s risky, and they advised me to look for a safe and secure job that would guarantee a better future.
Their advice made me realize that many people fear taking risks. They avoid taking risky career paths, and they choose careers that guarantee a safe and secure future. Little do they know that everything is risky.
For instance, although a 9-to-5 job promises security, it’s also risky because the boss can fire you at any time for any reason. Moreover, the massive job-cuts that are occurring globally prove that 9-to-5 jobs are as risky as creative endeavors.
These job-cuts also prove that nothing, even when it seems secure, is 100% riskless because we are never 100% sure of the outcome of the paths we take – whether risky or not.
For this reason, we should stop avoiding some things because we think they are risky. We must learn to control our fears and try doing what we think is risky, particularly if it promises a good future.
Therefore, if you are young and you don’t have many responsibilities, and you feel like venturing into entrepreneurship instead of working 9-to-5, you must do so even when you feel that entrepreneurship is risky. Remember, a 9-to-5 job is also risky since many people have been fired from jobs they thought were secure.
For instance, Jim Carrey’s father was fired despite thinking that working as an accountant was safer than being a comedian. For as Jim Carrey put it, ‘My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant, and when I was 12 years old he was let go from the safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive.’
Just like Jim Carrey’s father, we might regret choosing a path we thought was safe if we avoid taking risky paths. To avoid regret and ensure that we live a fulfilling life with millions of possibilities, we must choose the risky paths and realize that there’s nothing to lose. After all, everything we have, including our bodies, is borrowed from mother earth. As well, the riskier the path, the more fulfilling and adventurous it is.
Therefore, don’t fear taking risks. Remember, everything is risky.
‘Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.’ – Mark Twain
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Why You Shouldn’t Share Your Goals with Everybody
Some of us have big goals, and we love sharing them with many people. We share these goals because we want people to either support us or realize that we are focused. However, sharing our goals is a fatal mistake because it can lead to discouragement.
When you share your goals, you open yourself to discouragement because many people will doubt your ability to achieve these goals, and they will try convincing you to stop going after them.
Mainly, the people you love the most will tell you that it’s impossible to achieve these goals, and the sad thing is that you might end up believing them. You might find yourself overthinking and analyzing their arguments, and eventually, you might give up if you are not a strong-willed person.
When I started blogging, I shared my blogging goals with many people because I believed they would support me. However, to my surprise, these folks discouraged me. They sent me links to Youtube videos and articles that explained how it’s impossible to succeed as a blogger, and some of them advised me to delete my blog and look for a 9-to-5 job.
Their advice discouraged me, and I kept overanalyzing their negative ideas about blogging. I then realized that we humans tend to focus on negative advice because I focused so much on their advice that I got headaches and anxiety attacks. It took me a long time to overcome their negative impact, and I had to force myself to work on my blog every day because I always thought about their advice whenever I wrote an article.
I would have given up if I wasn’t a strong-willed person.
I’m sharing this information with you because I know some of you are weak-willed dreamers with big goals, and you might give up easily after sharing your goals with many people.
Today’s world is filled with cowards who don’t believe in their/other people’s abilities, and therefore, you might accidentally share your goals with these folks.
For this reason, keep your goals to yourself, or only share them with believers – if you really feel like sharing them – and it will be easier for you to commit to your goals.
Anyway, I wish you the best in your endeavors. May the universe support you by providing you with the grace, miracles, and blessings you need to achieve your goals.
Thanks for Reading.
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