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5 Harsh Truths I Have Learned About Life At Age 26

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At 26, I’ve learned many harsh truths I wish my younger-self knew. I believe I must share with you 5 of these truths.

  1. Not Everything Goes According to Our Plans

If you are in your 20s I believe you’ve already realized that not everything goes according to your plans.  I trust that there are many times you’ve planned something only to get the opposite of what you’ve planned.

You must not stop planning because of this phenomenon. Instead, keep planning, but know that sometimes things might not happen according to your plans. And when things don’t go as you planned, just remember that everything happens for the good for those who trust life.

  1. Romantic Relationships in Your 20s Can Be a Waste of Time

Most of the romantic relationships you’ll establish in your 20s will waste your time and resources. I sometimes regret focusing too much on romantic relationships in my early 20s because I gained nothing from them. I wish I focused on my dreams instead of wasting my precious time on stupid relationships.

These relationships mostly lead to emotional pain and stress, and sometimes you might invest so much in a person you won’t marry. For this reason, I believe that you’ll be better off if you invest your energy, time, and financial resources in your dream rather than a relationship.

  1. Seasons Change

Nothing is constant. Things are always changing. You might be financially stable today, but end up extremely broke at the end of the year. Conversely, you might be broke today but end up with more than enough money tomorrow.

The biggest mistake we make is believing that our present conditions will last forever. For instance, when faced with hardships, we often succumb to depression because we think that the hardships will last forever. Little do we know that nothing is permanent.

You’ll attain a constant state of inner peace if you realize that things are always changing because, when you are in good times you won’t worry about things changing, and when in difficult times, you’ll know that good days are coming.

‘The seasons change and the summer will become winter. There are days when crops are greatly harvested and days when the seasons are too rough to plant.’ – EmpowerThyself

  1. Most of Your Friends Are Fake

Three years after completing my high school education, I realized that most of my friends were fake. Many people, including those I believed were true friends stopped associating with me because I was broke. I tried to bond with them but my efforts were futile.

Moreover, I realized that some of my friends felt bad when they believed I was making progress, and they felt good when I was in difficult situations. For this reason, I have less than 5 friends today. I decided to not waste my time on making friends because most of them are useless.

  1. Follow Your Dreams as Soon as Possible if You Want to Live the Life of Your Dreams

Earlier this year, I almost gave up on my dreams after it dawned on me that many people who live their wildest dreams started chasing them at a very early age. For instance, most actors started acting at an early age, and most musicians started chasing their dreams when they were teenagers.

I, therefore, thought it was too late for me because I started chasing my dreams at age 25. However, I now have faith because I realized a number of successful people who managed to live their dreams despite chasing them later in life.

It’s never too late to follow your dreams, but it’s hard to follow them when you have bills to pay and children to care. Those who have an advantage are those who start following their dreams at a young age because they have few responsibilities.

Therefore, the earlier the better. If you want to do something, start doing it now. Don’t postpone it because the older you get, the tougher it becomes to follow your dreams.

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  1. [email protected]

    June 15, 2018 at 6:46 pm

    I’m not so sure that your truths are that universal. But, that is the main truth you need to learn- what works for you- works for you. It may not work for another, but that’s perfectly ok, since you ARE unique.

  2. Alice Gerard

    June 16, 2018 at 12:01 am

    I like your truths, especially about things not going according to plan and seasons changing. Seasons do change and people change and it’s all a good thing. Also, things not going according to plan means that there could be something better waiting out there, that you never planned because you didn’t know about it. That is certainly true for me. I became a master gardener! It was not part of my plans at all. It just happened and I am happy for it. The one thing that I don’t really agree with is about fake friends. I have been fortunate enough to make some real, true, and lifelong friends. I’ve met up with fake friends, too, but I really don’t think that they are in the majority (at least, I hope not.)

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 4:46 am

      Good point. ‘things not going according to plan means that there could be something better.’ so inspiring

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 4:50 am

      I knew many people will disagree with the point, ‘most of your friends are fake.’ by the way I have truest friends too, but they are not as many as the fake friends.
      This point came from the fact that many friends disappeared when i became broke 8 years ago. Also, some felt bad when they realized that I was going my own way.
      My dad also experienced the same thing when he retired. He had many friends when he used to work. However, he was left with few friends after he retired.

  3. Alan Maiccon

    June 16, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    “Most of your friends are fake.”

    It is all about how we see the world, if we look at the true we will find the truth, if we look at the false we will find the false. It’s all inside us. Make fewer friends on social networks, and say no more the word ‘no’. Only when we are in control of our life do we become safer to find what is true and lasting.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 7:09 pm

      True, Mr.Alan, I agree its all about how we see the world.
      However, a fake person is fake regardless of your perception towards him.
      My definition of a fake friend is an unsupportive, and jealous friend. a friend who backbites you, and is with you just because of your social or financial position.

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The Most Effective Gratitude Formula

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The Most Effective Gratitude Formula

I embraced gratitude after reading that gratitude is beneficial for one’s mental and spiritual health. However, I never experienced the benefits of gratitude even after practicing it for a while.

It then dawned on me that I used the wrong gratitude formula after reading Joe Vitale’s book, The Secret Prayer. In the book, Joe Vitale provides an amazing gratitude formula that enabled me to experience all the benefits of gratitude.

According to Joe Vitale, we must practice gratitude by being thankful for all the small things in our lives. He thus provided the following example of a gratitude prayer for a small pottery bowl:

‘Thank you, bowl, for being in my life and for being present in this corner of my desk to brighten and beautify this corner of my life. I am so deeply appreciative of your rich red, which reminds me of manifestation and the root chakra. I appreciate your red color, beautiful little pottery bowl. Thank you for reminding me how connected to the earth we are as I think about the clay, which the potter utilized to mold and shape you, beautiful pottery bowl (Joe Vitale, The Secret Prayer).’

This gratitude prayer reminded me about the many small things that I took for granted even though they helped me in my daily life. For this reason, I created gratitude prayers for my laptop, spoon, chair, table, cup, shoes, bed, mattress, and every small thing I had.

For instance, I thanked my laptop for enabling me to conduct internet research and post articles. Primarily, I thanked it for enabling me to make money from home. Besides this, I thanked my mattress for enabling me to sleep comfortably, and for reminding me that some people sleep on a cold floor.

The gratitude prayers for my laptop, mattress and all other small things made me realize that I always take my blessings for granted. I realized how foolish I was not to notice that I am blessed with the little things I need to live a comfortable life.

You must also try this gratitude formula and you’ll be amazed by how it will make you a positive and happy person. Create a gratitude prayer for everything that makes you happy or comfortable.  By doing this, you’ll realize that you are always blessed even in hard times because you never lack the small but important things. You seldom lack food to eat, clothes to wear, a bed to sleep, a phone to communicate with your loved ones, and many other things.

Peace be with you.

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7 Things We Must Stop Doing If We Want to be Happy

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We all want to be happy because happiness is a wonderful emotion. However, we seldom find happiness because we constantly do things that steal our happiness. Some people are conscious of these things, while most of us aren’t.

This article strives to increase your happiness levels by listing the seven major things we must stop doing if we want to be happier.

1.Living Up to the Society’s Expectations

We love living up to the society’s expectations, and we thus become unhappy when we are in a position that prevents us from aligning with what the society wants. Besides, living up to the society’s expectations makes us unhappy because it prevents us from being authentic.

2.Overanalyzing the Future

Overanalyzing the future by trying to pinpoint all possibilities steals our happiness because it results in anxiety. It makes us constantly worry about the things that can go wrong, even when they are beyond our control.

3.Wanting What Others Have

Most of us are addicted to wanting what celebrities, politicians and our Facebook friends have. We think we’ll live happier lives if we obtain what these folks have. Little do we know that wanting what others have causes unhappiness because it results in envy and makes us feel inadequate. 

4.Watching the News

The News makes us over-focus on the negative part of life by showing us how other people are suffering, and it usually results in us worrying about things that are beyond our circle of influence.

5.Forcing People to Behave the Way We Want

We become frustrated when we force people to behave the way we want because we can’t control their environment, thoughts, and everything that affects their behavior. I stopped forcing my friends and siblings to behave the way I want, and I strived to accept their behavior after realizing that my efforts often resulted in anger and disappointment, which eventually made me unhappy.

6.Identifying With Our Material Possessions

Identifying our worth with our material possessions leads to sadness when we lose them. Moreover, it results in us constantly worrying about losing our possessions and how we’ll replace them.

7.Holding Grudges

‘Anger, resentment, and hatred are poisons that you drink, and you expect somebody else to die.’ –Sadhguru, Indian Mystic

Holding a grudge against someone makes us unhappy because it leads to negative emotions such as anger, hate, jealousy, and resentment. Furthermore, it makes us dwell on bad feelings or the events that led to the grudge. Also, it prevents us from enjoying the present moment by making us focus on how we’ll get back at those who wronged us.

Conclusion

The universe provided us with everything we need to be happy. However, we sabotage our happiness by doing the above things. We must, therefore, stop doing them if we want to be happy.

THE END

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