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Three Unbelievable Factors That Make You Care What Other People Say/Think, And How To Deal With Them

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4 weeks ago

April 27, 2018

One of the leading causes of anxiety is worrying too much about what other people think/say about us.

Besides causing anxiety, caring what other people say/think about you limits authenticity and eradicates self-confidence. Therefore, you must avoid this behaviour at all costs because its disastrous effects can prevent you from making progress.

For you to stop caring about other people’s opinions/thoughts, you must identify the primary causes of this behaviour, and deal with them effectively.

I managed to pinpoint the three main factors that make you succumb to this behaviour.

Insecurity

Being insecure means, you do not believe in yourself. An insecure person doubts his abilities and believes that there’s nothing significant s/he can do.

Insecurity makes you care what other people say because it often seeks validation. When you don’t believe in yourself, you will always want people to tell you that something is good before you do it.For example, you won’t pursue a particular career if people think it’s not a good one, or you won’t wear a particular dress if people say they don’t like it.

Therefore, the more insecure you feel, the more you will care about what other people think/say, because you will always seek validation.

Advice

Build your self-esteem because you will never seek people’s approval if you have high self-worth. Therefore, you will never care what people say/think about you.

A Huge Ego

The ego is the beliefs/ideas you have about yourself. It can also be defined as how you feel about yourself.

A big ego makes you believe that you are more important than others.

A huge ego ensures that you care what others think/say, because you’ll always want people to praise and talk about you when you have a big ego.

Besides this, a massive ego will make you believe that everybody is thinking about you. Therefore, it will make you always concerned with what others are thinking/saying about you

Advice

Embrace humility. When you are humble, you will not need recognition to reinforce your sense of self-importance. Therefore, you will care less about other people’s thoughts/opinions about you.

Lack of Something Useful to Focus On

It’s easy to fall into the trap of caring what people think/say if you don’t have something useful to focus on.

Your mind is like a fertile garden. It will lean towards factors such as negativity, gossip, and thinking about other people’s opinions if it doesn’t have something important to focus on.

Advice

When you focus on a project/goal, you’ll seldom care about other people’s opinions about you, because your mind will concentrate on how it will achieve this goal.

Therefore, if you find yourself idle, find something constructive that you love, and lose yourself in it. The moment you immerse yourself in a project/goal, you will have no time to think about people’s opinions because the mind can only focus on one thing. You will only think about your project, and you will seldom care about what other people think of you.

Concluding Remarks

In conclusion, if you tend to care so much about other people’s opinions, you can eliminate the habit by building your self-esteem, practicing humility, and finding something useful to focus on.

I never care about people’s opinions about me, and I find my life incredibly peaceful. I often do whatever I want, whenever I want. And, I follow my ‘unrealistic,’ dreams because I managed to ignore what people think or say about me.

Thank You So Much For Reading.

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The Top Four Incredible Factors That Determine The Size of Your Dreams/Goals

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2 weeks ago

May 9, 2018

Isaac Wechuli

The size of your dream greatly determines what you will achieve in life.

Small dreams will ensure that you achieve small things while big dreams make you achieve big things. All individuals who made major achievements had big dreams.

Recently, I asked my friends and family members about their dreams, and I realized that we all have dreams but some of us have small dreams, while others have big ones.

For instance, some of my friends dream of changing the world. Others dream of becoming presidents, and wealthy businessmen. Conversely, others just want to own an average home, and live an ordinary lifestyle.

Besides my friends, I asked many other people about their dreams, and I realized the same thing: not everybody has a big dream. I, therefore, conducted a research on the world’s most influential people, and I tried to pinpoint the things that made them dream bigger.

I also looked at my dreams, my state of mind, my life experience, and I managed to realize the main factors that determine the size of our dreams.

Here are they

Information

Information greatly determines the size of your dream.

You will have big dreams if you read books about successful individuals, and how they achieved their dreams because they will make you realize that anyone can achieve big dreams.

Reading books that teach success will also make you set big dreams because the books will enlighten you on how to set and achieve big things.

People with limited information about success set small dreams because they don’t realize that great achievers were ordinary people from normal and even poor family backgrounds.

Self-esteem

Self-esteem refers to your sense of personal value.

If you place a high value on yourself you will set big dreams because you’ll believe that you can achieve them. Besides this, you will ensure your dreams are big because you’ll believe that you deserve big things.

However, you’ll set small dreams if you have a low sense of self-worth because you will believe that you are unworthy of big dreams.

Action

It also dawned on me that the amount of effort you invest in your career greatly determines the size of your dream.

In 2010, when Derrick Rose, a basketball player, was asked if he could be among the top players of the league, he said that he believed he will be the Most Valuable Player of the League because he worked so hard in his career.

For this reason, the amount of effort people invest in their careers greatly determines the size of their dreams. People, who work so hard, believe that they can achieve big dreams because action breeds faith.

Age

When we were children we had very big dreams. For instance, I remember one of my friends, Collins Githinji, dreamt of having a football field in his living room. You think his dream was big?

I dreamt of building a house on the moon, and I was serious about it. I could get really mad if anyone told me this dream was impossible.

Anyway, the older we grow, the smaller our dreams become because we come face to face with ‘reality.’ We adopt negative belief systems and limited ideologies that make us lack faith in big dreams.

Furthermore, when we become older, we set smaller dreams because we believe that it’s too late for us to achieve big dreams. Little do we know that we can set and achieve big dreams at an old age because people like Harry Bernstein, and Gladys Burrill, became successful in their 90s.

Concluding Remarks

If you have big dreams, good for you. However, if you have small dreams, please start reading self-development books such as The Magic of Believing, and The Science of Getting Rich. These books will make you set big dreams because they show you how and why it’s possible for you to achieve anything you want.

Moreover, you will also start believing in big dreams if you work hard, and improve your self-esteem because hard work and a high self-worth will make you believe that you deserve the best.

Lastly, don’t let age make you avoid dreaming big. People have made it in their 60s, 80s, and even 90s.

Thank You So Much for Reading.

Which other factors do you believe affect the size of our dreams?

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Do You Want to Know Why You Envy Others? Here are the Six Main Factors that Make You Envious

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4 weeks ago

April 25, 2018

Isaac Wechuli

Envy is an emotion that occurs when you feel bad about other people’s possessions, or qualities. You primarily become envious when you lack a desired factor that you believe is enjoyed by another individual.

Envy is a dangerous emotion because it makes you feel inadequate, and leads to hate, frustration, and many more negative feelings. Therefore, you must strive to avoid being envious at all costs because of the catastrophic implications of envy.

To successfully avoid being envious, you must be aware of the main factors that make you vulnerable to envy.

For this reason, in this article, I will share with you the five main factors that make you envious.

Competition

Competition results in you feeling bad, especially when your competitor outperforms you. For this reason, you have high chances of being envious if you like competing because there are some moments in life when your competitor will outdo you.

Besides this, you must be cautious with competition because you might end up being envious all your life in case you’ll never outdo your competitor

Being too Concerned With Other People’s Lives

If you are so concerned with knowing other people’s affairs, you will probably become envious at some point, because you will keep identifying things that you don’t have, but other people have.

Inability to Get What You Want

My experience with envy enabled me to realize that the most envious people are those who fail to achieve their goals. It is easy for you to become hateful and envious towards those who easily get the things you wanted if you fail to get what you want.

Besides this, you easily become envious of successful people when you fail to achieve your goals because these individuals might make you feel like a failure.

Pessimism

Pessimism makes you believe that life will never work out for you. Therefore, if you see other people possessing the things you really desire, you start feeling bad because your pessimistic mindset makes you believe that these individuals are enjoying the things you’ll never have.

However, it’s difficult for an optimistic person to be envious because the individual firmly believes s/he will soon get whatever his neighbor or friend has.

Arrogance

An arrogant individual believes s/he deserves everything that is good because s/he is so important.

An arrogant person can’t avoid envy when his friend or neighbor progresses because he believes that his neighbors/friends don’t deserve progress as they are less important than him.

The absence of love

If you are hateful towards a particular person, you will definitely become envious if this person progresses in life. However, where there is love, there is no envy because a loving heart wishes the best for everybody.

Concluding Remarks

Envy is a dangerous feeling, and you must avoid it at all costs. The next time you feel envious check the above list and realize where your envy is coming from.

I strive to avoid feeling envious because of its implications. For instance, it’s difficult to work hard on your projects when you are envious because you will often focus your energy on those you are envious to. Furthermore, any action you take with a negative emotion is weak because negativity creates resistance that prevents you from falling into alignment with the universal flow.

Therefore, I pray that you to find love in your heart so that you avoid envy by wishing the best for everybody.

Which other factors make people vulnerable to envy? Feel free to air your opinion in the comment box below.

Thank You So Much for Reading.

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