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6 Types Of Friends You Must Let Go Right Now If You Want To Follow Your Dreams

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A few years ago, I had friends in almost every city because I never cared about a person’s character before allowing him/her in my inner circle. But today, I have few friends because I choose friends based on how a person will help me advance in the direction of my dreams.

I made this decision because I realized that friends have a major impact on an individual’s life, and thus keeping friends with certain characteristics might make me go in the wrong direction.

I noticed the types of friends that could drag me down and prevent me from reaching my dreams. I believe I must share them with you.

Here are 6 friends you must let go immediately if you want to follow your dreams.

  1. Criticizers

These types of friends criticize almost everything you do. They criticize your spouse, your clothes, decisions, or lifestyle. They never say anything positive about you because they mostly focus on your flaws.

You must avoid such friends because they’ll make you doubt your abilities and strategies hence making it difficult for you to pursue your dreams. They will also lower your self-esteem, which is a crucial element for dream chasers.

  1. Purposeless Friends

Purposeless friends don’t have a major goal in life. They perceive their free time as a time to party, gossip, and do many other useless activities. You must avoid purposeless folks at all costs because they will waste your time as they’ll always want you to take part in their purposeless activities when you are free.

  1. Spendthrift Friends

These types of friends are big spenders, and they are comfortable spending their money recklessly on unnecessary things. They seldom save their money because they love spending to the last penny. Avoid these friends because they’ll make it hard for you to save money and invest in your dreams since they will be happy with you only when you spend like them: they will think you are a miser if you keep saving funds for emergencies or investment purposes.

  1. Friends Who Love Competing With You

These types of friends always check your progress, and they love outdoing you in everything. However, they become jealous or angry when you outdo them.

These friends will make you want to compete with them hence distracting you from your dreams. They will infect you with the competitive energy which will result in you constantly assessing their progress and losing sight of what you are supposed to do for you to live the life of your dreams.

  1. Friends Who Love Arguing A lot

I had friends who loved arguing about sports, religion, relationships, and everything under the sun. I entertained them because I also loved arguing. However, I started avoiding them when I realized that arguments are time wasting and useless. They make friends angry at each other to the point of wanting to fight. With this in mind, you must advise your friends to stop arguing or ditch them if they can’t dump this behaviour.

  1. Friends Your Father Warned You About

My dad used to warn me about my friends but I loved ignoring his precious advice. However, I knew he was right when some of my ‘friends’ did stupid actions in his presence. This phenomenon made me realize that parents always know the people who are truly your friends and those who aren’t. They know the difference between friends who will help you progress and those who won’t.

Therefore, the next time your father warns you about certain friends, try to check if these friends are helping you progress and dump them for good if they are USELESS.

Conclusion

Assess your close friends and check if they are helping you meet your biggest goals. Thank Life if you realize that all your friends are helping you progress quickly towards your ideal life. Treasure such friends and never ever destroy your relationship with them. Ask for forgiveness if you hurt them because they are one of the most precious assets you have on the journey to success. However, if you realize that your friends aren’t adding any value to your life, you must let go of them right now before it’s too late.

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  1. Steve

    September 12, 2018 at 10:27 am

    My circle is pretty much small, but no 2 and 3 type of friends are the worst one can have. Thanks for sharing this insightful piece Isaac.

  2. Isaac Wechuli

    September 12, 2018 at 3:02 pm

    me too, men, i like saving money, and i’m all in fulfilling my purpose..nwayz, thanks a lot man

  3. Fai

    January 17, 2019 at 1:49 pm

    I have countable friends, I can’t even count they are less than 5

  4. lynhicks

    January 17, 2019 at 8:54 pm

    Very fine words to reflect on. Woman have more friends I believe than most men and we are more involved in each others lives often. I grew up in the same town I am in and often we have long time loyalty that isn’t really the best use of support. I thank you for your review and notice how often people naturally fall off. Good to take this into account as we enter a new cycle!

  5. Karen Sammer

    January 18, 2019 at 7:44 am

    Great advice…thanks for sharing. I think as we get older, we weed out the ones who drain our energy. Life is too short to waste it on people who don’t support us.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      January 18, 2019 at 8:07 am

      yes, exactly, Karen Summer, at a young age we dint care who we welcomed in our inner circle, but as we grow and set goals we are forced to avoid those who won’t help us achieve our goals

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The Most Effective Gratitude Formula

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The Most Effective Gratitude Formula

I embraced gratitude after reading that gratitude is beneficial for one’s mental and spiritual health. However, I never experienced the benefits of gratitude even after practicing it for a while.

It then dawned on me that I used the wrong gratitude formula after reading Joe Vitale’s book, The Secret Prayer. In the book, Joe Vitale provides an amazing gratitude formula that enabled me to experience all the benefits of gratitude.

According to Joe Vitale, we must practice gratitude by being thankful for all the small things in our lives. He thus provided the following example of a gratitude prayer for a small pottery bowl:

‘Thank you, bowl, for being in my life and for being present in this corner of my desk to brighten and beautify this corner of my life. I am so deeply appreciative of your rich red, which reminds me of manifestation and the root chakra. I appreciate your red color, beautiful little pottery bowl. Thank you for reminding me how connected to the earth we are as I think about the clay, which the potter utilized to mold and shape you, beautiful pottery bowl (Joe Vitale, The Secret Prayer).’

This gratitude prayer reminded me about the many small things that I took for granted even though they helped me in my daily life. For this reason, I created gratitude prayers for my laptop, spoon, chair, table, cup, shoes, bed, mattress, and every small thing I had.

For instance, I thanked my laptop for enabling me to conduct internet research and post articles. Primarily, I thanked it for enabling me to make money from home. Besides this, I thanked my mattress for enabling me to sleep comfortably, and for reminding me that some people sleep on a cold floor.

The gratitude prayers for my laptop, mattress and all other small things made me realize that I always take my blessings for granted. I realized how foolish I was not to notice that I am blessed with the little things I need to live a comfortable life.

You must also try this gratitude formula and you’ll be amazed by how it will make you a positive and happy person. Create a gratitude prayer for everything that makes you happy or comfortable.  By doing this, you’ll realize that you are always blessed even in hard times because you never lack the small but important things. You seldom lack food to eat, clothes to wear, a bed to sleep, a phone to communicate with your loved ones, and many other things.

Peace be with you.

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7 Things We Must Stop Doing If We Want to be Happy

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We all want to be happy because happiness is a wonderful emotion. However, we seldom find happiness because we constantly do things that steal our happiness. Some people are conscious of these things, while most of us aren’t.

This article strives to increase your happiness levels by listing the seven major things we must stop doing if we want to be happier.

1.Living Up to the Society’s Expectations

We love living up to the society’s expectations, and we thus become unhappy when we are in a position that prevents us from aligning with what the society wants. Besides, living up to the society’s expectations makes us unhappy because it prevents us from being authentic.

2.Overanalyzing the Future

Overanalyzing the future by trying to pinpoint all possibilities steals our happiness because it results in anxiety. It makes us constantly worry about the things that can go wrong, even when they are beyond our control.

3.Wanting What Others Have

Most of us are addicted to wanting what celebrities, politicians and our Facebook friends have. We think we’ll live happier lives if we obtain what these folks have. Little do we know that wanting what others have causes unhappiness because it results in envy and makes us feel inadequate. 

4.Watching the News

The News makes us over-focus on the negative part of life by showing us how other people are suffering, and it usually results in us worrying about things that are beyond our circle of influence.

5.Forcing People to Behave the Way We Want

We become frustrated when we force people to behave the way we want because we can’t control their environment, thoughts, and everything that affects their behavior. I stopped forcing my friends and siblings to behave the way I want, and I strived to accept their behavior after realizing that my efforts often resulted in anger and disappointment, which eventually made me unhappy.

6.Identifying With Our Material Possessions

Identifying our worth with our material possessions leads to sadness when we lose them. Moreover, it results in us constantly worrying about losing our possessions and how we’ll replace them.

7.Holding Grudges

‘Anger, resentment, and hatred are poisons that you drink, and you expect somebody else to die.’ –Sadhguru, Indian Mystic

Holding a grudge against someone makes us unhappy because it leads to negative emotions such as anger, hate, jealousy, and resentment. Furthermore, it makes us dwell on bad feelings or the events that led to the grudge. Also, it prevents us from enjoying the present moment by making us focus on how we’ll get back at those who wronged us.

Conclusion

The universe provided us with everything we need to be happy. However, we sabotage our happiness by doing the above things. We must, therefore, stop doing them if we want to be happy.

THE END

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