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5 Harsh Truths I Have Learned About Life At Age 26

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At 26, I have learned many harsh truths about life that I wish my younger-self knew. I believe I must share with you 5 of these truths because I trust that it’s necessary for you to know them.

  1. Not Everything Goes According to Our Plans

If you are in your 20s I believe you have realized that not everything goes according to your plans.  I trust that there are many times you’ve planned something only to get the opposite of what you’ve planned.

As human beings, we love planning for the future because it gives us peace and makes us feel in control. However, most of the time many things happen that we had not planned for, because there is a more POWERFUL FORCE that controls life.

Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it’s the Lord’s purpose that prevails.’ – Proverbs 19:21 (The Christian Bible).

Nevertheless, you must not stop planning because of this phenomenon. Instead, keep planning, but know that sometimes things might not happen according to your plans.

When things don’t go as you planned, just remember that everything happens for the good for those who trust life.

  1. Romantic Relationships in Your 20s Can Be a Waste of Time

Most of the romantic relationships you will establish in your 20s will waste your time and resources. I sometimes regret focusing too much on romantic relationships in my early 20s because I gained nothing from them. I wish I focused on my dreams instead of wasting my precious time on stupid relationships.

These relationships mostly lead to emotional pain and stress, and sometimes you might invest so much in a person you will not marry. For this reason, I believe that you’ll be better off if you invest your energy, time, and financial resources in your dream rather than a relationship.

  1. Seasons Change

Nothing is constant. Things are always changing. You might be financially stable today, but end up extremely broke at the end of the year. Conversely, you might be broke today but end up with more than enough money tomorrow.

The biggest mistake we make is believing that our present conditions will last forever. For instance, when faced with hardships, we often succumb to depression because we think that they will last forever. Little do we know that things are always changing, and nothing is permanent.

You will attain a constant state of inner peace if you realize that things are always changing because, when you are in good times you won’t worry about things changing, and when in difficult moments, you will know that good days are coming.

‘The seasons change and the summer will become winter. There are days when crops are greatly harvested and days when the seasons are too rough to plant.’ – EmpowerThyself

  1. Most of Your Friends Are Fake

Three years after completing my high school education, I realized that most of my friends were fake. Many people, including those I believed, were true friends, stopped associating with me because I was broke. I tried to bond with them but my efforts were futile.

Besides this, I also realized that some of my friends felt bad whenever they believed I was making progress, and they felt good when I was in difficult situations. For this reason, I have less than 5 friends today. I decided to not waste my time on making friends because most of them are useless.

  1. Follow Your Dreams as Soon as Possible if You Want to Live the Life of Your Dreams

Earlier this year, I almost gave up on my dreams after it dawned on me that many people who live their wildest dreams started chasing them at a very early age. For instance, most actors started acting at an early age, and most musicians started chasing their dreams when they were teenagers.

I, therefore, thought it was too late for me because I started chasing my dreams at 25. However, I now have faith because I realized a number of successful people who managed to live their dreams despite chasing them later in life.

It’s never too late to follow your dreams, but it’s hard to follow them when you have bills to pay and children to care. Those who have an advantage are those who start following their dreams at their teenage ages or in their early 20s because they have few responsibilities.

Therefore, the earlier the better. If you want to something, start doing it now. Don’t postpone it because the older you get, the tougher it becomes to follow your dreams.

Life is a learning process, and sometimes you might learn some things when you are too late. It’s therefore good for us to inform each other of the harsh truths we have learned about life so that we avoid making mistakes.  I believe that, besides these truths, there are many more truths you have learned about life. You are free to share them in the comment box below.

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  1. RAAckerman@Cerebrations.biz

    June 15, 2018 at 6:46 pm

    I’m not so sure that your truths are that universal. But, that is the main truth you need to learn- what works for you- works for you. It may not work for another, but that’s perfectly ok, since you ARE unique.

  2. Alice Gerard

    June 16, 2018 at 12:01 am

    I like your truths, especially about things not going according to plan and seasons changing. Seasons do change and people change and it’s all a good thing. Also, things not going according to plan means that there could be something better waiting out there, that you never planned because you didn’t know about it. That is certainly true for me. I became a master gardener! It was not part of my plans at all. It just happened and I am happy for it. The one thing that I don’t really agree with is about fake friends. I have been fortunate enough to make some real, true, and lifelong friends. I’ve met up with fake friends, too, but I really don’t think that they are in the majority (at least, I hope not.)

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 4:46 am

      Good point. ‘things not going according to plan means that there could be something better.’ so inspiring

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 4:50 am

      I knew many people will disagree with the point, ‘most of your friends are fake.’ by the way I have truest friends too, but they are not as many as the fake friends.
      This point came from the fact that many friends disappeared when i became broke 8 years ago. Also, some felt bad when they realized that I was going my own way.
      My dad also experienced the same thing when he retired. He had many friends when he used to work. However, he was left with few friends after he retired.

  3. Alan Maiccon

    June 16, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    “Most of your friends are fake.”

    It is all about how we see the world, if we look at the true we will find the truth, if we look at the false we will find the false. It’s all inside us. Make fewer friends on social networks, and say no more the word ‘no’. Only when we are in control of our life do we become safer to find what is true and lasting.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 7:09 pm

      True, Mr.Alan, I agree its all about how we see the world.
      However, a fake person is fake regardless of your perception towards him.
      My definition of a fake friend is an unsupportive, and jealous friend. a friend who backbites you, and is with you just because of your social or financial position.

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The One Thing That Can Make You Avoid Distractions

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In the last four weeks, I almost failed to effectively dedicate my time and effort to blogging because of distractions. My main source of distraction was my friends who constantly invited me to accompany them to parties, watching movies and many other fun activities. These distractions resulted in me wasting lots of time, but the good thing is that they made realize the importance of LEARNING TO SAY NO.

I have read many articles and watched many personal development videos that advise on the POWER OF LEARNING TO SAY NO. However, I never saw the importance of this ability until I entered the distraction period, which made me realize that I could have eliminated the distractions only if I LEARNED TO SAY NO.

It’s hard for us to SAY NO when our friends or family members invite us to events or activities which have no importance to our well-being or success. Deep down, we know that these activities are a waste of our time but we accept the invitations because we fear disappointing our loved ones.

The journey to success is a tough one, and you only succeed if you dedicate a large percentage of your time to working towards your goals. Therefore, it will be impossible for you to make it if you always accept all invitations. While you are wasting time with friends partying, or just hanging out, the future millionaires are working hard towards success. Moreover, the more time you waste, the more you delay your success, and you will never recover this time you wasted.

The good thing is that you can avoid distractions by learning to say NO to activities that don’t help you progress. It’s difficult to say NO, but you must learn this art if you want to make quick progress.

Remember, time is only your friend when you use it wisely, and it’s your worst enemy when you waste it. We only have one life. Therefore, we have one chance of succeeding. Besides this, time is always running, and success only comes if you use your time wisely. Never let people without goals or a mission waste your time. LEARN TO SAY NO to these folks, and they will eventually leave you alone because they will realize that you have bigger priorities.

However, realize that some people might get mad that you don’t have time for them. But remember, it’s your life, not theirs. If they want to waste their life, let them waste it and live a meaningless life. They will eventually understand why you ignored them when they SEE YOU AT THE TOP.  For this reason, the word NO must be your best friend, and always use it on people who want you to take part in activities that drift you away from your dreams/goals.

 ‘’The more I grow, the more I realize that people who get to the next level are the ones who say ‘NO’ more than say ‘YES.’ – Raghav Haran

‘It’s only by saying ‘NO’ that you can concentrate on things that are really important.’ – Steve Jobs

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6 Types Of Friends You Must Let Go Right Now If You Want To Follow Your Dreams

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A few years ago, I had friends in almost every city because I never cared about a person’s character before allowing him/her in my inner circle. All I cared about was if a person was an alcoholic or a weed smoker.

However, today, I choose friends based on whether a person will help me advance in the direction of my dreams, and for this reason, I often avoid friends that drain my energy and make me feel like I’m crazy to follow my dreams.

I took this major decision because I realized that friends have a major impact on an individual’s life, and keeping friends with certain characteristics might make me go in a direction I never wanted.

I analyzed the types of friends that could drag me down and prevent me from reaching my dreams, and I believe I must share them with you.

Here are 6 friends you must let go immediately if you want to follow your dreams.

  1. Criticizers

These types of friends criticize almost everything you do. They criticize your spouse, your clothes, decisions, or lifestyle. They never say anything positive about you because they mostly focus on your flaws.

You must avoid such friends because they will always make you doubt your abilities and strategies hence making it difficult for you to pursue your dreams. They will lower your self-esteem, which is a crucial element for dream chasers.

  1. Purposeless Friends

Purposeless friends don’t have a major goal in life, and for this reason, they will always lack something constructive to do. They will always perceive their free time as a time to party, gossip, and do useless activities that never add value to their lives. You must avoid purposeless folks at all costs because they will waste your time as they will always want you to take part in their purposeless activities whenever they think you are free.

  1. Spendthrift Friends

These types of friends are big spenders, and they are comfortable spending their money recklessly on unnecessary things. They seldom save their money because they always spend to the last penny. Avoid these friends because they will make it hard for you to save money and invest in your dreams as they will be happy with your company only when you spend like them: they will think you are a miser if you keep saving funds for emergencies or investment purposes.

  1. Friends Who Love Competing With You

These types of friends always check your progress, and they love outdoing you in everything. However, they become jealous or angry when you outdo them.

These friends will make you want to compete with them hence distracting you from fulfilling your destiny. They will infect you with the competitive energy which will result in you constantly assessing their progress and losing sight of what you are supposed to do for you to live the life of your dreams.

  1. Friends Who Love Arguing A lot

I had friends who loved arguing about sports, religion, relationships, and everything under the sun. I always entertained them because I also loved arguing. However, I started avoiding them when I realized that arguments are time wasting and useless because they added nothing to my life. Instead, they make friends angry at each other to the point of wanting to fight. With this in mind, you must advise your friends to stop arguing or ditch them if they can’t dump this behavior.

  1. Friends Your Father Warned You About

My dad used to warn me about my friends but I loved ignoring his precious advice. However, I knew he was right when some of my ‘friends’ did stupid actions in my dad’s presence. This phenomenon made me realize that parents always know the people who are truly your friends and those who aren’t. They know the difference between friends who will help you progress in life and those who won’t. I guess it’s because they have more experience in life.

Therefore, the next time your father warns you about certain friends, try to check if these friends are helping you advance towards the life of your dreams, and dump them for good if you realize they are USELESS.

Conclusion

With this in mind, always assess your close friends and check if they are helping you meet your biggest goals. Thank Life if you realize that all your friends are helping you progress quickly towards your ideal life. Treasure such friends and never ever destroy your relationship with them. Ask for forgiveness if you hurt them because they are one of the most precious assets you have on the journey to success. However, if you realize that your friends aren’t adding any value into your life, you must let go of them right now before it’s too late.

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