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Three Unbelievable Factors That Make You Care What Other People Say/Think, And How To Deal With Them

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One of the leading causes of anxiety is worrying too much about what other people think/say.

Besides causing anxiety, caring what other people say/think prevents authenticity. Therefore, you must avoid this behavior because its disastrous effects can prevent you from progressing.

For you to stop caring about other people’s opinions/thoughts, you must identify the primary causes of this behavior and deal with them effectively.

I managed to pinpoint the three main factors that make you succumb to this behavior.

1.Insecurity

An insecure person doubts his abilities and believes there’s nothing significant s/he can do.

Insecurity makes you care what other people say because it loves seeking approval. When you don’t believe in yourself, you’ll always seek people’s opinions before doing something.

Advice

Build your self-esteem because you’ll never seek people’s approval if you have high self-worth.

2.A Huge Ego

The ego is a feeling of self-importance.

A huge ego makes you believe you are more important than others. It thus ensures that you care what others think/say because it always wants people to talk about you.

Besides this, a massive ego will make you concerned with other people’s thoughts/opinions because it deceives you that everybody is thinking about you.

Advice

Embrace humility because you won’t need people to reinforce your sense of self-importance when you are humble.

3.Lack of Something Useful to Focus On

Your mind will lean towards factors such as negativity, gossip, and thinking about other people’s opinions if it doesn’t have something important to focus on.

Advice

Set a goal and focus on it because you’ll have no time to think about people’s opinions when you are focused on your goals.

Concluding Remarks

If you care so much about other people’s opinions, you can eliminate the habit by building your self-esteem, practicing humility, and finding something useful to focus on.

I never care about people’s opinions about me, and I find my life incredibly peaceful. I often do whatever I want, whenever I want. And, I follow my ‘unrealistic,’ dreams because I managed to ignore what people think or say about me.

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  1. Cathy Chapman

    April 27, 2018 at 5:05 pm

    I love the “lack of something useful to focus on.” When we are focused on something meaningful, we “forget” to check in on what others might be saying.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      April 27, 2018 at 5:45 pm

      true, I discovered this from my experience. it dawned on me that I mostly succumbed to caring what people thought about me when I was idle

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8 Major Reasons Why Ego is the Enemy

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8 Major Reasons Why Ego is the Enemy

Ego is an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Although it has enabled many individuals to succeed, its side effects have made it the main cause of failure, hatred, separation, and all other negative factors. Here, I’ll enlighten you about the disadvantages of the ego by providing the eight major reasons why ego is the enemy.

1.Ego is Competitive

The ego makes you competitive because it wants you to be better than everyone else. It wants to feel important because it hates equality. This competitive mindset induced by the ego makes you less creative and impatient. Besides, it makes it difficult for you to collaborate with people to achieve a common goal.

2.Ego Prevents You From Focusing on the Process

It’s difficult to build your skills when you are egotistic because the ego focuses more on the end-goal than the process. It mostly cares about results, showing off, glory, and admiration, hence increasing your chances of failure.

3.Ego Prevents You From Making Friends

The ego prevents you from making friends because it makes you arrogant and self-centered. Few people love arrogant, and self-centered folks because they are prone to envy and hate. Furthermore, the ego prevents you from making friends because it loves dominating all conversations to prove that you know everything.

4.Ego makes you Overestimate Your Abilities

Ego makes you believe you can handle everything on your own hence preventing you from working with others. It also makes you unwilling to learn from other folks because it believes you know everything. Moreover, it eliminates the desire to improve your skills because it makes you think you are too skilled for improvement.

5.Ego Makes you Give up Easily

The ego focuses on the outcome and therefore makes you give up easily when you don’t get the desired outcome after a certain period. Moreover, it wants quick success and will thus make it difficult for you to embrace patience when success seems far.

6.Ego results in Poor Decision Making

The ego desires acknowledgment and acceptance. For this reason, it results in you making decisions that align with the need for glory and fame instead of making decisions that will help build your career or improve your skills. Besides this, it prevents you from asking for advice when making important decisions because it makes you excessively arrogant.

7.The Ego Makes You Judgmental

The ego loves judging people so that it feels better than them. It makes you focus on finding faults with other people so that you feel superior to them.

Judging is bad because it disconnects you from love hence preventing you from aligning with Infinite Intelligence, which is a loving power.

8.The Ego Leads to Envy

The ego makes you believe you are the only one who deserves progress hence making you envious when you see other people make progress.

Read ‘Why Ego is the Main Source of Anger and Envy’ for more details on how the ego causes envy.

Conclusions

That being said, you must learn to control your ego because its negative effects can lead to unhappiness and prevent you from making progress.

Thanks For Reading

Hope you enjoyed reading the major reasons that make ego the enemy. You are free to add more reasons why ego is the enemy in the comment box below.

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Three Amazing Factors That Prove God is Highly Interested in the Continuation of All Living Things

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N/B – In the article, I use the terms, ‘God’ and ‘him’ to refer to The Creator/Infinite Intelligence/The Universe/The Source of All Things.

While meditating on the relationship between God and the physical world, it dawned on me that God is highly interested in all living things and ‘he’ can’t live without them.

He thus programmed living things in the following ways to ensure their continuity.

He programmed most living things to:

1.Fear Death

Many living things, including us, are programmed to fear death. For this reason, we run for our lives when we face death although we don’t know what will happen after we die.

Everything could have gone extinct if all creatures never feared death. The Creator thus ensured most creatures survive by making them fear death, and avoid it when possible.

2.Love Mating

The Creator could have designed sex to be the most boring thing on earth. After all, he can do anything. However, he made sex a pleasurable activity to make many living things want to engage in it. Besides, he designed the sexual urge to be so irresistible to many creatures that some kill each other and risk injury for sex.

Sex is unavoidable, and individuals who abstain for long periods suffer from cardiovascular diseases, stress, and a weak immune system. Some creatures, for instance, dogs become very aggressive if you deny them their right to mate. Besides this, even if you try to abstain, the sexual urge will make you desire sex. This urge wants you to preserve the human species.

If God could not have designed sex to be irresistible, all living things could have abstained from it, and the abstinence would have led to their extinction. For this reason, sex was meant to ensure the continuation of all living things.

3.To Be Harsh With Their Young

Many creatures are designed to fiercely protect their young. The Creator programmed animals to be protective with their young to ensure the continuation of all species. Many creatures would have gone extinct if their parents never protected them fiercely.

Concluding Remarks

With this in mind, it’s clear that God treasures our survival so much that he doesn’t allow extinction. He could have allowed the extinction of all living things to happen a long time ago if he wanted, but he avoids doing so because he treasures the physical world. Maybe he can’t survive without us because he deeply loves us or he is us.

What’s your opinion on this topic? Why do you think God is highly interested in the continuation of all living things?

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