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Forgiveness Is Overrated

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Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been advised to forgive whoever hurts me and forget what they did? However, when people wrong me, I find it hard to forgive and forget. Besides this, I realized that those who advised me to forgive and forget find it hard to do so. I, therefore, questioned forgiveness and realized it’s overrated.

Although I doubt forgiveness enables you to go to this place Christians call heaven, I firmly agree that forgiveness has several benefits. Forgiveness eliminates resentfulness, promotes inner peace, and allows you to focus on what matters. For this reason, forgiveness is a good thing. But is it easy?

The so-called religious folks usually preach forgiveness as if it is an easy thing to do. They want you to forgive those who wronged you immediately and forget what they did.  In fact, they want you to pray for them and help them when necessary.

I totally agree with praying and even helping those who hurt you because this enables you to be at peace with them. However, I don’t think it’s necessary to do so. I believe you only forgive and pray for these folks when you are ready. You must not force yourself to forgive because you think it’s the best thing to do. Forcing yourself to forgive is pointless because you’ll still have negative feelings towards a person.

You can’t just easily forgive someone after he kills your mother, rapes your cousin, and eats your dog. It’s hard, and it’s okay not to forgive this person as long as the lack of forgiveness does not affect your inner peace and your ability to focus on what really matters.

Never think that you’ll never move on if you don’t forgive someone because you’ll do so as time passes. Time heals wounds. Moreover, never ever think that Infinite Intelligence/God will judge you for not forgiving. God’s way of thinking is higher than ours, and God does not care whether you forgive or not. In addition, God is not like us; God is a spirit which we know nothing about, and it’s thus stupid to claim that this Spirit demands us to forgive those who hurt us.

I’m not advising you to hate those who wronged you. I just want you to know that it’s okay if you are unable to forgive someone. I know religion and spiritual teachers have made you feel bad about yourself for being unable to forgive.

It’s good to forgive, but forgive when you feel in your heart that it’s time to forgive, and you’ll never have negative emotions towards those who wronged you.

One thing I must also tell you is that, even though you might find it hard to forgive, never ever wish bad things to happen to those who wronged you because you’ll feel bad when good things happen to them. Besides this, remember that whatever you wish for others, you wish for yourself.

Lastly, stop thinking about those who wronged you and work hard towards your dream because when you live the life of your dreams, life will be so good for you that you won’t find the time to think about those who wronged you.

‘Forgive and forget? I’m neither Jesus nor do I have Alzheimer’s – Agnieszka

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  1. alanmaiccon

    January 16, 2019 at 1:35 pm

    Only in a relaxed state of mind to forgive someone. I have been holding back negative feelings for a long time because I thought that this would keep people from hurting me from doing it again. However, when I have kept my focus totally on healing and not on anger, I have been raised to a level that I can forgive effortlessly in prayer, meditation, reflection. Cleanliness is something natural and should not be forced.

    Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at will change. – Wayne Dyer

    Great Wechuli article.

  2. Jeanine Byers

    January 18, 2019 at 7:37 pm

    I love that last quote! Ha!! I agree that forgiveness is for you, not the other person. But I don’t agree that time heals all wounds. If you feed them, those wounds will turn to bitterness and resentment over time, and steal your piece. Doing that is that taking poison & hoping the other person dies. I agree that we forgive when we’re ready, and I don’t think religious people suggest forgiving right away – that would be fake, which doesn’t help anyone. We can pray for the ability to forgive, and it will come.

  3. Isaac Wechuli

    January 19, 2019 at 5:49 am

    time heals wounds when you don’t feed them….and i don’t believe that much on praying to God to give you things,..i think its our responsibility to practice the art of forgiving and not praying to god to give us the skill

  4. jason

    January 21, 2019 at 4:37 pm

    interesting read. big up!

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The True Meaning of ‘Love Yourself’

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Many spiritual and personal development teachers advise us to love ourselves because self-love increases happiness levels, boosts self-esteem, improves physical health, and so on. However, although we know the importance of loving ourselves, most of us don’t know the meaning of self-love. For this reason, today I’ll share with you the true meaning of loving thyself.

Loving yourself means taking good care of your body through exercising and eating healthy foods. It also means loving your physical features and thanking life for them because they make you a unique individual.

Besides this, loving yourself means taking care of your mental state by ensuring that you only think higher thoughts because they provide you with a sense of inner peace. It also means eliminating suppressed negative energies within you by loving others and striving to forgive those who wrong you.

Moreover, loving yourself means forgiving yourself for all the bad things you did in the past and understanding that everyone, including you, makes mistakes. It means avoiding being harsh at yourself for failing to meet your expectations and understanding that life always gives people second chances. Loving thyself also means accepting whatever happened in the past and avoiding to blame yourself for your failures.

Furthermore, loving yourself means doing what you love, and avoiding jobs that hurt your physical, mental, and spiritual health.  It also means doing what makes you happy, and what ensures that you have a prosperous future.

Additionally, you love yourself when you put yourself first by unfriending time wasters, walking out of abusive relationships, and avoiding people who never add value to your life. You also love yourself when you focus on your strengths and ignore your weaknesses.

Moreover, you love yourself when you take care of your mind by meditating, reading inspiring books, and avoiding negative people. And lastly, you love yourself when you take care of your soul by expanding your consciousness and being virtuous.

In summary, loving yourself means taking good care of your mind, soul, and body, and ensuring that everything you do is good for you.

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Why We Are Our Biggest Enemy

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Most of us blame life for our misfortunes and frustrations. We think we are unhappy because life is not on our side. Little do we know that we are our biggest enemy because we are frustrated although life blessed us with wonderful things that ensure we live well.

For instance, life blessed us with imagination so that we become creative and use our creativity to improve our lives. However, we use imagination to visualize the worst possible outcome. Moreover, it gave us memory to remember and correct our past mistakes, but we use it to relive the bad things that happened in the past.

Besides this, life gave us an intuitive voice to guide us, but we let our egos direct us towards unfulfilling lives. It also provided us with the stars to please our eyes and beautiful views to relax the mind, but we find these wonders useless.

Additionally, life gave us a mind with powerful magnetic forces to help us attract what we mostly dwell on, but we dwell on negative thoughts and therefore, attract negative events in our lives. It also created many human beings so that we support and love each other, but we are selfish, and we wish bad things upon others. We then attract these terrible things because wishing bad things for others lowers our vibration.

Furthermore, life provides us with endless opportunities. It ensures that we get whatever we want so long as we are courageous and risk-taking. However, we are afraid to take risks, and we complain when we don’t move forward. It gave us talents that can employ us and make us reach our full potentials, but we choose to work in boring jobs that never lead to growth.

Life is good. It gave us amazing bodies to enable us to experience the physical world fully. But we hate our bodies because we compare them with unrealistic bodies the media shows us. We also destroy our bodies by eating unhealthy foods, and we blame God for giving us a bad body and making us prone to diseases.

Furthermore, life gave us a self-healing body that naturally gets rids of toxins, and medicinal plants that treat various diseases, but we invest in pharmaceutical drugs that only eliminate the symptoms of our illnesses. We complain when we can’t access health care yet there are many affordable traditional treatment methods that can completely eradicate our ailments.

We are never thankful to Infinite Intelligence for allowing us to experience life in a physical realm. Moreover, we don’t live fully by living moment by moment and trusting that everything will fall into place. Lastly, we never meditate on life and realize how life always ensures that we live well. For this reason, we are our biggest enemy.

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