9 Fucking Lessons from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson

Last Updated on June 20, 2021 by The Unbounded Thinker

Mark Manson’s book offers wonderful teachings that will make you re-examine your values and start focusing on what truly matters. The book makes you realize the stupid and superficial values that have been guiding your life. Besides this, the book teaches the importance of embracing pain, failure, and all negative emotions you might experience.

A few months ago, I shared My top 13 favorite quotes from the book. Today, I will share with you 9 lessons I learned from this amazing book.

1. Giving too Many Fucks, Fucks Up Your Life

Most of us give too many fucks: we care about some celebrity’s new car, our ex-boyfriend’s cute girl, having the latest footwear, and many more trivial things. Little do we know that giving too many fucks has a detrimental effect on our mental health as it makes us focus on things we can’t have.

2. Choose the Things to Give a Fuck About

We are wired to care about many things. However, if we want progress, we must choose to care about the things that add value to our lives. We must stop giving a fuck about useless things such as posting a perfect selfie on Facebook or having the best swag in town.

3. Life is Fucking Full of Problems

Never expect to live a life of everlasting happiness because problems will never end. For example, if you are poor, you will have money problems, and if you become rich, you will experience money management problems. Problems never end; they transform. Therefore, instead of wishing you never had problems, wish you had good problems.

4. You Can Only Be Great by Realizing That You are Fucking Average

All folks who became great realized that they are average, and for this reason, they continuously improved themselves. Their obsession with improvement made them exceptional in their fields.

5. The Three Fucking Layers of Self-Awareness

According to Mark Manson, self-awareness is like an onion with three layers that you must peel.

• Have a simple understanding of your emotions– Know what makes you happy or sad and what discourages or encourages you.
• Understand the root causes of your emotions. – Deeply analyze the leading causes of your current feelings and emotions.
• Understand your personal values – Check how you measure success or people’s self-worth.

6. Let Go Your Fucking Idea of Who the Fuck You Are

You must let go of the beliefs regarding your personality because when you don’t care about who you are, you won’t fear doing the things you must do to achieve your goals. For instance, you won’t fear taking risks and failing.

7. You are Fucked If You Wait for Motivation Before You Take Action

You might never take action if you need motivation to take action because motivation occurs due to action. Action motivates you to take more action because it breeds progress. Always take action, even when you feel uninspired. In other words, never wait for something to motivate you before you take action.

8. Travel is Fucking Fantastic

Travel helps you realize that your cultural values are not the only guidelines for living because it exposes you to people who have different values but still live a good life. It makes you re-examine your values and create good values.

9. You Will Fucking Die One Day

Death is the only thing we know with certainty.’ – Mark Manson

Although we avoid thinking about death, we must constantly remind ourselves that death is around the corner so that we stop chasing stupid things. Being aware that we are heading towards death also makes us appreciate life and ask ourselves how people will benefit from our short presence on this earth.

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