Connect with us

Book Review

9 Fucking Lessons from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson

Published

on

Despite its title, Mark Manson’s book offers wonderful teachings that will make you re-examine your values, and start focusing on what truly matters. The book makes you realize the stupid and superficial values that have been guiding your life. Besides this, the book teaches the importance of embracing pain, failure, and all negative emotions you might experience.

A few months ago, I shared My top 13 favorite quotes from the book. Today, I will share with you 9 lessons I learned from this amazing book.

  1. Giving too Many Fucks, Fucks Up Your Life

Most of us give too many fucks: we care about some celebrity’s new car, our ex-boyfriend’s cute girl, having the latest footwear and many more trivial things. Little do we know that giving too many fucks has a detrimental effect on our mental health as it makes us focus on having unrealistic and fake things that we might never get, hence leading to depression and a low self-esteem.

  1. Choose the Things to Give a Fuck About

Human beings are wired to care about many things. However, if we want to progress, we must choose to only care about things that add value to our lives, and not give a fuck about useless things such as posting a perfect selfie on Facebook or having the best swag in town.

  1. Life is Fucking Full of Problems

Never expect to live a life of everlasting happiness because problems will never end. For example, if you are poor, you will have money problems, and if you become rich, you will experience money management problems. Problems never end, they just transform. Therefore, instead of wishing you never had problems, wish you had good problems.

  1. You Can Only Be Great by Realizing That You are Fucking Average

All folks who become great at anything do so because they know they are average, and for this reason, they continuously work on improvement. Their obsession with improvement then results in them becoming exceptional in whatever they do.

  1. Three Fucking Layers of Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is the conscious knowledge of the factors that create your personality, and it is critical to your success. According to Mark Manson, self-awareness is like an onion with the following three layers that you must peel.

  • Have a simple understanding of your emotions– Know what makes you feel happy or sad, and what discourages or encourages you.
  • Understand the root causes of your emotions. – Deeply analyze the main causes of your current feelings and emotions.
  • Understand your personal values – Check how you measure success or people’s self-worth.
  1. Let Go Your Fucking Idea of Who the Fuck You Are

You must let go the beliefs regarding your personality because when you don’t care about who you are, you will have the courage to face failure and grow. For instance, an entrepreneur who lets go the idea that he is an excellent businessman will not fear trying out other businesses and failing.

The ideas we have about ourselves often prevent us from doing what we are supposed to do for us to live the life of our dreams. Therefore, we must let go of them.

  1. You are Fucked If You Wait for Motivation Before You Take Action

You might never take action if you need motivation to take action because motivation occurs as a result of action. Action motivates you to take more action because it breeds progress. Therefore, always take action even when you feel uninspired and never wait for something to motivate you before you take action.

To support this point, Mark Manson narrates about a novelist who managed to write 72 novels, not because he was inspired but because he forced himself to write every day.

  1. Travel is Fucking Fantastic

Travel helps you realize that your cultural values are not necessarily the only guidelines on how to live because it exposes you to people who have different values but still live a good life. It, therefore, makes you re-examine your values, and create good values to which you can live by.

  1. You Will Fucking Die One Day

‘Death is the only thing we know with certainty.’ – Mark Manson

Despite the fact that we always avoid thinking about death, we must always remind ourselves that death is around the corner so that we stop chasing superficial and stupid things the system has designed for us. Being aware that we are heading towards death also makes us appreciate life and ask ourselves how people will benefit from our short presence on this earth.

THE END

Which fucking lesson did love the most?

You are welcome to join my facebook community: Unbounded Wisdom Community for insightful quotes and ideas.

 

Continue Reading
Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Book Review

7 Great Lessons From Byways to Blessedness By James Allen

Published

on

Although Byways to Blessedness was written many years ago, the book is still useful today. In the book, James Allen provides advice that enables readers to live a wonderful life. He encourages readers to find happiness by avoiding negative states of mind as they lead to suffering. Also, he enlightens readers on the importance of difficulties and solitude.

There are many lessons James Allen provides in the book, but here are the lessons that I loved the most.

  1. How You Begin Your Day Matters

How you begin your day matters because it determines how your day will be. Your day will be filled with joy if you begin it wisely and joyfully. However, you might have a bad day if you start it with a poor attitude. James Allen believes that you can have a wonderful day when you wake up early and have a walk in nature if possible. I support him, and I also believe that you can have a good day by beginning your day with gratitude and reading an inspirational quote.

  1. How to be Great

If you want to be great, you must sacrifice pride because pride can prevent you from doing the things that will make you great. Besides this, you must be willing to dedicate all your mind and energy on one thing, and you must avoid focusing on the outcome.

  1. The True Nature of Difficulty

According to James Allen, we must realize that difficulty exists in the mind, and this is why a difficult experience for a child might be easy to an adult.

James Allen also teaches that difficulty fosters growth and development because it forces us to exercise our intelligence and awaken our hidden powers.

  1. The Negative Effects of Resentfulness

Resentfulness causes suffering because it prevents you from attaining true enlightenment. Moreover, it hardens your heart and results in you failing to attain the blessings that were meant for you.

Furthermore, it makes you suffer because it causes a troubled mind and makes you constantly remember the bad things some people did to you.

  1. See No Evil And You’ll Free Yourself From Suffering and Sorrow

According to James Allen, you free yourself from suffering and sorrow when you stop judging people from your viewpoint of what’s right and wrong. When you realize that people have their personal viewpoints which make them do certain things and that everybody thinks that whatever he or she is doing is necessary for them.

  1. The Secret to Joy

James Allen believes that it’s possible to find abiding joy while here on earth because you are responsible for creating either joy or sorrow in your life. He also believes that one can find joy through caring for others and being selfless because selfishness results in suffering. Besides this, he teaches that one can find joy by avoiding the attachment to things and loving everyone.

  1. The Importance of Solitude

Solitude is necessary for your spiritual life as sleep is necessary for your body. Solitude is so important that lacking it can result in a spiritual break down. Solitude enables you to find the strength, wisdom, and knowledge needed to overcome life’s hardships. Also, it enables you to realize your true self and the hidden powers or possibilities within you.

 

Continue Reading

Book Review

8 Nuggets of Wisdom from the Four Agreements by Don Ruiz

Published

on

In his book, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, Don Ruiz, provides wonderful pieces of advice that will help you find freedom. The book is simple and enlightening, and all individuals in search of true happiness should read it.

Here are seven nuggets of wisdom I learned from the book.

  1. We Always Domesticate Our Children

According to Don Ruiz, children are domesticated the same way animals are domesticated. We domesticate them by punishing them when they go against our rules and rewarding them when they obey us. Therefore, they grow up with a certain belief and behavioral system that is forced upon them.

  1. Our Belief System Guides Our Thoughts And Actions

Each and every one of us has a set of beliefs that guide our thoughts and actions, and we always feel guilty whenever we think, or take actions that are against these beliefs. For instance, you always feel guilty when you steal because stealing is bad according to your belief system. However, a Viking felt good when he stole other people’s possessions because his set of beliefs allowed stealing.

  1. Why Your Beliefs Have the Power to Guide You

Your beliefs have the power to guide you because you believe they are true. You completely trust them and you have never taken your time to question their sensibility and check if they are taking you in the right direction.

  1. Our Biggest Fear is to Be Authentic

We avoid showing the world our true nature because our biggest fear is to be ourselves. We prefer living in accordance with the society’s rules because we fear that we might fail to fit in if we express what we really are. However, most people who achieve personal freedom and true success are always authentic. They never fear to be who they are and they audaciously go after what they truly want.

  1. Be Careful With Your Word

You must be careful with your word because it helps you express your intention and creative energy. It enables you to create anything you want in this world, and you can either use it to create a beautiful life or hell on earth.

Also, your word makes you a magician because you can use it to influence the lives of other people. For instance, your friend can start loving herself passionately if you constantly tell her that she is a wonderful being. Conversely, the same friend can dislike herself if you constantly tell her that she is an ugly loser.

  1. Don’t Take Things Personally

Taking things people say personally shows that you agree with what they say. Stop agreeing with everything people say about you because whatever people say comes from their personal viewpoint.  For this reason, it’s all about them, and not you.

Taking things personally will waste your time and energy because you’ll keep thinking why some people said something about you, and how you’ll get back at them. Therefore, by stopping to take things personally, you avoid negative emotions such as envy, and hate.

  1. Stop Making Assumptions

Most of us make assumptions that eventually hurt us. For instance, we love making assumptions about our friends, and relatives. We assume they know what hurts and what doesn’t hurt us, and therefore, we get offended when they do something that hurts us. Also, when some of us enter romantic relationships, we assume that we have a similar perception of a relationship with our spouses. For this reason, we get hurt when our spouses do something we assumed they wouldn’t do.

  1. Always Do Your Best

Do your best because by doing so you’ll avoid guilt and regret as you will love yourself, and you’ll be more fruitful. In the book, Don Ruiz defines doing your best as enjoying the action you take without expecting rewards. Therefore, you know you are doing your best when you are not working while thinking about payday.

 

 

 

 

Continue Reading

Do you want to AWAKEN and know what’s HIDDEN from you? Subscribe to get a free copy of my 14 page – book: Awaken from The Deep Sleep

Trending