Connect with us

IDEAS

Three Unbelievable Factors That Make You Care What Other People Say/Think, And How To Deal With Them

Published

on

One of the leading causes of anxiety is worrying too much about what other people think/say about us.

Besides causing anxiety, caring what other people say/think about you limits authenticity and eradicates self-confidence. Therefore, you must avoid this behavior at all costs because its disastrous effects can prevent you from making progress.

For you to stop caring about other people’s opinions/thoughts, you must identify the primary causes of this behavior, and deal with them effectively.

I managed to pinpoint the three main factors that make you succumb to this behavior.

  1. Insecurity

Being insecure means, you do not believe in yourself. An insecure person doubts his abilities and believes that there’s nothing significant s/he can do.

Insecurity makes you care what other people say because it often seeks validation. When you don’t believe in yourself, you will always want people to tell you that something is good before you do it.For example, you won’t pursue a particular career if people think it’s not a good one, or you won’t wear a particular dress if people say they don’t like it.

Therefore, the more insecure you feel, the more you will care about what other people think/say, because you will always seek validation.

Advice

Build your self-esteem because you will never seek people’s approval if you have high self-worth. Therefore, you will never care what people say/think about you.

  1. A Huge Ego

The ego is the beliefs/ideas you have about yourself. It can also be defined as how you feel about yourself.

A big ego makes you believe that you are more important than others.

A huge ego ensures that you care what others think/say, because you’ll always want people to praise and talk about you when you have a big ego.

Besides this, a massive ego will make you believe that everybody is thinking about you. Therefore, it will make you always concerned with what others are thinking/saying about you

Advice

Embrace humility. When you are humble, you will not need recognition to reinforce your sense of self-importance. Therefore, you will care less about other people’s thoughts/opinions about you.

  1. Lack of Something Useful to Focus On

It’s easy to fall into the trap of caring what people think/say if you don’t have something useful to focus on.

Your mind is like a fertile garden. It will lean towards factors such as negativity, gossip, and thinking about other people’s opinions if it doesn’t have something important to focus on.

Advice

When you focus on a project/goal, you’ll seldom care about other people’s opinions about you, because your mind will concentrate on how it will achieve this goal.

Therefore, if you find yourself idle, find something constructive that you love, and lose yourself in it. The moment you immerse yourself in a project/goal, you will have no time to think about people’s opinions because the mind can only focus on one thing. You will only think about your project, and you will seldom care about what other people think of you.

Concluding Remarks

In conclusion, if you tend to care so much about other people’s opinions, you can eliminate the habit by building your self-esteem, practicing humility, and finding something useful to focus on.

I never care about people’s opinions about me, and I find my life incredibly peaceful. I often do whatever I want, whenever I want. And, I follow my ‘unrealistic,’ dreams because I managed to ignore what people think or say about me.

Thank You So Much For Reading.

follow me on Twitter and Facebook. Twitter username – Isaac Wechuli. Facebook Username – Wechul Isaac

Facebook Group – The Unbounded Wisdom Community

Also, if you enjoyed this post, please consider sharing it on social media platforms, i.e facebook, instagram, or twitter.

N/B – Photography – @simplykech – 0735891691

DON’T FORGET TO SUBSCRIBE

Continue Reading
2 Comments

2 Comments

  1. Cathy Chapman

    April 27, 2018 at 5:05 pm

    I love the “lack of something useful to focus on.” When we are focused on something meaningful, we “forget” to check in on what others might be saying.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      April 27, 2018 at 5:45 pm

      true, I discovered this from my experience. it dawned on me that I mostly succumbed to caring what people thought about me when I was idle

Leave a Reply

HIDDEN TRUTHS

4 Sad Reasons Why Life is Tough For Most People

Published

on

Today, life is almost tough for everyone, and for this reason, many folks are depressed. Recently, the World Health Organization revealed that suicide rates caused by depression have increased by 60 percent since the 1950s. Besides this, physicians claim that depression will be the most widespread mental illness in the next two years.

Anyway, people all over the world are complaining about life’s toughness, and almost everyone doubts if life is really a blessing. However, if you take a closer look at life, you’ll realize that it’s absurd to conclude that life is hard because some people are living a peaceful and easy life.

That being said, I firmly believe that those who believe life is difficult are mostly responsible for making it tough. For instance, a young man who struggles to make ends meet because he started a family before he became financially stable is fully responsible for toughening his life.

Like this young man, most of us are responsible for making our lives tough, and we end up concluding that life is tough.

In today’s article, I will share with you four reasons why life is tough for most people.

  1. Many People are doing what they hate

Life is tough for many individuals around the world because they are working in jobs they hate five to six days a week. They hate their bosses and their workplaces, but they continue working because they believe that’s the only way to survive.

There is no way life can be easy for you if you do what you hate 24/7. You will definitely become depressed and life will be difficult for you because you will be continuously forcing yourself to work.

I believe The Creator intended us to work, but he never designed work to be tedious and boring. Work was meant to be adventurous, exciting, and fulfilling because it helps us survive. However, we have been conditioned to believe that we have to work in boring jobs all our life for us to have what we want. For this reason, many people do what they hate and they end up making their lives hard.

People who do what they love don’t necessarily find life easy but at least their lives are meaningful because they wake up eager to work.

  1. People Are Living Beyond Their Means

Today, many folks are living beyond their means because they want to appear successful. These behavior makes their lives tough because it makes them to constantly get into debt.

You will never enjoy life if you constantly live beyond your means because deep inside, you will always know that you are living a lie. Besides this, you will always be unsatisfied with your life, because you will constantly compare yourself with others who are far better than you. These factors will make life difficult for you.

  1. We don’t care about each other

Life is tough for many people also because we rarely help each other. In ancient Africa, people found life easier because we were so kind to each other that we left food and water at our doorsteps for people to eat and drink.

However, today life is tough for many individuals because the modern society is selfish and egocentric. We care less about each other, and we seldom bother helping people who are going through hard times hence making life tough for them. We adhere to stupid notions like, ‘Every man for himself and God for us all,’ because we have become an individualistic and stupid society that focuses on showing off useless and valueless things instead of helping each other.

I believe life would have been easier if we all loved and helped each other. We could have created a heaven on earth if everybody was kind and generous.

  1. People Are Stuck in Unhappy Marriages

Life is extremely tough to folks who can’t get out of unhappy or abusive marriages. These folks know that the only way they can experience happiness and freedom is to leave their marriages but they can’t do so because they fear the consequences of divorce or separation. They, therefore, resolve to live a tough marriage life full of constant fights because they believe it’s the only option.

Life is obviously tough for these guys because they are forced to live with the people they don’t love 24/7. How is that possible?

Conclusion

Is life tough for you? Do you agree with me on the above reasons why people find life to be tough? I believe life is only tough because we toughen it. And for this reason, we can make it a little bit easier if we help each other, and avoid doing what we hate

You are welcome to air your views in the comment box below

You are welcome to join my facebook group, Unbounded Wisdom Community for discussions, and powerful quotes

JOIN MY EMAIL LIST FOR UPDATES AND PERSONAL DISCUSSIONS

Continue Reading

IDEAS

4 Main Challenges Dream Chasers Face

Published

on

It recently dawned on me that the few individuals who have the courage to chase their dreams often give up because of the challenges they face on the journey.

As a dream chaser, I have faced both small and large obstacles that made me realize how easy it is to give up on dream chasing. These hurdles made me realize that people who dreamt big and now live their dreams truly deserve them because they overcame the following TOP 4 CHALLENGES DREAM CHASERS face.

  1. Things Not Going As Expected

One major challenge I realized dream chasers face, is that things seldom go as they anticipated. When they start chasing their dreams, dream chasers often believe that everything will go as planned. However, during the journey, they realize that almost nothing goes according to their plans. Unexpected obstacles pop-up and their dreams take long to come true.

My research on people who live their dreams made me realize that these individuals also experienced this phenomenon. Most of them reveal that things never went their way for some time, but eventually, they got more than what they expected because they kept pushing themselves harder.

  1. The Lack of Money

Almost every dream requires capital for it to come to true. However, not every dreamer has the capital to actualize their dream. For this reason, many individuals are often forced to continuously borrow money from family and friends, and take odd jobs for them to fund their dreams.

  1. The Need to Let Go Anyone That Doesn’t Support Their Dreams

When they start chasing their dreams, many individuals often realize that they have to keep distance from people who don’t believe in achieving dreams.

Personally, I realized that I had to avoid the people – including friends and relatives – who don’t believe I will achieve my dreams because they always infect me with negative energy, and doubts that make me consider giving up. They usually demoralize me, and I always have to force myself to work whenever I associate with them. For this reason, I realized that I have to avoid them completely because chasing and achieving dreams requires positive energy.

Avoiding close friends and relatives for the sake of my dreams is very challenging, and initially, I felt sorry for doing that. However, it dawned on me that it’s the right thing to do because I am living my life, not theirs.

  1. Time

Many dreams/projects require a large investment of time though they often take long before they start producing financial returns. Therefore, dreamers always have to work for someone for them to pay their bills hence resulting in them having a small amount of time to work on their dreams despite the fact that actualizing dreams requires lots of time. Furthermore, within that small amount of time they have, they still have to allocate time for friends, family, exercise, and rest.

Some dreamers end up ignoring family, friends, and a healthy lifestyle so that they find ample time to work on their projects.

Concluding Remarks

Therefore, if you are planning to chase your dreams, be mentally prepared to face the above challenges.

Also, realize that dreams don’t come true easily, and those who achieve them deserve them because they transcended the above hurdles.  The only motivating factor is that these individuals are normal individuals like you and me, and IF THEY DID IT, WE CAN ALSO DO IT.

THE END

You are welcome to join my facebook group, Unbounded Wisdom Community for discussions and insightful quotes.

Also,

JOIN MY EMAIL LISTS FOR PERSONAL DISCUSSIONS AND REGULAR UPDATES.

Continue Reading

Trending