Not everyone will understand you. Not everyone will appreciate you. Not everyone will embrace you. Do not change for them. Just smile at them, and move along.”– Jessica Hagy
We all want to be liked, respected, and admired by everyone. We are social creatures. Thus, this need to be liked by many is natural. However, we must realize that not everybody will like us, and we must get used to this.
Some people will hate you for no reason. They will hate you even when you are generous or kind. They will hate you even when you show them that you love them. They will hate you regardless of what you do.
Stop expecting everybody to love you because you are virtuous or doing something good for your community. In fact, being virtuous and doing good might attract more hate.
Stop trying to please people who hate you. Stop wasting your time trying to make them love you. Stop thinking about them. Thinking about the reasons why they don’t like you will waste your mental energy. The energy that you can use to build a better life. Ignore them and focus on improving yourself and finding your true self.
Be content with the few people who like you. Expecting everybody to like you will eventually make you feel bad because there will always be people who won’t love you. Feeling bad will lower your vibrational frequency and attract negative events into your life. Besides, you imply that those who don’t like you have power over you when you allow them to make you feel bad.
Don’t force yourself to love them. Just ignore them. Assume they are trees or stones: you don’t need love from trees and stones, and you can’t hate them for not liking you.
Practice self-love and realize that other people’s emotional responses towards you cannot affect your ability to attain your goals and live a happy life.
We are consciousness, and we transformed ourselves into physical beings to experience separation and individuality. Love and hate are part and parcel of an experience characterized by individuality. Therefore, embrace them but don’t overthink them.
Focus on those who love you. Be thankful for them and strive to make you and them live a happy life. Don’t let the haters make you think something is wrong with you. Even if you transform into an angel or demigod, some people will still hate you. Be yourself, love yourself, and know thyself. Stop living for others, and start living for yourself.
Not everyone is going to like you. Good people don’t do good so that they’ll win popularity contests. They do good because it’s the right thing to do – Karen Rose