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The Top 5 Disastrous Effects of Caring What Other People Say About You

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I once cared about other people’s opinions on what I should do, how I should dress, or where I must go. However, I immediately stopped caring when I realized the following catastrophic effects that caring about other people’s thoughts or opinions could have on an individual.

Caring about other people’s thoughts/opinions:-

  1. Eradicates self-confidence

You will never believe in yourself if you care what other people/say or think about you because not everybody will say something good about you.

  1. Leads to excessive worry

It’s easy for you to become a chronic worrier if you excessively care about people’s opinions. You will always worry whether people will approve whatever you are doing or how you look.

  1. Limits authenticity

Caring about other people’s opinions prevents you from being authentic. Authenticity occurs when an individual does the things he likes or when a person does what he knows makes him happy. Without authenticity, a person will never be truly happy.

  1. Can result in wrong decision making

The best decisions are often made when there is no outside influence on the decision-making process because we are the only persons who know what we have gone through, and what we really want in life. Besides this, we are the only ones who know the effects some decisions might have on us.

Caring what other people say can result in you making a wrong decision about your career, relationship life, or other fundamental areas of your life that require you to make a decision with minimal external influence.

  1. Results in conformity

Conformity occurs when a person’s behaviour aligns with socially accepted conventions. Conformity is an enemy to progress because it turns you into a follower instead of a leader. Also, apart from being a follower, conformity limits your creativity because it prevents you from thinking for yourself.

With this in mind, will you still care about other people’s opinions? Are you ready to suffer the consequences of caring about what other people say just because you want to conform to the society? For me, I will never ever care about other people’s opinions because I want to use my energy and time to bring a massive change to the people around me, and to the needy. Therefore, I have no time to waste, and I have no energy left in me to care about other people’s opinions.

Thank You for Reading. Have a nice day.

I better create my own system, or be enslaved by those of other men – William Blake

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  1. Rose

    February 13, 2018 at 11:13 am

    True caring about other people’s opinion is waste of time…..make up your own opinion

    • Isaac Wechuli

      February 13, 2018 at 12:25 pm

      Good one..we have to make our own opinions….and in case we listen to other people’s opinions we have to make sure that our actions are the products of our own conclusions.

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4 Sad Reasons Why Life is Tough For Most People

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Today, life is almost tough for everyone, and for this reason, many folks are depressed. Recently, the World Health Organization revealed that suicide rates caused by depression have increased by 60 percent since the 1950s. Besides this, physicians claim that depression will be the most widespread mental illness in the next two years.

Anyway, people all over the world are complaining about life’s toughness, and almost everyone doubts if life is really a blessing. However, if you take a closer look at life, you’ll realize that it’s absurd to conclude that life is hard because some people are living a peaceful and easy life.

That being said, I firmly believe that those who believe life is difficult are mostly responsible for making it tough. For instance, a young man who struggles to make ends meet because he started a family before he became financially stable is fully responsible for toughening his life.

Like this young man, most of us are responsible for making our lives tough, and we end up concluding that life is tough.

In today’s article, I will share with you four reasons why life is tough for most people.

  1. Many People are doing what they hate

Life is tough for many individuals around the world because they are working in jobs they hate five to six days a week. They hate their bosses and their workplaces, but they continue working because they believe that’s the only way to survive.

There is no way life can be easy for you if you do what you hate 24/7. You will definitely become depressed and life will be difficult for you because you will be continuously forcing yourself to work.

I believe The Creator intended us to work, but he never designed work to be tedious and boring. Work was meant to be adventurous, exciting, and fulfilling because it helps us survive. However, we have been conditioned to believe that we have to work in boring jobs all our life for us to have what we want. For this reason, many people do what they hate and they end up making their lives hard.

People who do what they love don’t necessarily find life easy but at least their lives are meaningful because they wake up eager to work.

  1. People Are Living Beyond Their Means

Today, many folks are living beyond their means because they want to appear successful. These behavior makes their lives tough because it makes them to constantly get into debt.

You will never enjoy life if you constantly live beyond your means because deep inside, you will always know that you are living a lie. Besides this, you will always be unsatisfied with your life, because you will constantly compare yourself with others who are far better than you. These factors will make life difficult for you.

  1. We don’t care about each other

Life is tough for many people also because we rarely help each other. In ancient Africa, people found life easier because we were so kind to each other that we left food and water at our doorsteps for people to eat and drink.

However, today life is tough for many individuals because the modern society is selfish and egocentric. We care less about each other, and we seldom bother helping people who are going through hard times hence making life tough for them. We adhere to stupid notions like, ‘Every man for himself and God for us all,’ because we have become an individualistic and stupid society that focuses on showing off useless and valueless things instead of helping each other.

I believe life would have been easier if we all loved and helped each other. We could have created a heaven on earth if everybody was kind and generous.

  1. People Are Stuck in Unhappy Marriages

Life is extremely tough to folks who can’t get out of unhappy or abusive marriages. These folks know that the only way they can experience happiness and freedom is to leave their marriages but they can’t do so because they fear the consequences of divorce or separation. They, therefore, resolve to live a tough marriage life full of constant fights because they believe it’s the only option.

Life is obviously tough for these guys because they are forced to live with the people they don’t love 24/7. How is that possible?

Conclusion

Is life tough for you? Do you agree with me on the above reasons why people find life to be tough? I believe life is only tough because we toughen it. And for this reason, we can make it a little bit easier if we help each other, and avoid doing what we hate

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4 Main Challenges Dream Chasers Face

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It recently dawned on me that the few individuals who have the courage to chase their dreams often give up because of the challenges they face on the journey.

As a dream chaser, I have faced both small and large obstacles that made me realize how easy it is to give up on dream chasing. These hurdles made me realize that people who dreamt big and now live their dreams truly deserve them because they overcame the following TOP 4 CHALLENGES DREAM CHASERS face.

  1. Things Not Going As Expected

One major challenge I realized dream chasers face, is that things seldom go as they anticipated. When they start chasing their dreams, dream chasers often believe that everything will go as planned. However, during the journey, they realize that almost nothing goes according to their plans. Unexpected obstacles pop-up and their dreams take long to come true.

My research on people who live their dreams made me realize that these individuals also experienced this phenomenon. Most of them reveal that things never went their way for some time, but eventually, they got more than what they expected because they kept pushing themselves harder.

  1. The Lack of Money

Almost every dream requires capital for it to come to true. However, not every dreamer has the capital to actualize their dream. For this reason, many individuals are often forced to continuously borrow money from family and friends, and take odd jobs for them to fund their dreams.

  1. The Need to Let Go Anyone That Doesn’t Support Their Dreams

When they start chasing their dreams, many individuals often realize that they have to keep distance from people who don’t believe in achieving dreams.

Personally, I realized that I had to avoid the people – including friends and relatives – who don’t believe I will achieve my dreams because they always infect me with negative energy, and doubts that make me consider giving up. They usually demoralize me, and I always have to force myself to work whenever I associate with them. For this reason, I realized that I have to avoid them completely because chasing and achieving dreams requires positive energy.

Avoiding close friends and relatives for the sake of my dreams is very challenging, and initially, I felt sorry for doing that. However, it dawned on me that it’s the right thing to do because I am living my life, not theirs.

  1. Time

Many dreams/projects require a large investment of time though they often take long before they start producing financial returns. Therefore, dreamers always have to work for someone for them to pay their bills hence resulting in them having a small amount of time to work on their dreams despite the fact that actualizing dreams requires lots of time. Furthermore, within that small amount of time they have, they still have to allocate time for friends, family, exercise, and rest.

Some dreamers end up ignoring family, friends, and a healthy lifestyle so that they find ample time to work on their projects.

Concluding Remarks

Therefore, if you are planning to chase your dreams, be mentally prepared to face the above challenges.

Also, realize that dreams don’t come true easily, and those who achieve them deserve them because they transcended the above hurdles.  The only motivating factor is that these individuals are normal individuals like you and me, and IF THEY DID IT, WE CAN ALSO DO IT.

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