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5 Harsh Truths I Have Learned About Life At Age 26

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At 26, I’ve learned many harsh truths I wish my younger-self knew. I believe I must share with you 5 of these truths.

  1. Not Everything Goes According to Our Plans

If you are in your 20s I believe you’ve already realized that not everything goes according to your plans because you might be living in a different neighborhood from the one you planned, or studying at a university you disliked.

You must not stop planning because of this phenomena. Instead, keep planning, but know that sometimes things might not happen according to your plans. And when things don’t go as you planned, just remember that everything happens for the good for those who trust life.

  1. Romantic Relationships in Your 20s Can Be a Waste of Time

Most of the romantic relationships you’ll establish in your 20s will waste your time and resources. I sometimes regret focusing too much on romantic relationships in my early 20s because I gained nothing from them. I wish I focused on my dreams instead of wasting my precious time on stupid relationships.

These relationships mostly lead to emotional pain and stress, and sometimes you might invest so much in a person you won’t marry. For this reason, I believe you’ll be better off if you invest your energy, time, and financial resources in your dream rather than a relationship.

  1. Seasons Change

Nothing is constant. Things are always changing. You might be financially stable today, but end up extremely broke at the end of the year. Conversely, you might be broke today but end up with more than enough money tomorrow.

The biggest mistake we make is believing that our present conditions will last forever. For instance, when faced with hardships, we often succumb to depression because we think the hardships will last forever. Little do we know that nothing is permanent.

You’ll attain a constant state of inner peace if you realize that things are always changing because, when you are in good times you won’t worry about things changing, and when in difficult times, you’ll know that good days are coming.

‘The seasons change and the summer will become winter. There are days when crops are greatly harvested and days when the seasons are too rough to plant.’ – EmpowerThyself

  1. Most of Your Friends Are Fake

Three years after completing my high school education, I realized that most of my friends were fake. Many people, including those I believed were true friends stopped associating with me because I was broke. I tried to bond with them but my efforts were futile.

Moreover, I realized that some of my friends felt bad when they believed I was making progress, and felt good when I was in difficult situations. For this reason, I have less than 5 friends today. I decided to not waste my time on making friends because most of them are useless.

  1. Follow Your Dreams as Soon as Possible if You Want to Live the Life of Your Dreams

Earlier this year, I almost gave up on my dreams after it dawned on me that many people who live their wildest dreams started chasing them at a very early age. For instance, most actors started acting at an early age, and most musicians started chasing their dreams when they were teenagers.

I, therefore, thought it was too late for me because I started chasing my dreams at age 25. However, I now have faith because I realized a number of successful people who managed to live their dreams despite chasing them later in life.

It’s never too late to follow your dreams, but it’s hard to follow them when you have bills to pay and children to care. People who follow their dreams at a young age have the advantage because they have few responsibilities.

Therefore, the earlier the better. If you want to do something, start doing it now. Don’t postpone it because the older you get, the tougher it becomes to follow your dreams.

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  1. [email protected]

    June 15, 2018 at 6:46 pm

    I’m not so sure that your truths are that universal. But, that is the main truth you need to learn- what works for you- works for you. It may not work for another, but that’s perfectly ok, since you ARE unique.

  2. Alice Gerard

    June 16, 2018 at 12:01 am

    I like your truths, especially about things not going according to plan and seasons changing. Seasons do change and people change and it’s all a good thing. Also, things not going according to plan means that there could be something better waiting out there, that you never planned because you didn’t know about it. That is certainly true for me. I became a master gardener! It was not part of my plans at all. It just happened and I am happy for it. The one thing that I don’t really agree with is about fake friends. I have been fortunate enough to make some real, true, and lifelong friends. I’ve met up with fake friends, too, but I really don’t think that they are in the majority (at least, I hope not.)

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 4:46 am

      Good point. ‘things not going according to plan means that there could be something better.’ so inspiring

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 4:50 am

      I knew many people will disagree with the point, ‘most of your friends are fake.’ by the way I have truest friends too, but they are not as many as the fake friends.
      This point came from the fact that many friends disappeared when i became broke 8 years ago. Also, some felt bad when they realized that I was going my own way.
      My dad also experienced the same thing when he retired. He had many friends when he used to work. However, he was left with few friends after he retired.

  3. Alan Maiccon

    June 16, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    “Most of your friends are fake.”

    It is all about how we see the world, if we look at the true we will find the truth, if we look at the false we will find the false. It’s all inside us. Make fewer friends on social networks, and say no more the word ‘no’. Only when we are in control of our life do we become safer to find what is true and lasting.

    • Isaac Wechuli

      June 16, 2018 at 7:09 pm

      True, Mr.Alan, I agree its all about how we see the world.
      However, a fake person is fake regardless of your perception towards him.
      My definition of a fake friend is an unsupportive, and jealous friend. a friend who backbites you, and is with you just because of your social or financial position.

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The Truth About Following Your Dreams

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The Truth About Following Your Dreams

Motivational speakers love advising us to follow our dreams. They usually claim that dream chasing is easy since achieving our dreams only requires us to think positively, find what we love, visualize living the life of our dreams, and work hard. As well, they claim dream chasing is fun and adventurous.

I used to believe these ideas. However, I discarded them after chasing my blogging dreams for about two years and realizing that dream chasing is boring as I always force myself to work, and things seldom work out as I expect. Furthermore, I doubted these ideas after a large percentage of my blogger friends gave up on their blogging dream.

I started blogging in 2018 January, and I made friends with many aspiring bloggers. A year later, 98% of these folks gave up on blogging after experiencing the writer’s block and slow-traffic growth. 

These folks mainly gave up because they found the journey boring, tough, and scary, although they believed in the idea that dream chasing is fun and adventurous. This is a shocking truth many people realize when chasing their dreams. I was also shocked after realizing that the journey isn’t easy, but I decided to keep working and see what will happen. However, sometimes, I feel like deleting my blog.

As well, I usually become extremely anxious when I think about failing to achieve my blogging dreams despite working hard, and I often ask myself whether I’ll continue working on my blog in case I don’t achieve my blogging dream after ten years.

Chasing my blogging dream has thus enlightened me about the shocking truths of dream chasing. After blogging for a while, I noticed that following dreams doesn’t guarantee success, and I discovered that anxiety and doubt are part of the journey.

Anyway, besides these truths, you’ll realize more sad truths when you start following your dreams. For instance, you’ll discover that several people, including your closest folks, will doubt your ability to achieve your dreams.

Another sad truth you’ll realize is that you’ll have to be your own motivator because most people will encourage you to give up. The people who love you will encourage you to get a safe and secure job, and they’ll tell you that dream chasing is for the extraordinary.

The chances of achieving our dreams increase if we know such facts about dream chasing because we’ll prepare ourselves for them, and we won’t be shocked when we realize them. However, the chances are slim when we think it’s easy to chase and achieve dreams because we’ll expect the journey to be fun and adventurous, and we’ll quit after realizing its toughness.

In conclusion, never ever follow your dreams if you think dream chasing is easy because you’ll give up, and you’ll end up being depressed. Only follow them when you are ready to endure obstacles, discouragement, and work persistently despite not seeing progress.

I wish you the best.

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35 More Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Away – Part 2

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35 More Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Away – Part 2

Last week, I shared the 35 Harsh Realities You Need to Accept Right Now. Today I’ll share more harsh realities you have to accept.’

  1. ‘Life is hard, but compared to what?’
  2. ‘You’ll never make a difference if you are not different.’
  3. ‘You’ll never attain fulfillment if you work at a job you hate.’
  4. ‘Trusting the Creator eliminates anxiety and worry.
  5. ‘Happiness comes when you don’t chase it.’
  6. ‘Be happy when you are alive because you’ll be dead for a long period.’
  7. ‘You’ll never understand God completely even if you pray, meditate, and study spiritual books every second.’
  8. ‘Positive emotions and feelings come from within, while negative emotions and feelings come from without.’
  9. ‘Jealousy prevents happiness and peace of mind because it leads to competition, hatred, and anger,’
  10. ‘Envy arises when you think someone is happier than you.’
  11. ‘You only find happiness when you are content with yourself.’
  12. ‘There is no shortcut to anything worth having.’
  13. ‘Most of us will never live the life of our dreams because we lack courage.’
  14. ‘A billion dollars cannot afford what friendship can buy.’
  15. ‘No matter how much you plan, things can still go wrong.’
  16. ‘People won’t be impressed if you struggle to impress them.’
  17. ‘Nothing will change if you think the same thoughts every day.’
  18. ‘You can’t create a new personal reality if you don’t change your personality.’
  19. ‘Your content is not interesting if you have few views on your blog or vlog.
  20. ‘How you make money is more important than how much you make.’
  21. ‘If you act like everybody else, nothing special will happen to you.’
  22. ‘When someone betrays you, there is a 99% chance that he will do so again.’
  23. ‘If you become too generous, people will believe your good deeds are their rights.’
  24. ‘Stop talking about your problems. Few people care. Most people have many problems to care about.’
  25. ‘Life has never been and will never be fair.’
  26. ‘Every opinion has a gram of truth.’
  27. ‘Nature is the only reliable word of God.’
  28. ‘Nothing will change in your life if you do nothing and expect God to make the changes.’
  29. ‘You are one decision away from a totally different life.’
  30. ‘Never rely on religious leaders to provide you with enlightening spiritual knowledge. They only gain when you are spiritually dumb.’
  31. ‘You’ll seldom be joyful if your joy depends on what happens around you.’
  32. ‘Achieving big goals is difficult. These goals require years of persistent hard work and doing many things that you don’t like to do.’
  33. ‘The surest way to failure is trying to impress everybody.’
  34.  ‘Your past might screw up with the present if you don’t make peace with it.’
  35. ‘Your life is a reflection of your thoughts, decisions, and actions.

You are welcome to add more harsh realities in the comment box below.

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