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Three Unbelievable Factors That Make You Care What Other People Say/Think, And How To Deal With Them

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One of the leading causes of anxiety is worrying too much about what other people think/say.

Besides causing anxiety, caring what other people say/think prevents authenticity. Therefore, you must avoid this behavior because its disastrous effects can prevent you from progressing.

For you to stop caring about other people’s opinions/thoughts, you must identify the primary causes of this behavior and deal with them effectively.

I managed to pinpoint the three main factors that make you succumb to this behavior.

1.Insecurity

An insecure person doubts his abilities and believes there’s nothing significant s/he can do.

Insecurity makes you care what other people say because it loves seeking approval. When you don’t believe in yourself, you’ll always seek people’s opinions before doing something.

Advice

Build your self-esteem because you’ll never seek people’s approval if you have high self-worth.

2.A Huge Ego

The ego is a feeling of self-importance.

A huge ego makes you believe you are more important than others. It thus ensures that you care what others think/say because it always wants people to talk about you.

Besides this, a massive ego will make you concerned with other people’s thoughts/opinions because it deceives you that everybody is thinking about you.

Advice

Embrace humility because you won’t need people to reinforce your sense of self-importance when you are humble.

3.Lack of Something Useful to Focus On

Your mind will lean towards factors such as negativity, gossip, and thinking about other people’s opinions if it doesn’t have something important to focus on.

Advice

Set a goal and focus on it because you’ll have no time to think about people’s opinions when you are focused on your goals.

Concluding Remarks

If you care so much about other people’s opinions, you can eliminate the habit by building your self-esteem, practicing humility, and finding something useful to focus on.

I never care about people’s opinions about me, and I find my life incredibly peaceful. I often do whatever I want, whenever I want. And, I follow my ‘unrealistic,’ dreams because I managed to ignore what people think or say about me.

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  1. Cathy Chapman

    April 27, 2018 at 5:05 pm

    I love the “lack of something useful to focus on.” When we are focused on something meaningful, we “forget” to check in on what others might be saying.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      April 27, 2018 at 5:45 pm

      true, I discovered this from my experience. it dawned on me that I mostly succumbed to caring what people thought about me when I was idle

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The Statistics of the Dead and Why I Choose to be Grateful

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The Statistics of the Dead and Why I Choose to be Grateful

If more than 150,000 people die every month, and today none of your friends or family members is dead, then you have a big reason to smile.’ – Sadhguru, Indian Mystic.

Before falling in love with esoteric philosophy, I used to be sad and angry about nothing. My focus on material possessions and the social status prevented me from noticing the infinite blessings I had.

I worried about not having more possessions than my friends, and I was angry at life because some people – who I thought were happy – despised me. This crap ended after I stumbled upon the above quote, meditated on it, and researched about the world’s death rates.

I discovered that more than 2,000 people die every day in car crashes, and about 1 million people die in road crashes every year. Besides car crashes, more than 2.5 million people die from diseases every year, and in total, about 40 million people die every year.

Moreover, I realized that the world has lost about 30 million people from January 1st, 2019 to July 15th, 2019.

These statistics enlightened me that more than 5,000 people die every day, and therefore, more than 10,000 people mourn every day. It then dawned on me that I am a blessed person who must be happy every day because all my family members are alive.

Again, the death statistics reminded me of how stupid I had been: I always worried about lacking replaceable material possessions instead of being thankful that the most precious people in my life were alive. People who are more willing to help me than the rest of the world

I thus shifted my focus from worry to being grateful for the amazing irreplaceable people I had; the only magnificent beings who can go out of their way to help me.

For this reason, I smile every day when I wake up in the morning and fail to receive death news about my family members. I know I will lose my loved ones one day, but in this period that they are alive, I know I have a BIG reason to be happy and thankful for the mysterious grace that keeps them alive.

May the Infinite Intelligence bless all your family members, and enlighten you about their importance in your life so that you love and be grateful for them.

May Peace of Mind be With You.

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8 Major Reasons Why Ego is the Enemy

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8 Major Reasons Why Ego is the Enemy

Ego is an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Although it has enabled many individuals to succeed, its side effects have made it the main cause of failure, hatred, separation, and all other negative factors. Here, I’ll enlighten you about the disadvantages of the ego by providing the eight major reasons why ego is the enemy.

1.Ego is Competitive

The ego makes you competitive because it wants you to be better than everyone else. It wants to feel important because it hates equality. This competitive mindset induced by the ego makes you less creative and impatient. Besides, it makes it difficult for you to collaborate with people to achieve a common goal.

2.Ego Prevents You From Focusing on the Process

It’s difficult to build your skills when you are egotistic because the ego focuses more on the end-goal than the process. It mostly cares about results, showing off, glory, and admiration, hence increasing your chances of failure.

3.Ego Prevents You From Making Friends

The ego prevents you from making friends because it makes you arrogant and self-centered. Few people love arrogant, and self-centered folks because they are prone to envy and hate. Furthermore, the ego prevents you from making friends because it loves dominating all conversations to prove that you know everything.

4.Ego makes you Overestimate Your Abilities

Ego makes you believe you can handle everything on your own hence preventing you from working with others. It also makes you unwilling to learn from other folks because it believes you know everything. Moreover, it eliminates the desire to improve your skills because it makes you think you are too skilled for improvement.

5.Ego Makes you Give up Easily

The ego focuses on the outcome and therefore makes you give up easily when you don’t get the desired outcome after a certain period. Moreover, it wants quick success and will thus make it difficult for you to embrace patience when success seems far.

6.Ego results in Poor Decision Making

The ego desires acknowledgment and acceptance. For this reason, it results in you making decisions that align with the need for glory and fame instead of making decisions that will help build your career or improve your skills. Besides this, it prevents you from asking for advice when making important decisions because it makes you excessively arrogant.

7.The Ego Makes You Judgmental

The ego loves judging people so that it feels better than them. It makes you focus on finding faults with other people so that you feel superior to them.

Judging is bad because it disconnects you from love hence preventing you from aligning with Infinite Intelligence, which is a loving power.

8.The Ego Leads to Envy

The ego makes you believe you are the only one who deserves progress hence making you envious when you see other people make progress.

Read ‘Why Ego is the Main Source of Anger and Envy’ for more details on how the ego causes envy.

Conclusions

That being said, you must learn to control your ego because its negative effects can lead to unhappiness and prevent you from making progress.

Thanks For Reading

Hope you enjoyed reading the major reasons that make ego the enemy. You are free to add more reasons why ego is the enemy in the comment box below.

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