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The Top 5 Disastrous Effects of Caring What Other People Say About You

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I once cared about other people’s opinions on what I should do, how I should dress, or where I must go. However, I immediately stopped caring when I realized the following catastrophic effects that caring about other people’s thoughts or opinions could have on an individual.

Caring about other people’s thoughts/opinions:-

  1. Eradicates self-confidence

You will never believe in yourself if you care what other people/say or think about you because not everybody will say something good about you.

  1. Leads to excessive worry

It’s easy for you to become a chronic worrier if you excessively care about people’s opinions. You will always worry whether people will approve whatever you are doing or how you look.

  1. Limits authenticity

Caring about other people’s opinions prevents you from being authentic. Authenticity occurs when an individual does the things he likes or when a person does what he knows makes him happy. Without authenticity, a person will never be truly happy.

  1. Can result in wrong decision making

The best decisions are often made when there is no outside influence on the decision-making process because we are the only persons who know what we have gone through, and what we really want in life. Besides this, we are the only ones who know the effects some decisions might have on us.

Caring what other people say can result in you making a wrong decision about your career, relationship life, or other fundamental areas of your life that require you to make a decision with minimal external influence.

  1. Results in conformity

Conformity occurs when a person’s behaviour aligns with socially accepted conventions. Conformity is an enemy to progress because it turns you into a follower instead of a leader. Also, apart from being a follower, conformity limits your creativity because it prevents you from thinking for yourself.

With this in mind, will you still care about other people’s opinions? Are you ready to suffer the consequences of caring about what other people say just because you want to conform to the society? For me, I will never ever care about other people’s opinions because I want to use my energy and time to bring a massive change to the people around me, and to the needy. Therefore, I have no time to waste, and I have no energy left in me to care about other people’s opinions.

Thank You for Reading. Have a nice day.

I better create my own system, or be enslaved by those of other men – William Blake

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  1. Rose

    February 13, 2018 at 11:13 am

    True caring about other people’s opinion is waste of time…..make up your own opinion

    • Isaac Wechuli

      February 13, 2018 at 12:25 pm

      Good one..we have to make our own opinions….and in case we listen to other people’s opinions we have to make sure that our actions are the products of our own conclusions.

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The Statistics of the Dead and Why I Choose to be Grateful

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The Statistics of the Dead and Why I Choose to be Grateful

If more than 150,000 people die every month, and today none of your friends or family members is dead, then you have a big reason to smile.’ – Sadhguru, Indian Mystic

Before falling in love with esoteric philosophy, I used to be sad and angry about nothing. My focus on material possessions and the social status prevented me from noticing the infinite blessings I had.

I worried about not having more possessions than my friends, and I was angry at life because some people –who I thought were happy- despised me. This crap ended after I stumbled upon the above quote, meditated on it, and researched about the world’s death rates.

I discovered that more than 2,000 people die every day in car crashes, and, on average, about 1 million people die in road crashes every year. Besides car crashes, more than 2.5 million people die from diseases every year. In total, about 40 million people die every year

Moreover, I realized that the world has lost about 30 million people from January 1st, 2019 to July 15th, 2019.

These statistics enlightened me that more than 5,000 people die every day, and therefore, more than 10,000 people mourn every day. It then dawned on me that I am a blessed person who must be happy every day because all my family members are alive.

As well, the death statistics reminded me of how stupid I was since I always worried about lacking replaceable things (a nice watch, car, sofa set, etc.), instead of being thankful because the most precious people in my life are alive. People who are more willing to help me than the rest of the world.

I, therefore, shifted my focus from worry to being grateful for the amazing irreplaceable people I had; the only magnificent beings who can go out of their way to help me.

For this reason, I smile every day when I wake up in the morning and fail to receive death news about my family members. I know I will lose my loved ones one day, but for this period, that they are alive, I know I have a BIG reason to be happy and thankful for the mysterious grace that keeps them alive.

May the Infinite Intelligence bless all your family members, and enlighten you about their importance in your life so that you love and be grateful for them.

May Peace of Mind be With You.

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8 Major Reasons Why Ego is the Enemy

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8 Major Reasons Why Ego is the Enemy

Ego is an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Although it has enabled many individuals to succeed, its side effects have made it the main cause of failure, hatred, separation, and all other negative factors. Here, I’ll enlighten you about the disadvantages of the ego by providing the eight major reasons why ego is the enemy.

1.Ego is Competitive

The ego makes you competitive because it wants you to be better than everyone else. It wants to feel important because it hates equality. This competitive mindset induced by the ego makes you less creative and impatient. Besides, it makes it difficult for you to collaborate with people to achieve a common goal.

2.Ego Prevents You From Focusing on the Process

It’s difficult to build your skills when you are egotistic because the ego focuses more on the end-goal than the process. It mostly cares about results, showing off, glory, and admiration, hence increasing your chances of failure.

3.Ego Prevents You From Making Friends

The ego prevents you from making friends because it makes you arrogant and self-centered. Few people love arrogant, and self-centered folks because they are prone to envy and hate. Furthermore, the ego prevents you from making friends because it loves dominating all conversations to prove that you know everything.

4.Ego makes you Overestimate Your Abilities

Ego makes you believe you can handle everything on your own hence preventing you from working with others. It also makes you unwilling to learn from other folks because it believes you know everything. Moreover, it eliminates the desire to improve your skills because it makes you think you are too skilled for improvement.

5.Ego Makes you Give up Easily

The ego focuses on the outcome and therefore makes you give up easily when you don’t get the desired outcome after a certain period. Moreover, it wants quick success and will thus make it difficult for you to embrace patience when success seems far.

6.Ego results in Poor Decision Making

The ego desires acknowledgment and acceptance. For this reason, it results in you making decisions that align with the need for glory and fame instead of making decisions that will help build your career or improve your skills. Besides this, it prevents you from asking for advice when making important decisions because it makes you excessively arrogant.

7.The Ego Makes You Judgmental

The ego loves judging people so that it feels better than them. It makes you focus on finding faults with other people so that you feel superior to them.

Judging is bad because it disconnects you from love hence preventing you from aligning with Infinite Intelligence, which is a loving power.

8.The Ego Leads to Envy

The ego makes you believe you are the only one who deserves progress hence making you envious when you see other people make progress.

Read ‘Why Ego is the Main Source of Anger and Envy’ for more details on how the ego causes envy.

Conclusions

That being said, you must learn to control your ego because its negative effects can lead to unhappiness and prevent you from making progress.

Thanks For Reading

Hope you enjoyed reading the major reasons that make ego the enemy. You are free to add more reasons why ego is the enemy in the comment box below.

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