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Three Unbelievable Factors That Make You Care What Other People Say/Think, And How To Deal With Them

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11 months ago

April 27, 2018

One of the leading causes of anxiety is worrying too much about what other people think/say about us.

Besides causing anxiety, caring what other people say/think about you limits authenticity and eradicates self-confidence. Therefore, you must avoid this behavior at all costs because its disastrous effects can prevent you from making progress.

For you to stop caring about other people’s opinions/thoughts, you must identify the primary causes of this behavior, and deal with them effectively.

I managed to pinpoint the three main factors that make you succumb to this behavior.

Insecurity

Being insecure means, you do not believe in yourself. An insecure person doubts his abilities and believes that there’s nothing significant s/he can do.

Insecurity makes you care what other people say because it often seeks validation. When you don’t believe in yourself, you will always want people to tell you that something is good before you do it.For example, you won’t pursue a particular career if people think it’s not a good one, or you won’t wear a particular dress if people say they don’t like it.

Therefore, the more insecure you feel, the more you will care about what other people think/say, because you will always seek validation.

Advice

Build your self-esteem because you will never seek people’s approval if you have high self-worth. Therefore, you will never care what people say/think about you.

A Huge Ego

The ego is the beliefs/ideas you have about yourself. It can also be defined as how you feel about yourself.

A big ego makes you believe that you are more important than others.

A huge ego ensures that you care what others think/say, because you’ll always want people to praise and talk about you when you have a big ego.

Besides this, a massive ego will make you believe that everybody is thinking about you. Therefore, it will make you always concerned with what others are thinking/saying about you

Advice

Embrace humility. When you are humble, you will not need recognition to reinforce your sense of self-importance. Therefore, you will care less about other people’s thoughts/opinions about you.

Lack of Something Useful to Focus On

It’s easy to fall into the trap of caring what people think/say if you don’t have something useful to focus on.

Your mind is like a fertile garden. It will lean towards factors such as negativity, gossip, and thinking about other people’s opinions if it doesn’t have something important to focus on.

Advice

When you focus on a project/goal, you’ll seldom care about other people’s opinions about you, because your mind will concentrate on how it will achieve this goal.

Therefore, if you find yourself idle, find something constructive that you love, and lose yourself in it. The moment you immerse yourself in a project/goal, you will have no time to think about people’s opinions because the mind can only focus on one thing. You will only think about your project, and you will seldom care about what other people think of you.

Concluding Remarks

In conclusion, if you tend to care so much about other people’s opinions, you can eliminate the habit by building your self-esteem, practicing humility, and finding something useful to focus on.

I never care about people’s opinions about me, and I find my life incredibly peaceful. I often do whatever I want, whenever I want. And, I follow my ‘unrealistic,’ dreams because I managed to ignore what people think or say about me.

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Why Ego is the Main Source of Anger and Envy (Ego Part 2)

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1 week ago

March 11, 2019

Isaac Wechuli

After realizing that the ego impedes personal growth, I decided to study and contemplate about it. It then dawned on me that the ego is our enemy because it’s the primary source of anger and envy.

The ego as I defined in the article, The Era of the Ego and the Destruction of Intuition, is a feeling of self-importance. The ego makes you believe you are more important than other members of the society and, therefore, you must be heard, respected, admired, and followed. It makes you believe that you are always right and everybody else is wrong.

The ego can result in you being angered by petty issues. For instance, it can make you outraged by any action or word that appears to disrespect you. Insults (even from kids), and petty jokes will make you angry if you are egoistic. You’ll even get mad when people ignore you or argue with you because the ego believes you deserve admiration and no one must argue against your beliefs because you are always right.

Anger arises when you misinterpret things. The ego will thus make you prone to anger since it’s the King of misinterpretation. For instance, if an individual accidentally steps on your foot, the ego will believe it was intentional hence making you angry.

Besides causing anger, the ego also causes envy. You become envious when you feel resentful when other people progress, succeed, or attain something you don’t have.

The ego causes envy because it hates to see others appear more important than you. If your neighbor succeeds or buys something you believe makes her more important than you, the ego feels bad because your neighbor’s progress makes it feel inferior or less important. The ego always wants you to be ahead of everybody so that you become the most important person. It’s hurt when others progress faster than you and appear more important hence making you feel envious.

For this reason, the next time you feel angry or envious, realize that it’s the ego causing these feelings. Then separate yourself from the ego and know that it’s an illusion since it isn’t your true self. Your true self is an extension of Infinite Intelligence/Cosmic Consciousness, and it never gets angry because it interprets everything positively. Moreover, it’s never envious because it understands that we are all connected and we must rejoice in others’ success.

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6 Unique Ways to Deal with Anxiety

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2 weeks ago

March 4, 2019

Isaac Wechuli

I used to suffer from chronic anxiety because I worried about everything. Luckily, I discovered how to eradicate this gnawing feeling.

Anxiety is mainly defined as ‘feelings of tension or worry about a future outcome.’ Many people today are anxious about everything. In the article, ‘The Era of Anxiety and the Destruction of Intuition,’ I described the factors that make modern society anxious.

Anyway, anxiety has many side-effects. It causes sleep problems, digestive disorders, and prevents us from having a clear mind. For this reason, you must strive to get rid of anxious thoughts whenever they attack you.

Here are 6 ways you can deal with anxious thoughts:

1.Meditate on Infinite Intelligence

Think about the power that created the universe. Think about its greatness and willingness to support life. Realize that it exists in all life forms including you, and therefore, you have nothing to worry about if the power that created the universe exists within you.

2.Watch Nature Documentaries

Watching nature documentaries makes you shift from worrying, to thinking about the wonders of the universe. They are my best treatment for anxiety.

Research reveals that they eradicate anxious thoughts because they increase positive emotions. Besides this, they evoke feelings of awe which studies reveal are a good treatment for anxiety.

3.Sing a Song of Praise

I started singing songs of praise to Infinite Intelligence/God after realizing that they eradicate anxiety. Anxiety mainly attacks you when you focus too much on yourself. The songs of praise thus eliminate anxiety as they make you focus on Infinite Intelligence.

N/B – I used to be against songs of praise because I believed there is no need to praise God. However, I embraced them after realizing that God has to be praised. If we praise our friends, families, and strangers for their accomplishments, why can’t we praise God for what ‘he’ has done?

“Were I a nightingale, I would act the part of a nightingale; were I a swan, the part of a swan, but since I am a reasonable creature, it is my duty to praise God.” – Epictetus, Stoic Philosopher.

4.Realize that You Can Die At Any Moment

Knowing this fact about death enables you to realize that you might be worrying about a future that might arrive when you are dead. It makes you live in the moment and stop worrying about an unguaranteed future.

5.Realize That Anxiety is Bad for You

Know that anxiety is bad for you as it causes increased blood pressure, breathing problems, digestive disorders, and erectile dysfunction (for men). It also reduces productivity, and destroys your intuitive abilities.

Being conscious of the side effects of anxiety will enable you to quickly recognize and ignore anxious thoughts hence preventing you from succumbing to anxiety.

6..Try Medical Marijuana

I used to be against marijuana, but I adopted a positive attitude towards it after realizing that most ancient cultures involved it in their religious practices. Ancient cultures realized its importance on our mental health.

Today, studies have realized that marijuana temporarily eliminates anxious thoughts as it makes individuals feel calm. It also relieves the symptoms of anxiety by making individuals think everything is okay.

N/B – However, you must only use marijuana when free because it will reduce your productivity.

Apart from the above methods, I believe there are many other ways to deal with anxious thoughts. You are free to mention them in the comment box below:

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