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Forgiveness Is Overrated

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Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been advised to forgive whoever hurts me and forget what they did? However, when people wrong me, I find it hard to forgive and forget. Besides this, I realized that those who advised me to forgive and forget find it hard to do so. I, therefore, questioned forgiveness and realized it’s overrated.

Although I doubt that forgiveness is the way to ‘heaven’, I firmly agree that forgiveness is beneficial. Forgiveness eliminates resentfulness, promotes inner peace, and allows you to focus on what matters. For this reason, forgiveness is a good thing. But is it easy?

The so-called religious folks usually preach forgiveness as if it is an easy thing to do. They want you to forgive those who wronged you immediately and forget what they did.  In fact, they want you to pray for them and help them when necessary.

I totally agree with praying and even helping those who hurt you because this enables you to be at peace with them. However, I don’t think it’s necessary to do so. I believe you only forgive and pray for these folks when you are ready. You must not force yourself to forgive because you think it’s the best thing to do. Forcing yourself to forgive is pointless because you’ll still have negative feelings towards a person.

You can’t just easily forgive someone after he kills your mother, rapes your cousin, and eats your dog. It’s hard, and it’s okay not to forgive this person as long as the lack of forgiveness does not affect your inner peace and your ability to focus on what really matters.

Never think that you’ll never move on if you don’t forgive someone because you’ll do so as time passes. Time heals wounds. Moreover, never ever think that Infinite Intelligence/God will judge you for not forgiving. God’s way of thinking is higher than ours, and God does not care whether you forgive or not. In addition, God is not like us; God is a spirit which we know nothing about, and it’s thus stupid to claim that this Spirit demands us to forgive those who hurt us.

I’m not advising you to hate those who wronged you. I just want you to know that it’s okay if you are unable to forgive someone. I know religion and spiritual teachers have made you feel bad about yourself for being unable to forgive.

It’s good to forgive, but forgive when you feel in your heart that it’s time to forgive, and you’ll never have negative emotions towards those who wronged you.

One thing I must also tell you is that, even though you might find it hard to forgive, never ever wish bad things to happen to those who wronged you because you’ll feel bad when good things happen to them.

Lastly, stop thinking about those who wronged you and work hard towards your dream because when you live the life of your dreams, life will be so good for you that you won’t find the time to think about those who wronged you.

‘Forgive and forget? I’m neither Jesus nor do I have Alzheimer’s – Agnieszka

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  1. alanmaiccon

    January 16, 2019 at 1:35 pm

    Only in a relaxed state of mind to forgive someone. I have been holding back negative feelings for a long time because I thought that this would keep people from hurting me from doing it again. However, when I have kept my focus totally on healing and not on anger, I have been raised to a level that I can forgive effortlessly in prayer, meditation, reflection. Cleanliness is something natural and should not be forced.

    Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at will change. – Wayne Dyer

    Great Wechuli article.

  2. Jeanine Byers

    January 18, 2019 at 7:37 pm

    I love that last quote! Ha!! I agree that forgiveness is for you, not the other person. But I don’t agree that time heals all wounds. If you feed them, those wounds will turn to bitterness and resentment over time, and steal your piece. Doing that is that taking poison & hoping the other person dies. I agree that we forgive when we’re ready, and I don’t think religious people suggest forgiving right away – that would be fake, which doesn’t help anyone. We can pray for the ability to forgive, and it will come.

  3. Isaac Wechuli

    January 19, 2019 at 5:49 am

    time heals wounds when you don’t feed them….and i don’t believe that much on praying to God to give you things,..i think its our responsibility to practice the art of forgiving and not praying to god to give us the skill

  4. jason

    January 21, 2019 at 4:37 pm

    interesting read. big up!

  5. Purity

    July 28, 2019 at 12:03 pm

    For me forgivenes is crucial for my in we peace…

    No one is righteous,we are all bound to hurt someone in one way or the other and expects them to forgive us when we say we are sorry, so Forgiveness is a two way thing…”treat the other person the way you would like to be treated”.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      July 28, 2019 at 2:57 pm

      true, forgiveness is necessary, and we should forgive others because we expect them to forgive us when we wrong them. However, it’s not an easy process.

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The Problem with the Christian Concept of God

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The Problem with the Christian Concept of God

The Biblical God, ‘was a God of wrath and vengeance sitting over the world. This God demanded an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, and only the blind unquestioning, and complete obedience of his creation satisfied this universal autocrat.’ – Manly P. Hall: The Wisdom of the Knowing Ones.

Born in a Christian family, I loved reading the Bible and watching Biblical films – that my mum bought– because I wanted to understand how God works. My interest in the Christian God resulted in me earning an A in Christian Religious Education (CRE), a subject that claimed to expose God’s revelations.

However, I started doubting the Christian God after studying ancient spiritual philosophy and embracing deep thinking. I realized that whatever created the world is a mysterious, impersonal, unknowable force, and therefore, the knowable Christian God was created by the religious leaders of the Christian age.

These leaders believed God behaved like man, and thus created an egotistical God (If you’ve read the Bible, I believe you’ve noticed how the Christian God possesses egoic behavior).

This God forces people to worship him and becomes angry when people worship other gods.

For instance, in Exodus 20, he becomes mad when the Israelites bow down to an idol, for he tells Moses, ‘I have seen these people, and they are stiff-necked people. Now leave me alone so that my anger may burn against them and that I may destroy them.’ Besides this, he promises to throw those who don’t obey him in eternal fire.

He also refers to those who worship him as ‘his chosen ones’, and orders the killing of anyone who attacks these folks. For instance, he orders Saul to eradicate Amalek, an enemy of Israel. According to Samuel 15, he says, ‘Go now, attack Amalek, and deal with him and all that he has. Do not spare him, but kill men and women, children and infants, oxen and sheep, camels and assess.’

Besides being egotistical, another problem I noticed, is that the Christian God lives far away from the earth. He dwells in heaven while we dwell on the earth. This concept of God is responsible for the belief that God is separate from man. It has made people believe they are servants of God, rather than part of him.

Many Christians will be offended by this post, but I don’t care because I’m writing the TRUTH, which will eventually set us free. My Christian readers must know that their concept of God is man-made, and it was created by egoic men who claimed to be spiritual.

The true God, our Creator, is unknowable as Hermes Trismegistus, the wisest man ever, claimed, ‘God is Spirit, which in itself is unknowable and undefinable, but which may be considered and thought of us an Infinite Mind.

No one, including ancient spiritual masters, could define God, and no one will ever know where he came from, what he is, and how he created us. We might only know his principles by studying nature, but we’ll never know he’s personality because we have limited minds. However, we might fully know him when we die because after death, our souls might dissolve into his consciousness.

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Is There an Afterlife?

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Is There an Afterlife?

I’ve always doubted the idea of an afterlife because I compared death to sleep. However, my beliefs about the afterlife changed after studying ancient cultures and modern religion.

I realized that most ancient cultures, for instance, the Africans, Arabians, and Greeks, believed in an afterlife despite living far apart.

The Greeks believed the soul survived death and went to Hades. Moreover, they believed good Greeks enjoyed life after death while evil Greeks were tormented.’ Also, all African cultures believed their ancestors’ spirits survived death, and they regularly poured libation to them. Some African cultures even performed burial ceremonies and rituals that ensured their beloved ones traveled safely to the spirit world.

Besides ancient cultures, modern religions believe in life after death. For instance, both Muslims and Christians believe we survive death, and our current actions determine our experience after death.  As well, Buddhists believe in the afterlife because death only leads to the end of the body, but not the spirit. They believe that an individual can be reborn after death.

With that in mind, can it be possible that an afterlife doesn’t exist considering that ancient cultures living far away from each other believed in life after death? Did religions and ancient cultures make up the idea of life after death?

I believe the intuitive abilities of ancient/deeply religious folks allowed them to realize the existence of an afterlife, and I support them because I recently discovered that we have a spirit-self besides our egoic and physical self. I think death only eradicates the physical and egoic-self but fails to eliminate the spirit-self.

Also, the fact that we are energy beings forces me to support the idea of an afterlife because as Einstein said, ‘Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another.’ Maybe we survive death because it only alters our form by turning us into pure spiritual entities without a body.

Furthermore, my belief in the spirit world forces me to support life after death because this world allows souls to experience life without a human body.

Anyway, we’ll never know if an afterlife truly exists. But we must strive to live life to the fullest because, if life after death exists, we might regret failing to live up to our full potential. Maybe our eyes will open when we die, and we’ll realize that we stressed over trivial things instead of enjoying life in a magical and blessed world.

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