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7 Things We Must Stop Doing If We Want to be Happy

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We all want to be happy because happiness is a wonderful emotion. However, we seldom find happiness because we constantly do things that steal our happiness. Some people are conscious of these things, while most of us aren’t.

This article strives to increase your happiness levels by listing the seven major things we must stop doing if we want to be happier.

1.Living Up to the Society’s Expectations

We love living up to the society’s expectations, and we thus become unhappy when we are in a position that prevents us from aligning with what the society wants. Besides, living up to the society’s expectations makes us unhappy because it prevents us from being authentic.

2.Overanalyzing the Future

Overanalyzing the future by trying to pinpoint all possibilities steals our happiness because it results in anxiety. It makes us constantly worry about the things that can go wrong, even when they are beyond our control.

3.Wanting What Others Have

Most of us are addicted to wanting what celebrities, politicians and our Facebook friends have. We think we’ll live happier lives if we obtain what these folks have. Little do we know that wanting what others have causes unhappiness because it results in envy and makes us feel inadequate. 

4.Watching the News

The News makes us over-focus on the negative part of life by showing us how other people are suffering, and it usually results in us worrying about things that are beyond our circle of influence.

5.Forcing People to Behave the Way We Want

We become frustrated when we force people to behave the way we want because we can’t control their environment, thoughts, and everything that affects their behavior. I stopped forcing my friends and siblings to behave the way I want, and I strived to accept their behavior after realizing that my efforts often resulted in anger and disappointment, which eventually made me unhappy.

6.Identifying With Our Material Possessions

Identifying our worth with our material possessions leads to sadness when we lose them. Moreover, it results in us constantly worrying about losing our possessions and how we’ll replace them.

7.Holding Grudges

‘Anger, resentment, and hatred are poisons that you drink, and you expect somebody else to die.’ –Sadhguru, Indian Mystic

Holding a grudge against someone makes us unhappy because it leads to negative emotions such as anger, hate, jealousy, and resentment. Furthermore, it makes us dwell on bad feelings or the events that led to the grudge. Also, it prevents us from enjoying the present moment by making us focus on how we’ll get back at those who wronged us.

Conclusion

The universe provided us with everything we need to be happy. However, we sabotage our happiness by doing the above things. We must, therefore, stop doing them if we want to be happy.

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5 Major Reasons Worry is Useless

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Although you would love to worry less, you mostly find yourself worrying about everything. You worry about losing your loved ones, lacking money, failing to get a promotion, and many other things.

You worry because you focus on the negative side of life and you are unaware that worry is useless because of the following reasons:

1.You Don’t Know Everything About the Future

Worrying implies that you know everything that might happen in the future. However, there are high chances that you haven’t reached the level of consciousness that allows you to know what might happen in the future. For this reason, your worry is founded on assumptions or beliefs based on past experiences, and you don’t know whether they are accurate because you don’t know everything about the future.

2.You Might Die Tomorrow

You don’t know when you’ll die because death is unpredictable. You can die in the next moment or tomorrow while crossing the road or driving to work. Worrying is thus useless because you might be worried about a future that might arrive when you are dead.

3. The Future is Unpredictable

You worry because you believe life will happen according to your predictions. However, life is always changing. The social, political, and economic environment is constantly changing, and there are high chances your predictions are false. Besides this, although bad things can happen tomorrow, good things can happen regardless of what is happening in your life right now because the future is unpredictable.

4.The Only Reality is Now

The future is unreal because it doesn’t exist outside your mind. It’s only real in your imagination which is based on your subjective understanding of life. The only reality you can experience is ‘the now’ because you’ll always exist in ‘the now.’ For this reason, worrying about the future is useless.

5.Worry Doesn’t Change Anything

Worry is useless because it doesn’t change anything. You can’t create a favorable future by continually worrying about it because worry prevents you from seeing things clearly. Besides this, it wastes the time and mental energy you could have used to take action that will create a desirable future.

Conclusion

Focus on how you can create a desirable future, instead of focusing on anxious thoughts. Moreover, shift from worry to faith by realizing that Infinite Intelligence/the Universe is always working on creating a bright future for you because you are its physical extension. Also, let worry alarm you, but don’t dwell on it. Lastly, trust that everything will fall into place and realize that you have the power to create your ideal future. 

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The Top Three Biggest Fears That Prevent Us from Succeeding, and How to Overcome Them

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Fear is our enemy because it prevents us from taking action that leads to success.

After analyzing fear for a while, I realized the three main types of fear that prevent us from succeeding. 

Here are they:

1.The Fear of Negative Opinions

Most people avoid doing what might lead to their success because they fear negative opinions. For instance, some of my friends are good at singing, but they avoid pursuing music as a career because they fear people’s negative opinions. Also, I know people who avoid starting businesses because they fear negative opinions. 

Our huge ego is responsible for this fear because it desires praises, and therefore, avoids anything that might lead to ridicule.

Overcoming the Fear of Negative Opinions

Realize that you’ll consider yourself a BIG FOOL if you remember how you avoided doing what could lead to success because you feared negative opinions. Moreover, understand that negative opinions represent people’s viewpoints, and they have nothing to do with you. Lastly, realize that avoiding something because you fear people’s negative opinions implies that you are giving them power over you.

2.The Fear of Failure

The biggest impediment to success is the fear of failure. We avoid investing in worthy projects because we fear failure. We fear losing our money or wasting our effort and time on something that might fail, and we fear that people might despise us when we fail. Furthermore, we fear failure because we want to be successful as quickly as possible.

Overcoming the Fear of Failure

Overcome the fear of failure by realizing that all great people failed. Besides this, know that you’ll be at peace with yourself if you try and fail, but regret deeply if you avoid trying and then see people succeed in what you avoided. Also, understand that life provides second chances and for this reason, you can always try again when you fail.

3.The Fear of Appearing Broke

Most of us have good business ideas but avoid pursuing them because we fear appearing broke while actualizing them. We know that actualizing our business ideas might make us appear broke because we’ll have to avoid investing in our lifestyle so that we invest in our ideas until they become profitable.

Overcoming the Fear of Appearing Broke

Know that although you might appear broke for a while, you might have more than enough after actualizing your idea.

Concluding Remarks

Realize that the three fears only exist in your mind, and therefore, you’ll be the biggest fool in the world if you allow them to impede your progress. Allow them to make you cautious but prevent them from stopping you from doing the only things that might lead to your success. Lastly, realize that the GOOD LIFE IS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR.

‘Fear is not real; the only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future.’ – Will Smith

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