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Live Your Life Because There Is No Timeline of Where You Have to Be or What You Should Be Doing at Any Specific Time/Age

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‘What use is this pride of appearance, of which so much is risked, and so much is suffered. It cannot promote hate or ease pain.’ – Benjamin Franklin, The Way to Wealth

Today, we think we must do what the society expects us to do during a particular time, or when we reach a particular age. We believe we have to own particular things or behave in a specific way for the society to accept us.

However, this belief is foolish and it can prevent you from reaching your full potential.

I wish people knew that they don’t have to be anything at any particular time. The society must not dictate what you should do or have. Whatever you have or do is your business since it mainly affects you.

For example, if you get married because people expected you to marry, the marriage problems will only affect you, and the funny thing is that all those who expected you to marry might be unwilling to help you tackle your marriage problems. Also, you might raise your child alone if you get pregnant because of society’s pressure.

That being said, if you want to do your thing, do it. Never avoid following your ambitions because you want to do what the society expects. Many people, in their deathbeds, regret ignoring their ambitions because they wanted to conform to the society. They feared to curve their own path because the society expected them to get a job, marry, get children, and die.

For this reason, no one should ever tell you that you should marry because you have reached a certain age, or that you have to get a job because you just graduated.

If you want to be happy, just do what you want to do at your own time and pace without trying to conform to the society. No one should tell you what you must do. We are all unique in our own way. As well, we come from different backgrounds, and we have different paths to follow. Do what you feel is right for you at your own time, as long as you don’t harm anyone, because you are the only one who knows what makes you happy, and you are the only one who will suffer from your actions.

You came into this world to enjoy life and have an impact on people’s lives. You didn’t come to sacrifice your happiness for the sake of other people’s opinions and ideas of what you should be doing. Feel free and do whatever makes you happy whatever time you want. There is no universal rule that requires YOU TO BE AT A PARTICULAR PLACE OR TO DO A PARTICULAR THING AT ANY PARTICULAR TIME.

We stifle our doubts and follow the flock because we do not believe that we can be the directors of our lives – Alain De Botton, The Consolations of Philosophy

What is popular is not necessarily what is right – Alain De Botton, The Consolations of Philosophy

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  1. ivana11sk

    May 14, 2018 at 12:04 pm

    I absolutely loved what you said on marriage and children, how people will expect you to do it but then you are on your own. Amazing post 😀

    • Isaac Wechuli

      May 14, 2018 at 2:18 pm

      yes, those who tell you to do something mostly wont be there to help you do it

  2. Purity

    June 26, 2019 at 1:45 pm

    Absolutely right…..I was in that state of pleasing the society and forgot about myself but I thank God because he rescued me on time…
    Now I embrace and live ZELOUSLY as God purposed me to be.

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The Truth About Following Your Dreams

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The Truth About Following Your Dreams

Motivational speakers love advising us to follow our dreams. They usually claim that dream chasing is easy since achieving our dreams only requires us to think positively, find what we love, visualize living the life of our dreams, and work hard. As well, they claim dream chasing is fun and adventurous.

I used to believe these ideas. However, I discarded them after chasing my blogging dreams for about two years and realizing that dream chasing is boring as I always force myself to work, and things seldom work out as I expect. Furthermore, I doubted these ideas after a large percentage of my blogger friends gave up on their blogging dream.

I started blogging in 2018 January, and I made friends with many aspiring bloggers. A year later, 98% of these folks gave up on blogging after experiencing the writer’s block and slow-traffic growth. 

These folks mainly gave up because they found the journey boring, tough, and scary, although they believed in the idea that dream chasing is fun and adventurous. This is a shocking truth many people realize when chasing their dreams. I was also shocked after realizing that the journey isn’t easy, but I decided to keep working and see what will happen. However, sometimes, I feel like deleting my blog.

As well, I usually become extremely anxious when I think about failing to achieve my blogging dreams despite working hard, and I often ask myself whether I’ll continue working on my blog in case I don’t achieve my blogging dream after ten years.

Chasing my blogging dream has thus enlightened me about the shocking truths of dream chasing. After blogging for a while, I noticed that following dreams doesn’t guarantee success, and I discovered that anxiety and doubt are part of the journey.

Anyway, besides these truths, you’ll realize more sad truths when you start following your dreams. For instance, you’ll discover that several people, including your closest folks, will doubt your ability to achieve your dreams.

Another sad truth you’ll realize is that you’ll have to be your own motivator because most people will encourage you to give up. The people who love you will encourage you to get a safe and secure job, and they’ll tell you that dream chasing is for the extraordinary.

The chances of achieving our dreams increase if we know such facts about dream chasing because we’ll prepare ourselves for them, and we won’t be shocked when we realize them. However, the chances are slim when we think it’s easy to chase and achieve dreams because we’ll expect the journey to be fun and adventurous, and we’ll quit after realizing its toughness.

In conclusion, never ever follow your dreams if you think dream chasing is easy because you’ll give up, and you’ll end up being depressed. Only follow them when you are ready to endure obstacles, discouragement, and work persistently despite not seeing progress.

I wish you the best.

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35 More Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Away – Part 2

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35 More Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Away – Part 2

Last week, I shared the 35 Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Now. Today I’ll share more harsh realities you have to accept.’

  1. ‘Life is hard, but compared to what?’
  2. ‘You’ll never make a difference if you are not different.’
  3. ‘You’ll never attain fulfillment if you work at a job you hate.’
  4. ‘Trusting the Creator eliminates anxiety and worry.
  5. ‘Happiness comes when you don’t chase it.’
  6. ‘Be happy when you are alive because you’ll be dead for a long period.’
  7. ‘You’ll never understand God completely even if you pray, meditate, and study spiritual books every second.’
  8. ‘Positive emotions and feelings come from within, while negative emotions and feelings come from without.’
  9. ‘Jealousy prevents happiness and peace of mind because it leads to competition, hatred, and anger,’
  10. ‘Envy arises when you think someone is happier than you.’
  11. ‘You only find happiness when you are content with yourself.’
  12. ‘There is no shortcut to anything worth having.’
  13. ‘Most of us will never live the life of our dreams because we lack courage.’
  14. ‘A billion dollars cannot afford what friendship can buy.’
  15. ‘No matter how much you plan, things can still go wrong.’
  16. ‘People won’t be impressed if you struggle to impress them.’
  17. ‘Nothing will change if you think the same thoughts every day.’
  18. ‘You can’t create a new personal reality if you don’t change your personality.’
  19. ‘Your content is not interesting if you have few views on your blog or vlog.
  20. ‘How you make money is more important than how much you make.’
  21. ‘If you act like everybody else, nothing special will happen to you.’
  22. ‘When someone betrays you, there is a 99% chance that he will do so again.’
  23. ‘If you become too generous, people will believe your good deeds are their rights.’
  24. ‘Stop talking about your problems. Few people care. Most people have many problems to care about.’
  25. ‘Life has never been and will never be fair.’
  26. ‘Every opinion has a gram of truth.’
  27. ‘Nature is the only reliable word of God.’
  28. ‘Nothing will change in your life if you do nothing and expect God to make the changes.’
  29. ‘You are one decision away from a totally different life.’
  30. ‘Never rely on religious leaders to provide you with enlightening spiritual knowledge. They only gain when you are spiritually dumb.’
  31. ‘You’ll seldom be joyful if your joy depends on what happens around you.’
  32. ‘Achieving big goals is difficult. These goals require years of persistent hard work and doing many things that you don’t like to do.’
  33. ‘The surest way to failure is trying to impress everybody.’
  34.  ‘Your past might screw up with the present if you don’t make peace with it.’
  35. ‘Your life is a reflection of your thoughts, decisions, and actions.

You are welcome to add more harsh realities in the comment box below.

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