Last Updated on July 23, 2023 by The Unbounded Thinker
Today, many people expect to attain sexual satisfaction in romantic relationships because they believe it is essential for a good or stable relationship. Some people have even dumped their spouses because they don’t satisfy them sexually.
After embracing celibacy for 400 days, I realized that the idea of sexual satisfaction is a big lie that mainly appeared in the 21st century to encourage people to have more sex. I noticed that the lack of sex can cause sexual satisfaction if you don’t think about sex all the time. I am sexually satisfied despite not engaging in sexual intercourse for over 400 days because I don’t think about sex all the time and I am enjoying the benefits of celibacy.
I have not experienced the popularized symptoms of sexual dissatisfaction, such as anxiety, irritability, and insomnia, despite avoiding sex for more than a year. In fact, I sleep better, and I feel more peaceful.
I have, therefore, noticed that those who yearn for sexual satisfaction are obsessed with sexual intercourse. This obsession creates the constant need to release sexual energy through sexual intercourse. Thus, they feel sexually dissatisfied if they do not find a partner who can help them release this energy through constant sexual intercourse.
Celibacy has made me realize that sexual intercourse does not have to last long for it to be ‘satisfying’. The reproductive systems of couples who practice celibacy are so sensitive, making it possible for them to reach sexual climax within a few minutes of sexual intercourse.
The media is highly responsible for the belief that we must last long in bed, resulting in a society with people who quickly become dissatisfied when their partners don’t last long.
Our beliefs affect our bodies. If we believe sexual satisfaction can only occur if we last longer in bed, our bodies will crave more sex if we have partners that can’t last long.
This belief that we must attain sexual satisfaction is responsible for the high levels of cheating today. Many men and women cheat, claiming that their partners don’t satisfy them sexually. Such people never attain permanent satisfaction no matter who they sleep with. Their obsession with sex or sexual desire increase as they have more sex with different people, making it impossible for them to attain ‘sexual satisfaction’. Primarily, they don’t attain sexual satisfaction because it does not exist.
Study the spiritual, health, and mental benefits of celibacy or having infrequent sex, and reduce your sexual frequency, and you’ll realize that you don’t need a partner to satisfy you sexually. Your body will adjust to infrequent sex. Mostly, you’ll notice that sexual satisfaction is just an idea in your mind. Once you believe you don’t need frequent, long-lasting, orgasmic sex, you’ll always feel satisfied no matter who you have sex with.