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The Top 5 Disastrous Effects of Caring What Other People Say About You

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I once cared about other people’s opinions on what I should do, how I should dress, or where I must go. However, I immediately stopped caring when I realized the following catastrophic effects that caring about other people’s thoughts or opinions could have on an individual.

Caring about other people’s thoughts/opinions:-

  1. Eradicates self-confidence

You will never believe in yourself if you care what other people/say or think about you because not everybody will say something good about you.

  1. Leads to excessive worry

It’s easy for you to become a chronic worrier if you excessively care about people’s opinions. You will always worry whether people will approve whatever you are doing or how you look.

  1. Limits authenticity

Caring about other people’s opinions prevents you from being authentic. Authenticity occurs when an individual does the things he likes or when a person does what he knows makes him happy. Without authenticity, a person will never be truly happy.

  1. Can result in wrong decision making

The best decisions are often made when there is no outside influence on the decision-making process because we are the only persons who know what we have gone through, and what we really want in life. Besides this, we are the only ones who know the effects some decisions might have on us.

Caring what other people say can result in you making a wrong decision about your career, relationship life, or other fundamental areas of your life that require you to make a decision with minimal external influence.

  1. Results in conformity

Conformity occurs when a person’s behaviour aligns with socially accepted conventions. Conformity is an enemy to progress because it turns you into a follower instead of a leader. Also, apart from being a follower, conformity limits your creativity because it prevents you from thinking for yourself.

With this in mind, will you still care about other people’s opinions? Are you ready to suffer the consequences of caring about what other people say just because you want to conform to the society? For me, I will never ever care about other people’s opinions because I want to use my energy and time to bring a massive change to the people around me, and to the needy. Therefore, I have no time to waste, and I have no energy left in me to care about other people’s opinions.

Thank You for Reading. Have a nice day.

I better create my own system, or be enslaved by those of other men – William Blake

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  1. Rose

    February 13, 2018 at 11:13 am

    True caring about other people’s opinion is waste of time…..make up your own opinion

    • Isaac Wechuli

      February 13, 2018 at 12:25 pm

      Good one..we have to make our own opinions….and in case we listen to other people’s opinions we have to make sure that our actions are the products of our own conclusions.

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Why Ego is the Main Source of Anger and Envy (Ego Part 2)

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After realizing that the ego impedes personal growth, I decided to study and contemplate about it. It then dawned on me that the ego is our enemy because it’s the primary source of anger and envy.

The ego as I defined in the article, The Era of the Ego and the Destruction of Intuition, is a feeling of self-importance. The ego makes you believe you are more important than other members of the society and, therefore, you must be heard, respected, admired, and followed. It makes you believe that you are always right and everybody else is wrong.

The ego can result in you being angered by petty issues. For instance, it can make you outraged by any action or word that appears to disrespect you. Insults (even from kids), and petty jokes will make you angry if you are egoistic. You’ll even get mad when people ignore you or argue with you because the ego believes you deserve admiration and no one must argue against your beliefs because you are always right.

Anger arises when you misinterpret things. The ego will thus make you prone to anger since it’s the King of misinterpretation. For instance, if an individual accidentally steps on your foot, the ego will believe it was intentional hence making you angry.

Besides causing anger, the ego also causes envy. You become envious when you feel resentful when other people progress, succeed, or attain something you don’t have.

The ego causes envy because it hates to see others appear more important than you. If your neighbor succeeds or buys something you believe makes her more important than you, the ego feels bad because your neighbor’s progress makes it feel inferior or less important. The ego always wants you to be ahead of everybody so that you become the most important person. It’s hurt when others progress faster than you and appear more important hence making you feel envious.

For this reason, the next time you feel angry or envious, realize that it’s the ego causing these feelings. Then separate yourself from the ego and know that it’s an illusion since it isn’t your true self. Your true self is an extension of Infinite Intelligence/Cosmic Consciousness, and it never gets angry because it interprets everything positively. Moreover, it’s never envious because it understands that we are all connected and we must rejoice in others’ success.

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6 Unique Ways to Deal with Anxiety

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I used to suffer from chronic anxiety because I worried about everything. Luckily, I discovered how to eradicate this gnawing feeling.

Anxiety is mainly defined as ‘feelings of tension or worry about a future outcome.’ Many people today are anxious about everything. In the article, ‘The Era of Anxiety and the Destruction of Intuition,’ I described the factors that make modern society anxious.

Anyway, anxiety has many side-effects. It causes sleep problems, digestive disorders, and prevents us from having a clear mind. For this reason, you must strive to get rid of anxious thoughts whenever they attack you.

Here are 6 ways you can deal with anxious thoughts:

1.Meditate on Infinite Intelligence

Think about the power that created the universe. Think about its greatness and willingness to support life. Realize that it exists in all life forms including you, and therefore, you have nothing to worry about if the power that created the universe exists within you.

2.Watch Nature Documentaries

Watching nature documentaries makes you shift from worrying, to thinking about the wonders of the universe. They are my best treatment for anxiety.

Research reveals that they eradicate anxious thoughts because they increase positive emotions. Besides this, they evoke feelings of awe which studies reveal are a good treatment for anxiety

3.Sing a Song of Praise

I started singing songs of praise to Infinite Intelligence/God after realizing that they eradicate anxiety. Anxiety mainly attacks you when you focus too much on yourself. The songs of praise thus eliminate anxiety as they make you focus on Infinite Intelligence.

N/B – I used to be against songs of praise because I believed there is no need to praise God. However, I embraced them after realizing that God has to be praised. If we praise our friends, families, and strangers for their accomplishments, why can’t we praise God for what ‘he’ has done?

“Were I a nightingale, I would act the part of a nightingale; were I a swan, the part of a swan, but since I am a reasonable creature, it is my duty to praise God.”Epictetus, Stoic Philosopher.

4.Realize that You Can Die At Any Moment

Knowing this fact about death enables you to realize that you might be worrying about a future that might arrive when you are dead. It makes you live in the moment and stop worrying about an unguaranteed future.

5.Realize That Anxiety is Bad for You

Know that anxiety is bad for you as it causes increased blood pressure, breathing problems, digestive disorders, and erectile dysfunction (for men). It also reduces productivity, and destroys your intuitive abilities.

Being conscious of the side effects of anxiety will enable you to quickly recognize and ignore anxious thoughts hence preventing you from succumbing to anxiety.

6..Try Medical Marijuana

I used to be against marijuana, but I adopted a positive attitude towards it after realizing that most ancient cultures involved it in their religious practices. Ancient cultures realized its importance on our mental health.

Today, studies have realized that marijuana temporarily eliminates anxious thoughts as it makes individuals feel calm. It also relieves the symptoms of anxiety by making individuals think everything is okay.

N/B – However, you must only use marijuana when free because it will reduce your productivity.

Apart from the above methods, I believe there are many other ways to deal with anxious thoughts. You are free to mention them in the comment box below:

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