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Forgiveness Is Overrated

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“Forgiveness is overrated, some things will never be okay and can never be forgiven –and I’m okay with that. Resist pressure to forgive something you can’t find and shouldn’t. Forgiveness won’t set your free, but being real about how you feel will.”-Yaya Ky

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been advised to forgive whoever hurts me and forget what they did? However, when people wrong me, I find it hard to forgive and forget. Besides this, I realized that those who advised me to forgive and forget find it hard to do so. I, therefore, questioned forgiveness and realized it’s overrated.

Although I doubt forgiveness enables you to go to this place Christians call heaven, I firmly agree that forgiveness has several benefits. Forgiveness eliminates resentfulness, promotes inner peace, and allows you to focus on what matters. For this reason, forgiveness is a good thing. But is it easy?

The so-called religious folks usually preach forgiveness as if it is an easy thing to do. They want you to forgive those who wronged you immediately and forget what they did.  In fact, they want you to pray for them and help them when necessary.

I totally agree with praying and even helping those who hurt you because this enables you to be at peace with them. However, I don’t think it’s necessary to do so. I believe you only forgive and pray for these folks when you are ready. You must not force yourself to forgive because you think it’s the best thing to do. Forcing yourself to forgive is pointless because you’ll still have negative feelings towards a person.

You can’t just easily forgive someone after he kills your mother, rapes your cousin, and eats your dog. It’s hard, and it’s okay not to forgive this person as long as the lack of forgiveness does not affect your inner peace and your ability to focus on what really matters.

Never think that you’ll never move on if you don’t forgive someone because you’ll do so as time passes. Time heals wounds. Moreover, never ever think that Infinite Intelligence/God will judge you for not forgiving. God’s way of thinking is higher than ours, and God does not care whether you forgive or not. In addition, God is not like us; God is a spirit which we know nothing about, and it’s thus stupid to claim that this Spirit demands us to forgive those who hurt us.

I’m not advising you to hate those who wronged you. I just want you to know that it’s okay if you are unable to forgive someone. I know religion and spiritual teachers have made you feel bad about yourself for being unable to forgive.

It’s good to forgive, but forgive when you feel in your heart that it’s time to forgive, and you’ll never have negative emotions towards those who wronged you.

One thing I must also tell you is that, even though you might find it hard to forgive, never ever wish bad things to happen to those who wronged you because you’ll feel bad when good things happen to them. Besides this, remember that whatever you wish for others, you wish for yourself.

Lastly, stop thinking about those who wronged you and work hard towards your dream because when you live the life of your dreams, life will be so good for you that you won’t find the time to think about those who wronged you.

‘Forgive and forget? I’m neither Jesus nor do I have Alzheimer’ – Agnieszka

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  1. alanmaiccon

    January 16, 2019 at 1:35 pm

    Only in a relaxed state of mind to forgive someone. I have been holding back negative feelings for a long time because I thought that this would keep people from hurting me from doing it again. However, when I have kept my focus totally on healing and not on anger, I have been raised to a level that I can forgive effortlessly in prayer, meditation, reflection. Cleanliness is something natural and should not be forced.

    Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at will change. – Wayne Dyer

    Great Wechuli article.

  2. Jeanine Byers

    January 18, 2019 at 7:37 pm

    I love that last quote! Ha!! I agree that forgiveness is for you, not the other person. But I don’t agree that time heals all wounds. If you feed them, those wounds will turn to bitterness and resentment over time, and steal your piece. Doing that is that taking poison & hoping the other person dies. I agree that we forgive when we’re ready, and I don’t think religious people suggest forgiving right away – that would be fake, which doesn’t help anyone. We can pray for the ability to forgive, and it will come.

  3. Isaac Wechuli

    January 19, 2019 at 5:49 am

    time heals wounds when you don’t feed them….and i don’t believe that much on praying to God to give you things,..i think its our responsibility to practice the art of forgiving and not praying to god to give us the skill

  4. jason

    January 21, 2019 at 4:37 pm

    interesting read. big up!

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Four Major Reasons Why Biblical Stories Are Myths

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Despite being born in a Christian family, I’ve always doubted if Biblical stories actually happened. When I questioned the validity of these stories, I was told to avoid questioning God’s word.  I was advised to believe in the stories because they were written by Holy Men.

Despite the advice, I continued questioning Biblical stories. I then realized these stories are myths when I compared them with ancient myths. In this article, I will share with you four factors that make Biblical stories myths.

Here are they:

1.Some Events and Figures Found in Biblical Stories are also Found in Myths.

Adam is found in both the Biblical creation story and the Sumerian creation myth. A man who builds an ark to protect himself from the floods (Noah) is also mentioned in the Sumerian creation myth.

Besides this, many ancient myths mention a miraculous birth that occurred after a Higher Power impregnated a human-being (The birth of Jesus).

2.Bible Stories, Just Like Myths, Are Unrealistic

Just like myths, Biblical stories are highly fictitious. They don’t make sense, and they’re some of the most unrealistic stories man has ever read. In the Bible, we read about ‘a chariot with horses of fire’ lifting Elijah to heaven. We also read about a whale swallowing Jonah, Eve talking to a snake, and Moses crossing the Red Sea on foot. I am 100% sure Christians could have classified these stories as myths if they were narrated by ancient Africans.

3. Both Myths and Biblical Stories Are Metaphoric

We are often advised to not read Biblical stories literally because, just like myths, they are metaphoric. In other words, these stories never occurred, but they represent fundamental truths about the world around us. For instance, it’s believed Jonah’s story symbolized how The Creator uses creation to fulfill his divine plan. On the other hand, it’s believed the Greek story about a Roman God eating his children and vomiting them symbolized how things are always destroyed and created again.

4.There is no Evidence of Biblical Accounts

Christians claim myths are not true stories because there is no evidence of their occurrence. However, they ignore the fact that there is nothing that proves Biblical stories are true stories. Archeologists have never found something that proved Biblical stories actually happened.

Brian Baker, who was once a pastor, also realized the lack of evidence for Biblical stories. In his book, Nonsense from the Bible, he wrote:

‘“The Bible is a collection of stories and myths based on hearsay transmitted from generation to generation and which were recorded by many different authors during a period spanning possibly 1,600 or more years. The ‘evidence’ then is only to be found in the Bible – no historical scientific or authenticated archaeological evidence exists. If you check the internet for such evidence you will discover many websites by Christian ministries – all present the evidence only from the Bible. Most so-called archaeological evidence is based on assumption rather than text (Brian Baker, Nonsense From the Bible).”

Conclusion

That being said, it’s reasonable to argue that Biblical stories are myths. However, even though they are myths, I firmly believe there are some fundamental truths about life, and our relationship with The Creator we can learn from them. For this reason, I occasionally take some time to read these stories to discover their deeper meaning.

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Is Righteousness Necessary?

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Righteousness is mainly defined as, ‘living a life that delights The Creator.’ It also refers to any behavior that aligns with the conventional principles of uprightness, virtue, and morality. Muslims and Christians strongly believe that God rewards and protects the righteous. For this reason, some of them strive to be righteous because they believe that being righteous guarantees blessings and prevents bad things from happening.

However, according to reality, bad things happen to anyone regardless of whether they are righteous or not. Nothing proves that the righteous are privileged or immune to bad occurrences. Just like wicked folks, the righteous are also found in catastrophic accidents, terrorist attacks, and many other bad incidences.

The universe seems to not care about righteousness because it treats the righteous and unrighteous similarly. For as Henri Frankfort observed: ‘A man who has been righteous throughout may yet be dealt with the powers who govern existence as though he were the blackest offender.’ (Henri Frankfort: The Intellectual Adventure of Ancient Man.’)

For this reason, the belief that God protects the righteous from bad occurrences is delusional. This belief might make you stop believing in God when bad things happen to you despite being righteous all your life. The only good thing about this belief is that it’s psychologically beneficial. It makes righteous folks less worried because they know their behavior assures God’s protection.

By the way, I am a realist. I look at life as it is and I don’t console myself with irrational belief systems. I only believe in things after proving their validity. Therefore, I embrace righteousness not because God protects and blesses the righteous, but because of the several benefits of righteousness I’ve experienced.

I’ve noticed that righteousness eliminates negative energy since it discourages negative feelings such as jealousy, hatred, and anger. Besides this, righteousness makes people trust you, and it makes life meaningful. It also enables you to be at peace with everybody and results in a good reputation that can help you attract wonderful opportunities. Many people will be willing to give you leadership responsibilities when you are righteous because they believe your behavior is reliable.

Therefore, righteousness is necessary because of these, and many other realistic benefits. We have not yet proved that God rewards or protects the righteous because just like the wicked, they also suffer. The righteous are vulnerable to bad luck, and a good number of them die poor. If God really loved and blessed the righteous as the Bible says, we could have seen them experiencing heaven on earth.

However, it seems God is fair because he treats the righteous and unrighteous equally. He designed the universe to ensure that all individuals experience bad and good things regardless of their way of life. He blesses and rewards both the righteous and unrighteous.

That being said, realize that righteousness is necessary, but don’t be righteous because you want to be rewarded or protected for your righteous way of life. But be righteous because of its real benefits.

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