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The Top 5 Disastrous Effects of Caring What Other People Say About You

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I once cared about other people’s opinions on what I should do, how I should dress, or where I must go. However, I immediately stopped caring when I realized the following catastrophic effects that caring about other people’s thoughts or opinions could have on an individual.

Caring about other people’s thoughts/opinions:-

  1. Eradicates self-confidence

You will never believe in yourself if you care what other people/say or think about you because not everybody will say something good about you.

  1. Leads to excessive worry

It’s easy for you to become a chronic worrier if you excessively care about people’s opinions. You will always worry whether people will approve whatever you are doing or how you look.

  1. Limits authenticity

Caring about other people’s opinions prevents you from being authentic. Authenticity occurs when an individual does the things he likes or when a person does what he knows makes him happy. Without authenticity, a person will never be truly happy.

  1. Can result in wrong decision making

The best decisions are often made when there is no outside influence on the decision-making process because we are the only persons who know what we have gone through, and what we really want in life. Besides this, we are the only ones who know the effects some decisions might have on us.

Caring what other people say can result in you making a wrong decision about your career, relationship life, or other fundamental areas of your life that require you to make a decision with minimal external influence.

  1. Results in conformity

Conformity occurs when a person’s behaviour aligns with socially accepted conventions. Conformity is an enemy to progress because it turns you into a follower instead of a leader. Also, apart from being a follower, conformity limits your creativity because it prevents you from thinking for yourself.

With this in mind, will you still care about other people’s opinions? Are you ready to suffer the consequences of caring about what other people say just because you want to conform to the society? For me, I will never ever care about other people’s opinions because I want to use my energy and time to bring a massive change to the people around me, and to the needy. Therefore, I have no time to waste, and I have no energy left in me to care about other people’s opinions.

Thank You for Reading. Have a nice day.

I better create my own system, or be enslaved by those of other men – William Blake

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  1. Rose

    February 13, 2018 at 11:13 am

    True caring about other people’s opinion is waste of time…..make up your own opinion

    • Isaac Wechuli

      February 13, 2018 at 12:25 pm

      Good one..we have to make our own opinions….and in case we listen to other people’s opinions we have to make sure that our actions are the products of our own conclusions.

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4 Main Challenges Dream Chasers Face

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It recently dawned on me that the few individuals who have the courage to chase their dreams often give up because of the challenges they face on the journey.

As a dream chaser, I have faced both small and large obstacles that made me realize how easy it is to give up on dream chasing. These hurdles made me realize that people who dreamt big and now live their dreams truly deserve them because they overcame the following TOP 4 CHALLENGES DREAM CHASERS face.

  1. Things Not Going As Expected

One major challenge I realized dream chasers face, is that things seldom go as they anticipated. When they start chasing their dreams, dream chasers often believe that everything will go as planned. However, during the journey, they realize that almost nothing goes according to their plans. Unexpected obstacles pop-up and their dreams take long to come true.

My research on people who live their dreams made me realize that these individuals also experienced this phenomenon. Most of them reveal that things never went their way for some time, but eventually, they got more than what they expected because they kept pushing themselves harder.

  1. The Lack of Money

Almost every dream requires capital for it to come to true. However, not every dreamer has the capital to actualize their dream. For this reason, many individuals are often forced to continuously borrow money from family and friends, and take odd jobs for them to fund their dreams.

  1. The Need to Let Go Anyone That Doesn’t Support Their Dreams

When they start chasing their dreams, many individuals often realize that they have to keep distance from people who don’t believe in achieving dreams.

Personally, I realized that I had to avoid the people – including friends and relatives – who don’t believe I will achieve my dreams because they always infect me with negative energy, and doubts that make me consider giving up. They usually demoralize me, and I always have to force myself to work whenever I associate with them. For this reason, I realized that I have to avoid them completely because chasing and achieving dreams requires positive energy.

Avoiding close friends and relatives for the sake of my dreams is very challenging, and initially, I felt sorry for doing that. However, it dawned on me that it’s the right thing to do because I am living my life, not theirs.

  1. Time

Many dreams/projects require a large investment of time though they often take long before they start producing financial returns. Therefore, dreamers always have to work for someone for them to pay their bills hence resulting in them having a small amount of time to work on their dreams despite the fact that actualizing dreams requires lots of time. Furthermore, within that small amount of time they have, they still have to allocate time for friends, family, exercise, and rest.

Some dreamers end up ignoring family, friends, and a healthy lifestyle so that they find ample time to work on their projects.

Concluding Remarks

Therefore, if you are planning to chase your dreams, be mentally prepared to face the above challenges.

Also, realize that dreams don’t come true easily, and those who achieve them deserve them because they transcended the above hurdles.  The only motivating factor is that these individuals are normal individuals like you and me, and IF THEY DID IT, WE CAN ALSO DO IT.

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What Proves God is Good And Willing to Help You?

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N/B – I use the terms, ‘God,’ ‘his,’ and ‘him’ because they are the most common words used in reference to THE CREATOR. 

I started questioning God after realizing that many individuals are going through difficulties. However, I never questioned his existence because creation is enough evidence that God exists. I only questioned his goodness, and willingness to help and guide us.

Sometimes I wonder if God is really good, loving, and caring because nothing proves so. Or do you have proof that God is good and caring? Our prayers are seldom answered, life is unfair, and most of the time we get what we don’t want even after praying, and believing in God.

Does God really give us what we want? Does he really care for us? If so, why can’t he make life smooth for us?

When bad things happen, we are always told to stay calm because it’s God’s will. It seems God forces his will on us, and what he wants will happen whether we like it or not.

What if God is an evil spirit who doesn’t give a freak about us? What if he enjoys seeing us suffering? What if he’s not interested in helping us achieve our dreams?

Recently, I realized that we always work for whatever we want. Nothing is given for free by any power. If you want inner peace, work on it. If you want riches, work hard, and if you want a stable relationship, work for it. God will not give you these things if you pray without working hard for them. You cannot pray hard, sleep all day, and expect blessings. The surest way to get blessings is to work for them.

With this in mind, what role does God play in our lives? Maybe he does nothing because he’s neither good nor bad. Maybe he just created the world and left us to deal with it in whatever way we can. Maybe he never interferes with our daily deeds, and that’s why he seldom answers our prayers.

Maybe we are the gods, and we have the power to overcome hardships and get whatever we want. Or maybe he does nothing because he knows we are powerful and intelligent enough to pass the tests of life.

Anyway, until today, I have never discovered something that proves God is good and willing to help us. And for the people who claim God helped them, could God have helped you if you didn’t do anything? Maybe you just helped yourself.

Don’t misunderstand me. I believe in God, and I know there are great benefits to those who can align with his power.  For this reason, I just want to know ‘Him’ more. I think I’m doubtful because I just don’t know how to make ‘Him’ help and guide me, or I don’t know how to establish a connection with ‘Him’.

Despite my doubts, I trust that God might be a good God, and I know the problem is that I don’t know how to align with ‘Him’.

I, therefore, want you to help me realize how I can establish a connection with ‘Him’, and make ‘Him’ help and guide me towards a prosperous life. I want ‘Him’ to answer my prayers, and help me make a change in the world. I need to help many poor folks because living near a slum/ghetto has made me realize that some people really suffer. I must help them but I know I can’t without the help of a Higher Power. I, therefore, need God’s assistance, and guidance. But then, does God really help us? Is The Creator interested in guiding me?

Do you believe God is good and willing to help you? If you do, explain in the comment box below why you think God is good, and how he’s helped you.

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