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5 Harmful Effects of Competition That Will Make You Quit Competing Right Now

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Most of us love competing with our friends, neighbors, and even family members. We try to be ahead of other individuals in everything we do.

We want to have a better car, a better lifestyle, and more money. We believe winning the social competition will bring us a sense of satisfaction. Therefore, we spend our time thinking about how we can outdo each other.

We fail to realize that competition is bad for us as it can result in us failing to achieve our goals because of its disastrous effects.

Today, I would like to encourage you to stop competing by sharing with you the adverse effects of competition.

  1. Competition makes you impatient

Success in anything requires patience because things take long to manifest in the physical world. However, competition makes you impatient because it makes you desire quick progress so that you beat your rival.

Besides this, when competing, you’ll be impatient because you’ll be in a race. You’ll always want to rush things to avoid the humiliation of being outdone.

  1. Your happiness will always depend on winning the competition

When competing, you’ll believe outdoing your rival will make you happier. Therefore, your happiness will depend on the outcome of the competition.

You’ll be sad if you lose the competition. And if you win, you’ll not be truly happy because you’ll worry about the possibility of your rival outdoing you.

  1. Competition can result in you making bad decisions

When your sole aim is to outdo your rival, you’ll use your competition as the basis for decision making. For this reason, there will be high chances of making poor decisions because you won’t take time to make decisions that are in alignment with your goals.

  1. Competition might result in overthinking

It’s hard to overthink when running your race because you’ll only be concerned with your progress. However, overthinking goes hand in hand with competition because when competing, you’ll always think about beating your competition.

  1. Competition will make you focus on your competitor instead of focusing on your progress.

Competition prevents you from progressing because it makes you focus on your competitor. You’ll always want to know your competitor’s progress, what he/she is doing, and the decisions he/she is making. Focusing on your competition requires a significant amount of time and energy and it will result in you putting less focus on your goals.

Concluding Remarks

If you want to be patient, happy, and stress-free, please run your own race. Also, stop competing if you want to make decisions that are in tune with your dreams.

I wrote this article from my experience. There was a time I used to compete with my friends but I realized competition is useless. It made me stressed because of overthinking.

I gained inner peace when I stopped competing. Today, I don’t compare my progress with other people’s progress. I run my own race, and I believe I’ll win.

Thank you for reading. And Remember,

‘You must get rid of the thought of competition. You are to create. Not to compete for what is already created’ – Wallace D. Wattles

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The Most Effective Gratitude Formula

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The Most Effective Gratitude Formula

I embraced gratitude after reading that gratitude is beneficial for one’s mental and spiritual health. However, I never experienced the benefits of gratitude even after practicing it for a while.

It then dawned on me that I used the wrong gratitude formula after reading Joe Vitale’s book, The Secret Prayer. In the book, Joe Vitale provides an amazing gratitude formula that enabled me to experience all the benefits of gratitude.

According to Joe Vitale, we must practice gratitude by being thankful for all the small things in our lives. He thus provided the following example of a gratitude prayer for a small pottery bowl:

‘Thank you, bowl, for being in my life and for being present in this corner of my desk to brighten and beautify this corner of my life. I am so deeply appreciative of your rich red, which reminds me of manifestation and the root chakra. I appreciate your red color, beautiful little pottery bowl. Thank you for reminding me how connected to the earth we are as I think about the clay, which the potter utilized to mold and shape you, beautiful pottery bowl (Joe Vitale, The Secret Prayer).’

This gratitude prayer reminded me about the many small things that I took for granted even though they helped me in my daily life. For this reason, I created gratitude prayers for my laptop, spoon, chair, table, cup, shoes, bed, mattress, and every small thing I had.

For instance, I thanked my laptop for enabling me to conduct internet research and post articles. Primarily, I thanked it for enabling me to make money from home. Besides this, I thanked my mattress for enabling me to sleep comfortably, and for reminding me that some people sleep on a cold floor.

The gratitude prayers for my laptop, mattress and all other small things made me realize that I always take my blessings for granted. I realized how foolish I was not to notice that I am blessed with the little things I need to live a comfortable life.

You must also try this gratitude formula and you’ll be amazed by how it will make you a positive and happy person. Create a gratitude prayer for everything that makes you happy or comfortable.  By doing this, you’ll realize that you are always blessed even in hard times because you never lack the small but important things. You seldom lack food to eat, clothes to wear, a bed to sleep, a phone to communicate with your loved ones, and many other things.

Peace be with you.

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7 Things We Must Stop Doing If We Want to be Happy

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We all want to be happy because happiness is a wonderful emotion. However, we seldom find happiness because we constantly do things that steal our happiness. Some people are conscious of these things, while most of us aren’t.

This article strives to increase your happiness levels by listing the seven major things we must stop doing if we want to be happier.

1.Living Up to the Society’s Expectations

We love living up to the society’s expectations, and we thus become unhappy when we are in a position that prevents us from aligning with what the society wants. Besides, living up to the society’s expectations makes us unhappy because it prevents us from being authentic.

2.Overanalyzing the Future

Overanalyzing the future by trying to pinpoint all possibilities steals our happiness because it results in anxiety. It makes us constantly worry about the things that can go wrong, even when they are beyond our control.

3.Wanting What Others Have

Most of us are addicted to wanting what celebrities, politicians and our Facebook friends have. We think we’ll live happier lives if we obtain what these folks have. Little do we know that wanting what others have causes unhappiness because it results in envy and makes us feel inadequate. 

4.Watching the News

The News makes us over-focus on the negative part of life by showing us how other people are suffering, and it usually results in us worrying about things that are beyond our circle of influence.

5.Forcing People to Behave the Way We Want

We become frustrated when we force people to behave the way we want because we can’t control their environment, thoughts, and everything that affects their behavior. I stopped forcing my friends and siblings to behave the way I want, and I strived to accept their behavior after realizing that my efforts often resulted in anger and disappointment, which eventually made me unhappy.

6.Identifying With Our Material Possessions

Identifying our worth with our material possessions leads to sadness when we lose them. Moreover, it results in us constantly worrying about losing our possessions and how we’ll replace them.

7.Holding Grudges

‘Anger, resentment, and hatred are poisons that you drink, and you expect somebody else to die.’ –Sadhguru, Indian Mystic

Holding a grudge against someone makes us unhappy because it leads to negative emotions such as anger, hate, jealousy, and resentment. Furthermore, it makes us dwell on bad feelings or the events that led to the grudge. Also, it prevents us from enjoying the present moment by making us focus on how we’ll get back at those who wronged us.

Conclusion

The universe provided us with everything we need to be happy. However, we sabotage our happiness by doing the above things. We must, therefore, stop doing them if we want to be happy.

THE END

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