Connect with us

IDEAS

The Top 5 Disastrous Effects of Caring What Other People Say About You

Published

on

I once cared about other people’s opinions on what I should do, how I should dress, or where I must go. However, I immediately stopped caring when I realized the following catastrophic effects that caring about other people’s thoughts or opinions could have on an individual.

Caring about other people’s thoughts/opinions:-

  1. Eradicates self-confidence

You will never believe in yourself if you care what other people/say or think about you because not everybody will say something good about you.

  1. Leads to excessive worry

It’s easy for you to become a chronic worrier if you excessively care about people’s opinions. You will always worry whether people will approve whatever you are doing or how you look.

  1. Limits authenticity

Caring about other people’s opinions prevents you from being authentic. Authenticity occurs when an individual does the things he likes or when a person does what he knows makes him happy. Without authenticity, a person will never be truly happy.

  1. Can result in wrong decision making

The best decisions are often made when there is no outside influence on the decision-making process because we are the only persons who know what we have gone through, and what we really want in life. Besides this, we are the only ones who know the effects some decisions might have on us.

Caring what other people say can result in you making a wrong decision about your career, relationship life, or other fundamental areas of your life that require you to make a decision with minimal external influence.

  1. Results in conformity

Conformity occurs when a person’s behaviour aligns with socially accepted conventions. Conformity is an enemy to progress because it turns you into a follower instead of a leader. Also, apart from being a follower, conformity limits your creativity because it prevents you from thinking for yourself.

With this in mind, will you still care about other people’s opinions? Are you ready to suffer the consequences of caring about what other people say just because you want to conform to the society? For me, I will never ever care about other people’s opinions because I want to use my energy and time to bring a massive change to the people around me, and to the needy. Therefore, I have no time to waste, and I have no energy left in me to care about other people’s opinions.

Thank You for Reading. Have a nice day.

I better create my own system, or be enslaved by those of other men – William Blake

N/B – I encourage you to air your ideas in the comment box , and also follow me on twitter and Facebook. Twitter username – Isaac Wechuli. Facebook Username – Wechul Isaac

Also, if you enjoyed this post, please consider sharing it on social media platforms, i.e facebook, instagram, or twitter.

N/B – Photography – @simplykech – +254735891691

DON’T FORGET TO SUBSCRIBE

Continue Reading
2 Comments

2 Comments

  1. Rose

    February 13, 2018 at 11:13 am

    True caring about other people’s opinion is waste of time…..make up your own opinion

    • Isaac Wechuli

      February 13, 2018 at 12:25 pm

      Good one..we have to make our own opinions….and in case we listen to other people’s opinions we have to make sure that our actions are the products of our own conclusions.

Leave a Reply

IDEAS

5 Awesome Benefits of Becoming ‘Unmaterialistic’

Published

on

A materialistic person is an individual who is too attached to money or material possessions.

After studying prosperity for the last three years, I realized that materialism is one of the main factors that make people fail to achieve success because it leads to excessive spending.

For this reason, unmaterialistic people have high chances of succeeding. You become unmaterialistic when you stop prioritizing the ownership of material possessions.

Being unmaterialistic can be very advantageous because of the following benefits it will bring upon you.

  1. You stop being scared to follow your passion

There are high chances that you’ll be broke for a while if you follow your passion because it might take long before you monetize it. For this reason, it will be hard to follow your passion if you are materialistic as you won’t withstand being broke and unable to buy things.

However, if you become unmaterialistic, you will bravely follow your passion because you can afford to be broke, and you can also live with little material possessions while trying to monetize your passion.

  1. You invest in productive ventures

A lot of us complain that we don’t have money for investing or starting businesses, but the funny thing is that we have lots of money to buy expensive gadgets. Our obsession with material possessions has resulted in us prioritizing the buying of products. Today, people can spend $ 1,000 on a TV set and still complain that they do not have money to start a company/business.

If you end your obsession with buying material possessions, you will realize that you have a lot of money to invest. Trust me, the money you spend on buying the latest gadgets is enough to start a million-dollar company.

  1. You stop comparing yourself to others

People who love comparing themselves to others are often materialistic because their main basis of comparison is usually money and material possessions. They look at their friend’s cars, or houses, and compare them with theirs so that they determine their social positions.

Therefore, you will lose interest in comparing yourself if you are not excessively concerned with material possessions.

  1. You become less worried

If you become unmaterialistic, you worry less because you won’t be attached to too many temporary things. Materialistic people worry more because they often think about the possibility of losing their possessions.

Besides this, the fact that material possessions are temporary makes materialistic people worry about how they will replace their possessions when they become obsolete. Lastly, materialistic individuals often worry about their social positions, and how they will increase their possessions.

  1. You become grateful

Materialistic people are seldom grateful because they are never satisfied with what they have. They are always looking for the next gadget to buy that they fail to be thankful for what they have.

However, if you become unmaterialistic, you will always be thankful because you will often focus on what you have instead of concentrating on what you don’t have.

Concluding Remarks

Avoid prioritizing material things and you will be one step ahead because you will bravely go your own way, and you will have extra money to invest in your dream. Besides this, you will attain a peaceful state of mind because you will stop comparing yourself, and you will be less worried. Lastly, you will be happier because you will be grateful for what you have.

You are free to air your views about becoming ‘unmaterialistic’ in the comment section below.

‘If I convince you that you don’t need shit, you will be off to the races. If you could unmaterialistic yourself, you will be fu?king far.’ – Gary Vaynerchuk, American Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker, TV personality

follow me on twitter and Facebook. Twitter username – Isaac Wechuli. Facebook Username – Wechul Isaac

Facebook Group – The Unbounded Wisdom Community

Also, if you enjoyed this post, please consider sharing it on social media platforms, i.e facebook, Instagram, or twitter.

N/B – Photography – @simplykech – 0735891691

DON’T FORGET TO SUBSCRIBE

Continue Reading

IDEAS

The Top Four Incredible Factors That Determine The Size of Your Dreams/Goals

Published

on

The size of your dream greatly determines what you will achieve in life.

Small dreams will ensure that you achieve small things while big dreams make you achieve big things. All individuals who made major achievements had big dreams.

Recently, I asked my friends and family members about their dreams, and I realized that we all have dreams but some of us have small dreams, while others have big ones.

For instance, some of my friends dream of changing the world. Others dream of becoming presidents, and wealthy businessmen. Conversely, others just want to own an average home, and live an ordinary lifestyle.

Besides my friends, I asked many other people about their dreams, and I realized the same thing: not everybody has a big dream. I, therefore, conducted a research on the world’s most influential people, and I tried to pinpoint the things that made them dream bigger.

I also checked my dreams, my state of mind, my life experience, and I managed to realize the main factors that determine the size of our dreams.

Here are they

  1. Information

Information greatly determines the size of your dream.

You will have big dreams if you read books about successful individuals, and how they achieved their dreams because they will make you realize that anyone can achieve big dreams.

Reading books that teach success will also make you set big dreams because the books will enlighten you on how to set and achieve big things.

People with limited information about success set small dreams because they don’t realize that great achievers were ordinary people from normal and even poor family backgrounds.

  1. Self-esteem

Self-esteem refers to your sense of personal value.

If you place a high value on yourself you will set big dreams because you’ll believe that you can achieve them. Besides this, you will ensure your dreams are big because you’ll believe that you deserve big things.

However, you’ll set small dreams if you have a low sense of self-worth because you will believe that you are unworthy of big dreams.

  1. Action

It also dawned on me that the amount of effort you invest in your career greatly determines the size of your dream.

In 2010, when Derrick Rose, a basketball player, was asked if he could be among the top players of the league, he said that he believed he will be the Most Valuable Player of the League because he worked so hard in his career.

For this reason, the amount of effort people invest in their careers greatly determines the size of their dreams. People, who work so hard, believe that they can achieve big dreams because action breeds faith.

  1. Age

When we were children we had very big dreams. For instance, I remember one of my friends, Collins Githinji, dreamt of having a football field in his living room. You think his dream was big?

I dreamt of building a house on the moon, and I was serious about it. I could get really mad if anyone told me this dream was impossible.

Anyway, the older we grow, the smaller our dreams become because we come face to face with ‘reality.’ We adopt negative belief systems and limited ideologies that make us lack faith in big dreams.

Furthermore, when we become older, we set smaller dreams because we believe that it’s too late for us to achieve big dreams. Little do we know that we can set and achieve big dreams at an old age because people like Harry Bernstein, and Gladys Burrill, became successful in their 90s.

Concluding Remarks

If you have big dreams, good for you. However, if you have small dreams, please start reading self-development books such as The Magic of Believing, and The Science of Getting Rich. These books will make you set big dreams because they show you how and why it’s possible for you to achieve anything you want.

Moreover, you will also start believing in big dreams if you work hard, and improve your self-esteem because hard work and a high self-worth will make you believe that you deserve the best.

Lastly, don’t let age make you avoid dreaming big. People have made it in their 60s, 80s, and even 90s.

Thank You So Much for Reading.

Which other factors do you believe affect the size of our dreams?

follow me on twitter and Facebook. Twitter username – Isaac Wechuli. Facebook Username – Wechul Isaac

Facebook Group – The Unbounded Wisdom Community

Also, if you enjoyed this post, please consider sharing it on social media platforms, i.e facebook, instagram, or twitter.

N/B – Photography – @simplykech – 0735891691

DON’T FORGET TO SUBSCRIBE

Continue Reading

Trending