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7 Things We Must Stop Doing If We Want to be Happy

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We all want to be happy because happiness is a wonderful emotion. However, we seldom find happiness because we constantly do things that steal our happiness. Some people are conscious of these things, while most of us aren’t.

This article strives to increase your happiness levels by listing the seven major things we must stop doing if we want to be happier.

1.Living Up to the Society’s Expectations

We love living up to the society’s expectations, and we thus become unhappy when we are in a position that prevents us from aligning with what the society wants. Besides, living up to the society’s expectations makes us unhappy because it prevents us from being authentic.

2.Overanalyzing the Future

Overanalyzing the future by trying to pinpoint all possibilities steals our happiness because it results in anxiety. It makes us constantly worry about the things that can go wrong, even when they are beyond our control.

3.Wanting What Others Have

Most of us are addicted to wanting what celebrities, politicians and our Facebook friends have. We think we’ll live happier lives if we obtain what these folks have. Little do we know that wanting what others have causes unhappiness because it results in envy and makes us feel inadequate. 

4.Watching the News

The News makes us over-focus on the negative part of life by showing us how other people are suffering, and it usually results in us worrying about things that are beyond our circle of influence.

5.Forcing People to Behave the Way We Want

We become frustrated when we force people to behave the way we want because we can’t control their environment, thoughts, and everything that affects their behavior. I stopped forcing my friends and siblings to behave the way I want, and I strived to accept their behavior after realizing that my efforts often resulted in anger and disappointment, which eventually made me unhappy.

6.Identifying With Our Material Possessions

Identifying our worth with our material possessions leads to sadness when we lose them. Moreover, it results in us constantly worrying about losing our possessions and how we’ll replace them.

7.Holding Grudges

‘Anger, resentment, and hatred are poisons that you drink, and you expect somebody else to die.’ –Sadhguru, Indian Mystic

Holding a grudge against someone makes us unhappy because it leads to negative emotions such as anger, hate, jealousy, and resentment. Furthermore, it makes us dwell on bad feelings or the events that led to the grudge. Also, it prevents us from enjoying the present moment by making us focus on how we’ll get back at those who wronged us.

Conclusion

The universe provided us with everything we need to be happy. However, we sabotage our happiness by doing the above things. We must, therefore, stop doing them if we want to be happy.

THE END

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  1. Purity

    June 26, 2019 at 1:49 pm

    Well said……..
    I would like to add dragging our past to our present life also Robes us of our happiness.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 26, 2019 at 7:23 pm

      true, we sometimes become unhappy because of dragging painful past memories in the present moment

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The Truth About Following Your Dreams

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The Truth About Following Your Dreams

Motivational speakers love advising us to follow our dreams. They usually claim that dream chasing is easy since achieving our dreams only requires us to think positively, find what we love, visualize living the life of our dreams, and work hard. As well, they claim dream chasing is fun and adventurous.

I used to believe these ideas. However, I discarded them after chasing my blogging dreams for about two years and realizing that dream chasing is boring as I always force myself to work, and things seldom work out as I expect. Furthermore, I doubted these ideas after a large percentage of my blogger friends gave up on their blogging dream.

I started blogging in 2018 January, and I made friends with many aspiring bloggers. A year later, 98% of these folks gave up on blogging after experiencing the writer’s block and slow-traffic growth. 

These folks mainly gave up because they found the journey boring, tough, and scary, although they believed in the idea that dream chasing is fun and adventurous. This is a shocking truth many people realize when chasing their dreams. I was also shocked after realizing that the journey isn’t easy, but I decided to keep working and see what will happen. However, sometimes, I feel like deleting my blog.

As well, I usually become extremely anxious when I think about failing to achieve my blogging dreams despite working hard, and I often ask myself whether I’ll continue working on my blog in case I don’t achieve my blogging dream after ten years.

Chasing my blogging dream has thus enlightened me about the shocking truths of dream chasing. After blogging for a while, I noticed that following dreams doesn’t guarantee success, and I discovered that anxiety and doubt are part of the journey.

Anyway, besides these truths, you’ll realize more sad truths when you start following your dreams. For instance, you’ll discover that several people, including your closest folks, will doubt your ability to achieve your dreams.

Another sad truth you’ll realize is that you’ll have to be your own motivator because most people will encourage you to give up. The people who love you will encourage you to get a safe and secure job, and they’ll tell you that dream chasing is for the extraordinary.

The chances of achieving our dreams increase if we know such facts about dream chasing because we’ll prepare ourselves for them, and we won’t be shocked when we realize them. However, the chances are slim when we think it’s easy to chase and achieve dreams because we’ll expect the journey to be fun and adventurous, and we’ll quit after realizing its toughness.

In conclusion, never ever follow your dreams if you think dream chasing is easy because you’ll give up, and you’ll end up being depressed. Only follow them when you are ready to endure obstacles, discouragement, and work persistently despite not seeing progress.

I wish you the best.

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35 More Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Away – Part 2

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35 More Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Away – Part 2

Last week, I shared the 35 Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Now. Today I’ll share more harsh realities you have to accept.’

  1. ‘Life is hard, but compared to what?’
  2. ‘You’ll never make a difference if you are not different.’
  3. ‘You’ll never attain fulfillment if you work at a job you hate.’
  4. ‘Trusting the Creator eliminates anxiety and worry.
  5. ‘Happiness comes when you don’t chase it.’
  6. ‘Be happy when you are alive because you’ll be dead for a long period.’
  7. ‘You’ll never understand God completely even if you pray, meditate, and study spiritual books every second.’
  8. ‘Positive emotions and feelings come from within, while negative emotions and feelings come from without.’
  9. ‘Jealousy prevents happiness and peace of mind because it leads to competition, hatred, and anger,’
  10. ‘Envy arises when you think someone is happier than you.’
  11. ‘You only find happiness when you are content with yourself.’
  12. ‘There is no shortcut to anything worth having.’
  13. ‘Most of us will never live the life of our dreams because we lack courage.’
  14. ‘A billion dollars cannot afford what friendship can buy.’
  15. ‘No matter how much you plan, things can still go wrong.’
  16. ‘People won’t be impressed if you struggle to impress them.’
  17. ‘Nothing will change if you think the same thoughts every day.’
  18. ‘You can’t create a new personal reality if you don’t change your personality.’
  19. ‘Your content is not interesting if you have few views on your blog or vlog.
  20. ‘How you make money is more important than how much you make.’
  21. ‘If you act like everybody else, nothing special will happen to you.’
  22. ‘When someone betrays you, there is a 99% chance that he will do so again.’
  23. ‘If you become too generous, people will believe your good deeds are their rights.’
  24. ‘Stop talking about your problems. Few people care. Most people have many problems to care about.’
  25. ‘Life has never been and will never be fair.’
  26. ‘Every opinion has a gram of truth.’
  27. ‘Nature is the only reliable word of God.’
  28. ‘Nothing will change in your life if you do nothing and expect God to make the changes.’
  29. ‘You are one decision away from a totally different life.’
  30. ‘Never rely on religious leaders to provide you with enlightening spiritual knowledge. They only gain when you are spiritually dumb.’
  31. ‘You’ll seldom be joyful if your joy depends on what happens around you.’
  32. ‘Achieving big goals is difficult. These goals require years of persistent hard work and doing many things that you don’t like to do.’
  33. ‘The surest way to failure is trying to impress everybody.’
  34.  ‘Your past might screw up with the present if you don’t make peace with it.’
  35. ‘Your life is a reflection of your thoughts, decisions, and actions.

You are welcome to add more harsh realities in the comment box below.

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